The post I said about being at uni I was saying this has happened to me a few years ago too. I was at uni 3 years ago living with a flat mate before I was pregnant. I said about a friend doing this to me to ask why this always happens to me. I probably worded it bad and didn't get my point across.
He owns his house, I rent mine.
My own father was abusive to myself, mother and siblings.
On the post I said I was single I was at the point because he breaks us up when it's too much for him and I "infuriate" him. Then he begs for me back.
I don't see him as a way to have babies. His benefit is he treats me good something and we have dates here and there and when we are together we get along very well and have a really good time until he all of a sudden wants to leave. I don't think he has another women because he's told me many times he'd straight up tell me and leave.
At the point I was at uni I was able to tell this friend to leave me alone and leave but they started the whole feeling down that Someone could do that to me. I'm not playing a victim it just ruined so much for me someone could do that. This has happened three times including my father to me.
I don't talk in real life about the abusive childhood out of embarrassment and the only two people I told claimed I was victim playing straight away even though they witness the police investigation and were coming to court with me. I'm too embarrassed to talk about the issues with my partner.
I have now told him he changes and fully commits or is nothing to anyone. Which normally leads to the whole going to court to get custody to scare me then I forgive him and let him do what he wants because I don't like or trust his family and her let them have the girls on his days rather than doing it himself. And he has a stepdad who insists on taking the girls to the toilet and forcing them into cuddles (could be innocent but I have no trust). So it's just a big mess that I'm stuck in.