To think pasta (quick meal) should be ready in 20 mins max.

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I'm feeling like such a fking bitch moaning about the incredible amount of time it is taking my dh to cook dinner.
At 6 he offered to cook the pasta. Which is my quick meal option for dd (put kettle on. Chop mushrooms. Cook pasta and fry mushrooms. Throw in some ham and Philadelphia. ) done in maximum 20 minutes.
Now 1hr and 15 minutes since offering it is almost done.
I wouldn't care but dd has to do to bed by 7:45. I've just given her desert first so that she has something. And avoids the puffing ice cream so close to bed

But seriously. This is really loading me off. Everything takes ages to cook. He buggers around. Sausages must be cooked slow and low (they take about 1.5 to 2 hours).
Shepherds pie needs another 1,5 hours in oven. Once it's all assembled.
Meal that should tak 30 mins take 2 hours.
I'm breastfeeding so letting him help out and it's unreasonable to moan as he has cooked dinner. He's amazing in that respect. But it takes soooo long.
There is no solution. I need to get back to cooking and then I won't be pissed about it! Just need to complain to someone / somewhere for sake of our marriage!!

I totally understand.

YANBU. I used to know someone like that, we'd go round for dinner and didn't get to eat until 10pm. Could you ask him to start making dinner earlier if its gonna take half a lifetime?

Good god, you have the patience of a saint. I think I would have gone out for a pizza by now! How old is DD? She must be starving

My OH can be like this. He always wants to cook but sometime it does take ages. He cant multi task with cooking so will prepare everything first then start to cook.

He could put meat in the oven then prepare veg while it's cooking but this seems beyond him

We are having this fight in my house. It’s not just that he takes ages to cook, it’s that the food takes ages to cook. We have a meal box delivered and I’m sick to the back teeth of it. Some meals take 45 minutes (which takes him over an hour) I don’t want to be doing that after a long day at work, and I’m pregnant and suffering with HG, so I don’t even want to eat this food.
He refuses to cancel it saying we’ll eat rubbish other wise. Well this is rubbish, but rubbish that takes an hour to make and needs a huge clean up after because of all the pots it uses. Grrr

Or, tell him this food should take so many minutes to cook. Stop fanning about and get on with it.

I'm breastfeeding so letting him help out and it's unreasonable to moan as he has cooked dinner. He's amazing in that respect.

This is the most depressing thing I’ve read in a while.

You’re ‘letting him help out’. He eats so why doesn’t he do equal cooking, why is he ‘helping?’

Additionally ‘helping out’ makes him ‘amazing.’ It really doesn’t. Particularly as he seems incapable of boiling pasta which takes ten minutes and has taken him an hour and a quarter.

He sounds a bit inept tbh. I bet he uses every pot and pan and dish in the house too.

'The missus is cooking tea for the little one. It's taken her fucking ages! Pasta should only take 15 mins but the inept cow has been out there for nearly an hour'

Completely different responses, obvs, and bog-standard mumsnet double standards.

Got to admit, men DO this! If they are shit at something, they know you will not let them do it again. (And end up doing everything.)

Cunts.

My DD's boyfriend isn't like this though - though they are still only mid 20's and no kids yet. He does 80% of the cooking though! Hopefully he will carry on in the future.

He's doing it badly so you don't ask again
It pissed me off when my 17yr old Dd does this.
Go in there, sort the dinner for one last time, then tell him to shape up or ship out.

Go in there, sort the dinner for one last time, then tell him to shape up or ship out.

Fucking hell, would you tell a man to dump his wife if she was too slow in the kitchen?

Words fail me

Oh For fuck's sake, people are only joking. Get a grip!

Do you have DD and a baby?

Oh god OP I feel your pain. It sounds like he doesn't understand that cooking teatime pasta for a small grumpy tired person that needs to go to bed, is not the same as making a slow cooked pasta dish for adults for a dinner party. To be fair he's probably must trying to make it "extra nice" whereas it does not need to be extra nice (particularly if said small person is going to apply most of it to the floor) it just needs to be reasonably tasty and quick!! Hopefully you and LO have been fed now and are no longer righteously hangry!

Have you eaten him in desperation?

It sounds like he doesn't understand that cooking teatime pasta for a small grumpy tired person that needs to go to bed

Why? He’s the dad? He shouldn’t be incapable of understanding basic parenting

Is this a joke. He takes 1.5 hours to cook a sausage

I suggest you go out and leave him to look after child and cook tomorrow and see if he’s got that amount of time to fuck around or he actually thinks! Fuck I better get this done.

My husband is exactly the same. I just do the cooking now. I don’t really mind and tbh I prefer to do it so I can see exactly what’s in what I’m eating (I’m a little weird about food ) but if he doesn’t happen to cook it take FOREVER and the amount of mess he generates is honestly unreal. Every surface covered in dirty dishes, every pan we own used. Wtf?? I try and be grateful but honestly it’s easier for me to do myself. And TBF to him there are plenty of things he does around the house that he does better than me so I’ve made my peace with his ineptitude in the kitchen

Should read “does happen to cook”

YANBU. But I don't think it's "amazing" that a man is cooking for his family. It's not "helping out". It's a basic part of being an adult and he needs to start being quicker when cooking family meals!

Sounds very annoying. My DH is he complete opposite. He thinks that he can sped cooking up by doing everything on a ferocious heat. Maximum possible temperature on every hob. So the pasta would boil over and the mushrooms and sausages would be incinerated. Then he’d claim there was something wrong with the hobs or that the mushrooms are duds.

Tbh if say anyone who take a 2 hours to cook a sausage is doing it on purpose to prove a point.

And yes it say that whatever way round it was or whether it was a gay or lesbian couple .

He's being a dick head making out he's doing you a favour while being deliberatly incompetent.