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DD drinking at 11am? AIBU to think it's ludicrous?

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CharlieandHannah · 09/12/2018 11:50

DD is in her second year of college. She drank last weekend and got drunk, then had a couple of drinks last night and is now drinking again today? She has 2 mates over this weekend, but AIBU to put a stop to this under my roof?

OP posts:
christmaschristmaschristmas · 09/12/2018 13:11

Maybe it is normal. But I wouldn't like it.

BitchQueen90 · 09/12/2018 13:16

At this time of year if I didn't have a DS/a job/adult responsibilities then I would be doing the same. It's the Christmas season, lighten up!

Original poster
CharlieandHannah · 09/12/2018 13:21

Move out for college? She started at 16? Do you mean uni?

She is going to uni next year.

They have all had a wash but are in pyjamas. No they are in her room but pop down for more ice, fruit juice, etc. and are watching films I think. She and friends are buying the alcohol, they are all staying tonight but are apparently not drinking as all getting bus to college tomorrow morning.

OP posts:
ApolloandDaphne · 09/12/2018 13:23

They sound quite sensible actually - drinking early, then stopping in the evening so they can all be up and out for college.

GunpowderGelatine · 09/12/2018 13:23

No different to what I used to do that age. I don't really drink any more as I've grown out of it and hangovers are hard with small kids I don't think it's a sign of anything other than being young and free! Although this is MN and having more than a thimble full of wine once a year is considered alcoholism so I suspect you'll get some pearl clutchers along telling you she needs professional help soon

ourkidmolly · 09/12/2018 13:27

Well it's not something I'd tolerate from an 18 year old a'level pupil but clearly I'm in the minority. It's not something I'd do or have done and I love a drink.

starzig · 09/12/2018 13:29

YABU. Were you never 18 OP? Give them a break.

BumbleBeee69 · 09/12/2018 13:29

not a chance I'd have 18 year olds drinking in my house at 11am. Get showered get dressed and go for a Bar lunch and have drinks there. Flowers

ScabbyBabby · 09/12/2018 13:31

She sounds like she is having a lovely time with her pals, they're all safe under your roof and attending college courses- I can't see an issue.

Princess1066 · 09/12/2018 13:45

Well I'm in the minority too - would never enable 18 year olds to drink at home in the day - and yes I like a drink too Hmm

Travisandthemonkey · 09/12/2018 13:47

Ah sorry op! I thought you meant she was a uni and living at home!

Lynne45 · 09/12/2018 13:50

I think it’s fine if it’s not a regular thing.
Pj day, watching films with a few drinks and they’re still going to college tomorrow? Can’t get worked up about it.

GunpowderGelatine · 09/12/2018 13:52

If you stopped them they'd only go out to drink, spending money in the pub and probably getting more drunk more quickly. I'm very much a 'better under my own roof' kind of person.

BigGreenOlives · 09/12/2018 13:52

I wouldn’t be happy. DD is in yr13 too, third child & we haven’t had this with any of our children. DH & I don’t drink mid-morning either (although we could as all dcs are close to adult).

whatswithtodaytoday · 09/12/2018 13:53

I remember waiting outside the pub for it to open on a Sunday morning at that age (90s, so probably 11am?). Slow day drinking was brilliant, until the hangovers made it unbearable! Definitely wasn't an alcoholic.

Pubs are now too expensive, so no wonder she's at home instead.

diddl · 09/12/2018 13:57

I think that it's really odd tbh.

It just seems like drinking for the sake of it.

Although I suppose it doesn't make sense that drinking in the evening is somehow more "acceptable".

When she got drunk last weekend-was that through drinking at home only?

FourRustedHorses · 09/12/2018 13:57

OP could you be a little jealous they are watching movies and having a drink when you cant?

I've poured half a pint of ale in a casserole. I had the other half this was around 11:30am

IHaveBrilloHair · 09/12/2018 14:02

I'd be fine with that, would probably want to join in!
Wouldn't though since I'm old and not cool etc.

ciderhouserules · 09/12/2018 14:09

OP - you can only stop her drinking 'under your roof', which means she would just up and go somewhere else to drink (park, pub, someone else's house)

She's 18. Let her find her own way.

(Talk about the dangers and effects of drinking at a time when she is sober, not hosting friends, and in a good mood...)Grin

BlaaBlaaBlaa · 09/12/2018 14:14

She sounds quite responsible for an 18 year old.
Some friends of mine had really strict parents when we were 18. Those were the ones that went completely off the rails at uni.

Bluntness100 · 09/12/2018 14:15

So she has two friends staying , they had a couple of drinks last night and were not drunk and are having a couple now but will stop so they are fine tomorrow, why do you have a problem with this, they aren't disturbing you, they buy their own booze, they are in her room, and they are hardly drunk and disorderly, why would you wish to put a stop to it.

Were you never 18?

SleepingStandingUp · 09/12/2018 15:05

So what exactly is your problem op?

ReanimatedSGB · 09/12/2018 17:04

Have you always objected to her enjoying herself, OP? You sound pretty miserable and officious - but then again, if you were really that miserable, would your DD be enjoying herself at home, or would she be desperate to get away from you and your catsbumface?

Maybe you're just having a bad day. Leave her and her mates alone, and have a nice cup of tea.

Wauden · 09/12/2018 17:08

I do think that 1100 is too early to start drinking alcohol.

MayFayner · 09/12/2018 17:13

I’d love to know how many posters on this thread actually have older teenagers living at home.

“Unclench” my arse (yes I know..)

DD is a similar age and I would go ballistic if she pulled this shit at 11am. No.

Do what you like when you move out and pay your own rent.

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