I have a aunt who's lovely - really lovely but every single year for Xmas and birthdays without fail she'll ask me to give her "links for gift ideas" for the kids. Like, specific items with an amazon link.
Now - it's great that she's giving my kids gifts - I know some people's relatives couldn't give a toss, or buy ridiculous things that aren't appropriate...
BUT item then is sent directly to me, so I have to wait in, bunk off work for it, or go and get it from the post office.
FURTHERMORE she has never have ponied up for the gift bag so I'm wrapping the item too.
And coming up with ideas is a royal pain, my kids don't have ultra specific hobbies, so I'm grabbing at straws for things they largely won't be that fussed over when I've usually grabbed all the straws for my own gifts, and whilst I don't mind waiting in for parcels or whatever, having to wrap the bloody things really narks me off.
Am I essentially really ungrateful? I'd never post a gift that I'd not wrapped myself, and whilst I'll ask if people if there's anything in particular they'd like, I can pull a few ideas out all on my own. I think it's considerate and shows a bit of care and thought to try.
She's not a really elderly lady who's unsure what kids like (she's got kids and grandkids herself), she's not short of cash and in any case I've implored not to worry about gifting/just get an amazon voucher/fiver in an envelope but she insists on getting things "that they can unwrap" despite the fact that she's not the one doing the wrapping!
So am I colossally ungrateful or might I be a teeny bit reasonable in hoping not to have to do all the leg work for her?
On a side note I also get narked by Moonpig cards which are sent direct and aren't signed, if I pick out a nice personalised one I'll get it sent to me so I can at least sign the bloody thing. Just seems to lack care - bloody one click culture where any sort of effort is too much!