AIBU to not enjoy baby in the room with us?!

[poppymatilda]

Arrggghhhh, is it just us or are newborns generally so noisy? Ours will be 6 weeks old on Thursday and she is a nightmare to share a room with, squeaks, grunts, snorts etc. Even though she's settled into a decent feeding pattern every 3 hours and sleeps between (usually but not always 100% reliably) i don't really sleep because she constantly wakes me up with her noise. When I peer into her crib she's asleep through it all!
Does it settle down at any point? Currently counting down until she's 6 months and I can ship her next door to the nursery!

There was no way we were waiting 6 months. We got a breathing monitor and bundled her off to the nursery after 2. Bliss all round.

Could you move the crib to the end of the bed rather than at the side? Her noises might be more bearable a couple of metres away!

Earplugs. Saved my sanity. You still wake up as soon as they cry even a tiny bit but it blocks out all the snuffling and grunting.

My DC went into the nursery almost immediately. I just couldn't sleep listening to the snuffling and whimpering. The nursery was right next to our bedroom and with both doors open I felt they were close enough.

I was cosleeping at that age, and wore an earplug in my top ear (side sleeper). It was enough to block out the snuffles but I could still hear any louder noises or crying.

Agreed. Mine sounded like a farmyard. My 'next to me' crib very quickly became an 'at the far side of the room' crib

At 14 weeks we put her in her own room. I must say though, I think the farmyard sounds improved somewhere around 8 weeks.

Trying to sleep next to a newborn is like trying to sleep next to a hedgehog which has a snuffly cold and is also sleeping in a paper bag. That is all!

My babies just didnt sleep so i didn't have this problem but a friend of mine did. Her baby slept really well but the noise kept her awake so she and her husband split the night with one on the sofa/spare bed until the 3 am ish feed then they swapped. Meant each of them had half a night of broken sleep and half a night of quiet.

DH remembers the sounds fondly, I don’t remember a damn thing!

Yes I used earplugs. It's true you wake up when they cry but it blokes out the snuffling.
I used foam ones at that stage- not too sound blocking . If you oh is on duty you can usd silicone ones that block out everything!

I hear ya! I used a white noise machine, not so much to help the baby sleep, but me. Once I got used to it, it worked like a charm.

They are noisy little buggers! You do eventually get used to it and sleep through a lot more of it. That said, both of mine were in their own rooms by 4.5-5 months x

Just shove earplugs in. They block out snuffles but you can still hear crying.

Thanks all. I'm encouraged to hear it may get better after 8 weeks. I just can't believe she doesn't wake herself up!
OH and are currently splitting the night into 2 shifts to share feeds but it's feeling rather pointless given we both get disturbed the whole night anyway. I suggested we go into the spare room when the other person is on duty but OH is an old romantic and says he wants to be near us both - I reckon he might change his mind after another few weeks of all the noise!

In the meantime I reckon ear plugs are the answer, although feels like that defeats the object of having her in the room with us to reduce the SIDS risk?

This is the exact reason I moved my babies into their own rooms so early. DC1 at 4 weeks old and DC2 at 4 days old!

I moved mine out at six weeks. Everyone slept better after that. They are as noisy as hedgehogs.

Both mine were in their own room from 3 months.

We also have one of those breathing monitor things a PP has mentioned, came as part of our baby monitor. If I'm going to use ear plugs wonder if I should start using that, currently still in its box...

Oh and as a PP said... white noise. Ewan in our case. Definitely helped distract my ears from the snorting and grunting.

It’s thought that the sids reduction is due to the baby being able to hear your breathing, not the other way round - hence earplugs fine and better than putting them in a different room with a monitor.

My DD was also a noisy sleeper. She was in her own room - right next door with a baby monitor - at 3.5 weeks with the blessing of my health visitor.

Moved the first one to his own room at 6 weeks, he was so noisy and we were all disturbing each other. Second one wasn't so noisy, so he got moved after about 4 months.

I co-slept with my DD as it was just me and her. Had a very —expensive— good sleepyhead pod and it was just me so could be certain sure it was perfectly safe. I was always at ease with her near me and don’t sleep that great now she’s in her own room. She used to fall asleep holding my hand it was the sweetest thing! Now she’s a bossy toddler but we definitely have a stronger bond from co-sleeping. She barely cried and was always happy. Not an attachment parent hippie thing but mainly because I didn’t have room for a cot in my 1 bed flat so she went into her own room when we moved! I love the sounds she made as a baby I’m not sure why people wouldn’t want to be near or hear their small child

Gosh my son didn't make a sound! He has now started snoring at 18 months but its no where near as bad as his dad yet XD

This is the whole reason he was in his own room at 10 weeks. He reliably slept from 9-5.30/6 so I enjoyed the peace and quiet