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DD drinking at 11am? AIBU to think it's ludicrous?

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CharlieandHannah · 09/12/2018 11:50

DD is in her second year of college. She drank last weekend and got drunk, then had a couple of drinks last night and is now drinking again today? She has 2 mates over this weekend, but AIBU to put a stop to this under my roof?

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GunpowderGelatine · 09/12/2018 17:21

How is having a drink 'pulling shit'? Not like she's snorting cocaine off the toilet seat

elephantoverthehill · 09/12/2018 17:30

My Grandparents and Great Aunt and Uncle always had a glass of sherry at 11.00 on the weekend. At my first job interview we were offered similar by the Head Teacher at break time!

sizzledrizz · 09/12/2018 17:31

Haven't you ever had a lunch time drink? 11.50 wasn't exactly early morning. It's basically lunch time

Doghorsechicken · 09/12/2018 17:33

I think she’s fine if she’s drinking socially. I’d be concerned if she was drinking alone at that time in the morning.

GunpowderGelatine · 09/12/2018 17:35

How is she OP, are you not posting because you're holding her hair back over the loo Wink

avocadoincident · 09/12/2018 18:28

I think you should feel flattered and honoured that she's happy to hang out with her friends at your house. Many adults on their way to a works do or rugby/football match would be drinking at that time so I don't think anything is amiss here

MayFayner · 09/12/2018 18:30

How is having a drink 'pulling shit'?

No... it’s not the drinking as such but the fact that I wouldn’t be able to relax and have a normal Sunday knowing that DD + mates were drinking around the house and there was a potential for messing/ rowdiness.*

Thinking about it, DD has had friends here drinking during the day but it was before a festival so I knew they were heading off in an hour or two. Plus, she had told me beforehand that it was going to be happening.

*I do note that the OP’s DD and mates did not get messy or rowdy (that we know of 😂)

pipstartpip · 09/12/2018 19:03

I think 18-living-at-home is too young for that kind of senseless drinking, I really do. I wouldn't want it or condone it under my roof. Maybe at New Year or something or some exceptional circumstance.

Why are posters telling the parent to "get a grip" and be glad she's not in the gutter on drugs. They are the ones who are over-reacting!

Dungeondragon15 · 09/12/2018 19:11

My dd is that age and I wouldn't like it. I suppose that they are trying "hair of the dog" and as a one off it doesn't matter but make it clear when her friends have gone that it is not a good idea,

MiraculousMarinette · 09/12/2018 19:14

In my mind, there's absolutely no need for anyone, teen or adult, to be drinking at 11am.

But then my perspective is skewed by an alcoholic exH and I'm not a drinker myself.

IHaveBrilloHair · 09/12/2018 19:22

There's no need to do a lot of things, but they can be fun.

GunpowderGelatine · 09/12/2018 19:31

Senseless drinking? Having a vodka mixer in your PJs watching films Confused

Boswellox · 09/12/2018 19:37

As long as she doesn't lose the perception of being able to have fun without alcohol being involved, it will just be a stage she goes through that most people come out the other end of.

sj257 · 10/12/2018 17:30

I’ve never in my life drank in the morning

Ilikeknitting · 10/12/2018 17:32

Would you rather she drank in the park? Or maybe at the home of some guy she barely knows? She’s 18, it’s the time of life we make poor decisions. You either protect her from her poor decisions or you cast her out and hope nothing bad happens to her. Your call.

OneStepMoreFun · 10/12/2018 17:55

You're perfectly entitled to tell her you feel uneasy about them all starting on spirits so early in the morning, and that you don't want them doing this in your home. If they don't have a prioblem, they'll lounge around drinking tea and coffee instead. If they head straight out to the park or the pub, then I'd be concerned. That's very young to be drinking so much so soon after a big night out.

Heartofglass21 · 10/12/2018 18:06

Sounds like a great day. She's not swigging from a hidden bottle of vodka, she's having fun with her friends.

SushiRolll · 10/12/2018 18:13

Oh, come on. She's watching some films and having a few mixers in her pyjamas with friends. It really isn't a huge deal. I think it sounds like a great Sunday when you have no adult responsibilities. Let her be a teeanger. If she were on her own, drinking at 11am every day then I'd say worry, not this though.

When I was that age there used to be a club open near us until 10am so I wouldn't be getting in from the night before until around 11! Grin

grumiosmum · 10/12/2018 18:39

DS is 19, and although he is away at Uni, if he started drinking at that time when he's home for the holidays I would take a very firm line against it indeed.

Completely inappropriate.

(And on most threads about teenage drinking I'm the liberal one)

Rosenspants · 10/12/2018 18:55

Is drinking in the park or lying in a gutter somewhere inevitable if OP doesn’t want her DD to sit around drinking at home in the morning? I don’t think it’s necessarily so. DD and her mates sound fairly benign to me, and their behaviour seems quiet and fine, so I doubt there’s any great harm. But I wouldn’t like it either.

lauramaywharton · 10/12/2018 18:59

Don't anyone remember hair of the dog only thing that got my washing machine stomach to stop was another drink lol 😂 just as long as they pace themselves they should be fine I remember going to the pub when it opened at 10:30 in the morning and staying there till 1am the following morning. Oh to be young again with no children. Now I smell it and get drunk lol 😂 haven't drank in 6 years one hangover with a baby put me off for life.

Aridane · 10/12/2018 19:18

OP - YANBUn- your house, your rules

Mamaryllis · 10/12/2018 19:25

dd2 is 18 and in her second year of uni. When she is home for Christmas I will be offering her Buck’s Fizz at 9am with breakfast (as I will for the 15 and 17yo too) and we might even have a little something before noon, if we feel like it (not the 15 and 17yo).
I rarely drink.
When I was 18 I drank. A lot. I drank in my parents house with my friends, but never if my parents were home Grin

NotBeforeCoffee · 10/12/2018 21:06

Sounds like she’s an adult drinking socially and responsibly, I wouldn’t complain.
I was regularly downing neat vodka in the park with mates at age 14. That was completely normal where I grew up. I am now not an alcoholic, have a responsible job and a family. It’s not the end of the world

fificookie · 10/12/2018 21:38

kick in the arse she needs and you hon , your house your rules ,and her so called friends should have bloody manners too ti respect someone elses house

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