14 year old and parties

[geoffbunn123]

I am a single mum and just got asked one of the dreaded questions.
" Mum can I talk to you about a party?" by my 14 year old son.

Of course I am oh please no, when your 16 we can talk about it but.............

1. He could not have talked to me about it and arranged another story of staying at a friends because..........
2. If I know, I can pick him up and friends and make sure they all get back home safe.
3. I did it.
4. Its in a village, in a nice house with friends I like.
5. I will not be supplying alcohol, though he tells me they have a plan to buy something between them.
6. Being invited is HUGE for him.

Any considered advice greatly appreciated.

My son had a sip of champagne at our wedding. This weekend his mates came here. I know he didn't have alcohol lol

'I have to say I think there are some widely divergent views on here! And surely that means parents should be prepared for the worst!'

Er, no, it means some parents need to wake up to the fact that attitudes are shifting. Don't assume it's OK for kids to behave with alcohol the way you did any more than it's OK to smoke.

www.theguardian.com/society/2018/oct/10/young-people-drinking-alcohol-study-england

www.theguardian.com/society/2018/apr/23/time-please-is-drinking-becoming-as-socially-unacceptable-as-smoking