Am I being petty, or is he a CF?

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Between me and my long-term partner, I've always been the higher earner. On average I've spent approx. £200 on Christmas gifts for him each year. He spends around £50 on me, which mirrors our usual financial arrangements as he earns a quarter of my wage.

Cut to this year, he's been out of work for 10 months and not contributing to the mortgage or joint bills. I've also given him around £1500 over this time, to pay his mobile bill/ buy his family presents/ fund travel to job interviews, etc.

I've said that I don't expect him to buy me a gift for Christmas, but he said he wants to, so I made a suggestion for a new book I'd like. He then went on to say that he'd figured out what he would like as his present from me- a VR thing for his PlayStation. I've just looked it up and it's around £200.

Now, I know this is the usual budget, but I can't help but feel like he's taking the piss when things have been tight. So, AIBP, or is he a CF?

Why TheDudes it is a hobby like anything else, and it has expanded quite widely. I would rather that, than down the pub every night getting lathered.

We had one of those VR headsets for the PlayStation, pretty fun at first but the novelty wore off pretty quickly. We bought ours second hand and then sold it on when my husband got bored. Could second hand be an option? He'd still get the gift he wants but you'd pay a fraction of the price.

@thedudesmummy so you spend every moment of your time working/ cleaning/ cooking/ volunteering?? You don't have any time off?

He's a CF because if his attitude not because of his hobby

The target demographic for many many video games is adults.

Gaming is as valid a hobby as any other. I'm a 40 year old woman and between myself and teen dd we have a few different gaming consoles which we'll share. It's very easy to have gaming as a hobby and not be a lazy cheeky twat.

Someone spending all day doing any hobby and having their spouse do all the house work after a full day at work is a knob.

And I agree with pp about novelty wearing off. We bought a vive in last years Black Friday deal, lots of fun but not touched since March.