My mil has informed me she is coming down (she lives 4 hrs away) for about 5 days over Xmas. She stays with my sil as we don't have a spare room. The issue is she has text me to say she wants to come over on Xmas eve then come back to ours on Xmas morning to give my children their presents. I don't want her here on Xmas eve when they go to bed or first thing on Xmas morninf they wake up as they are precious moments I want to enjoy without her in my face!
She can come in the afternoon of Xmas eve but not as they go to bed! and can come say 10am on Xmas morning but not the second I open my friggin eyes.!
My resentment stems from her waiting at my house when I hadn't even got back from the hospital after giving birth, staying over At my house and being there when I woke up for my first Mother's Day and staying at mine and waking up for my first 2 xmases with my daughters. (I had fertility and waited years to have them) Im the past she has driven over at 8am when we are still in bed and calls up the stairs waking us up.
She suffocates her daughter up north where she lives and drives to her house at 8am every morning 7 days a weeks to see to their horses even though they don't want her to and they beg her to come a bit later and she has ignored them for years! So her reputation proceeds her! I want to friggin scream. she is suffocating and disprespectful and ironically she left her children for another man and left their father to bring them up! How do I handle this backhanded suffocating woman! My husband believe it or not would defend her!l against me. If I confront her she goes whining to my husband and we have a massive row! 😡😡