To think pasta (quick meal) should be ready in 20 mins max.

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I'm feeling like such a fking bitch moaning about the incredible amount of time it is taking my dh to cook dinner.
At 6 he offered to cook the pasta. Which is my quick meal option for dd (put kettle on. Chop mushrooms. Cook pasta and fry mushrooms. Throw in some ham and Philadelphia. ) done in maximum 20 minutes.
Now 1hr and 15 minutes since offering it is almost done.
I wouldn't care but dd has to do to bed by 7:45. I've just given her desert first so that she has something. And avoids the puffing ice cream so close to bed

But seriously. This is really loading me off. Everything takes ages to cook. He buggers around. Sausages must be cooked slow and low (they take about 1.5 to 2 hours).
Shepherds pie needs another 1,5 hours in oven. Once it's all assembled.
Meal that should tak 30 mins take 2 hours.
I'm breastfeeding so letting him help out and it's unreasonable to moan as he has cooked dinner. He's amazing in that respect. But it takes soooo long.
There is no solution. I need to get back to cooking and then I won't be pissed about it! Just need to complain to someone / somewhere for sake of our marriage!!

I've said it just has to be done and on table by 6:30. No excuses. If it can't happen then I'll do it.

Are you serious? What a threat....if you pretend to be incompetent I’ll do all the work. Way to go sister

@Gimmeesugar
Way to go. 'Sister'. Thanks for your input.

Nope, what you should say if dinner isn't ready at 6:30 I'm handing over both kids and going to get a bath.

I'm always amazed that families eat together on weeknights...my kids are ready for bed and in pjs by 7.

So are mine. We eat together 5:30-6:00. I couldn’t wait any later for my dinner!

Ha @CheshireChat yes. I like that idea a lot!!
We are aiming for 6:30 so we can eat together. I think it's a good thing to do as a family.

DS4 was born on 30th December, DH decided to cook a lovely NYE meal of steak and Boulanger potato or somesuch other potato option.

I am vegetarian, he made me a portobello mushroom with Stilton, it took him 3.5 hours and much wine.

I’d given birth approximately 36 hours earlier in a sixth of the time.

Ridiculous, now he cooks eggs, he has learned that people like to eat within the same timeframe of day as proposed meal.

I had a flatmate who could take two hours making herself a jacket potato and no-one else could near the cooker while this complex process was happening.

get near the cooker

God I feel your pain. I have no advice but I'm sorry you're getting a hard time from some.

I do like cooking some things "low and slow" - I simmer my bolognese for hours. But our dinner is at 7.30 and I plan my cooking times accordingly, that's not hard.

Can I say this? I'm a 58yr old bloke. My mum was a school cook for yonks. She, and a platoon of other women, natch, would crank out a thousand meals a day at a big comp. Hot as Hades in that kitchen. I was in awe, still am. So I learned to cook early, and have loved it ever since. To me it's a basic, nurturing loving thing, and never a chore. Pompous? But true. All I can say is it sort of saddens me that some blokes play silly buggers, yeah it takes practice of course, but its necessary daily care. Keeping a kid fed properly is such a deep visceral drive isn't it? I worked with a perfectly intelligent adult who said they'd never fried an egg, come round I said, bring a bottle, we'll fry eggs. People are odd. Apologies for droning!

@WWlOOlWW My husband "cooks" spag bol in 20 minutes too. It's an abomination lol. Spag bol needs at least an hour for the tomatoes to cook and incorporate the flavour of the stew and meat, and for the veg to soften. Not sure what your son is cooking but it's not spaghetti bolognaise.

My DH can take 90 mins to heat 4 food items in a microwave - and when he serves it is cold...

Strategic incompetence - it's real, and it hurts relationships...

Spag bol in 20 minutes is just wrong.

My husband is a pretty good cook but he actually did this last night! I had already made a huge vat of spag for the freezer the day before, so all he had to do was heat it up, boil some pasta, and stick the garlic bread (also made by me) in the airfrier,! Oh and grate some parmesan. Somehow this took forty minutes, I have no idea how. If he did it every time I would have to kill him.

ravioli and bought sauce should be on the plate in 10 minutes.

Even quicker out a tin - a lot cheaper and I doubt the nutritional content is much different.

If I get a wriggle on, I can have a Bolognese in the pot in 20 mins (this includes chopping / grating / softening veg, browning mince, adding wine and stock, passsata and herbs)

I wouldn't dream of serving it at this point tough. It needs to simmer for at least 2 hours. Or ideally is served the next day.