DD drinking at 11am? AIBU to think it's ludicrous?

[CharlieandHannah]

DD is in her second year of college. She drank last weekend and got drunk, then had a couple of drinks last night and is now drinking again today? She has 2 mates over this weekend, but AIBU to put a stop to this under my roof?

IMO the only occasions when it's acceptable to drink before noon are Christmas Day or if you just had a baby.

Why would you drink before noon if you just had a baby?

@backboiler I meant a glass of champagne when you've literally just pushed it out, not making a habit of drinking in the morning while looking after a newborn, haha

“IMO the only occasions when it's acceptable to drink before noon are Christmas Day or if you just had a baby”

Hahaha I never knew that was a thing....ive missed out on that one!

I did plenty of drinking at that age and younger, but at my parents house...in the morning...never. Probably one of the only countries in the world where you would get so many responses supporting this. That's why us Brits are world famous (and not in a good way) for our messy relationship with alcohol. It's totally normal to want to do that at 18, it's completely not normal to do so in your parents house. At your Halls of Residence, in a bar/club or round a mate's flat, fine.

So jealous of her day.

When your children are of drinking age and drink at home you should be pleased she is comfortable to be normal around you.So much better than a helicopter parent who over supervises and has children who have no self confidence and end up living at home forever

At that age I’d have been in the pub instead

If she can handle it, ye. Some people can, some people can't. If it was my dd, I'd be encouraging her to go for a run, eat something, shower etc, then indulge to her heart's content.
It's hard to tell though at that age, which ones will become drinkers and which won't.
It wouldn't bother me necessarily. I'd be more worried than bothered.

I find it really worrying how many people are normalising this behaviour. Brits have a massive alcohol problem. And part of it is this enabling and making light of behaviour that indicates unhealthy drinking patterns.
Anyone drinking vodka at 11 am is drinking in order to get drunk. If you are doing that at 18, you could be on a path to a drink problem. Binge drinking can kill. More women than ever die of alcohol related problems in UK. It's a huge problem and parents shouldn;t be brushing it off.

I agree, onestep!

I agree too onestep. It wasn't until I moved to another country that I realised what an unhealthy relationship with alcohol we have in the UK. It seems so normal to us, but it really isn't. The way our drinking habits are perceived outside the UK is actually quite shameful.

Anyone drinking vodka at 11 am is drinking in order to get drunk. If you are doing that at 18, you could be on a path to a drink problem.

Not if they're 18. Have you ever heard of "hair of the dog". They are just trying to get rid of their hangovers. Not saying that it is a good idea and I really wouldn't like it if my DD did this but stating that they are on the path to a drink problem is ridiculous.

It wasn't until I moved to another country that I realised what an unhealthy relationship with alcohol we have in the UK. It seems so normal to us, but it really isn't. The way our drinking habits are perceived outside the UK is actually quite shameful.

I'm guessing that you didn't move to Germany or Denmark if you think that we are the only ones with an "unhealthy relationship with alcohol". Considering the strict alcohol controls they have in other Northern European countries, my guess is that they would be no better if it wasn't so expensive.

dungeondragon15 My user name gives it away, no? Actually alcohol is very cheap in Spain, so nothing to do with that. People here tend to generally drink with food, rather than binge drinking to get wasted and very few young people get pissed around/with their families. The behaviour of the Brits coming here is frequently on the news; trashing bars, fighting, vomiting in the streets etc. So yeah, we do have a problem. Clearly we're not the only nation that do, but it's not a race to the bottom, is it?

dungeondragon15 My user name gives it away, no? Actually alcohol is very cheap in Spain, so nothing to do with that.

I wasn't referring to Spain when I said Northern European. By Northern European countries I was referring to Denmark, Finland, Iceland, Norway, Sweden etc. Alcohol there is really expensive and very strictly controlled and I am pretty sure that is because they don't have a healthy relationship with alcohol either. Germany doesn't have strict control but they drink more than us. It isn't just a UK problem.

I've drank at 11am a handful of times and I don't have a drink problem.

I rarely drink unless I'm having a night out or family get together. And I'd say my relationship with alcohol is probably better than those who drink a bottle of wine every night with dinner. That's not healthy to do but people often try and justify it because they're drinking with a meal and not getting drunk.

I wouldn't allow it. Gross.