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I know what OH has got me for christmas....... what would you do!

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Foxy3131988 · 04/12/2018 17:26

Hi,

New here but not sure who I can tell this too or get advice as I dont want people to think I am being ungrateful! So obvs its christmas soon and I have found out what the OH has got me..... He said he took a risk getting this... which worried me and I then came across his list for what he has got me....

Its an electric toothbrush..... not a cheap one either. I dont know what to do because I feel really disappointed as I thought he knew me better than that... like is he trying to say something?? My teeth are fine by the way.... but seriously... an electric toothbrush...! I know my face will say it all when I open it in front of everyone... I am now dreading it and dont want to hurt his feelings.

What do I do!?

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PoutySprout · 04/12/2018 18:11

This is so good it’s worth posting twice.

eddielizzard · 04/12/2018 18:12

Urgh I feel your pain. I would have to resist the temptation to shove it where etc. I think really all you can do is plaster that smile on. And be grateful for a while. But then tell him next year to stick to your list.

I really really hope it's a decoy, and that he's playing a joke. Shit I'd be so upset. My dh has given me a couple of these sorts of things. I know how you feel.

PennyMordauntsLadyBrain · 04/12/2018 18:16

I do agree with other PP that once you go with an electric toothbrush you’ll wonder what you did without one, but Christ it’s so boring.

Christmas presents are supposed to be treats that you would love but couldn’t justify buying yourself. A toothbrush for someone who has given you a list though? He might as well have offered to pay for your tv license for the year.

LEMtheoriginal · 04/12/2018 18:17

Tell him FFS! Id be devastated if my dp hated a present - tell him before its a present.

Pebblesandfriends · 04/12/2018 18:20

Definitely get one for yourself this week so he has time to cancel the order! This is why I send my DH a link to what I want ( with correct size/ colour selected) so all he had to do is click ' buy'!

whitecatsandblackcats · 04/12/2018 18:23

I think he has an ulterior motive - HE wants to use the toothbrush but is buying it for you, then he'll go out and get extra toothbrush heads so he can use it too.

bringbackthestripes · 04/12/2018 18:27

Just keep it in the box, take it back after Christmas and get the money back or change it for something you do want

^this.
My poor DH, every time I got a gift I would leave it a couple of days before asking ‘did you keep the receipt?’ After a few years I was giving detailed names, price, the shop to get it from AND even the bar code number in one case and I STILL got the wrong gift.
He’s crap, he can’t help it, I used to be a little hurt/ upset but he does actually try really hard. These days I either order it myself and hand it over for him to wrap up or point it out whilst in the shop and say “that would be nice for my present” then wander away to look at something so he can dash to the till and buy it.
After 20 years of marriage a crappy Christmas gift isn’t anything to get upset over tbh it’s more an eye roll and ‘WTH were you thinking?’

Butterflycookie · 04/12/2018 18:30

Honestly, I would just tell him that you know what he’s getting you and that you’re sorry you don’t like it. And if he can get you something else

explodingkittensexpansion · 04/12/2018 18:31

Just don't open the box and return it after Christmas. No fuss.

GetOffTheTableMabel · 04/12/2018 18:32

I’m another one who thinks you’ll love it but if you really, really don’t want it, Pebblesandfriends idea is genius - buy yourself one now!
Either way you end up with an excellent toothbrush.
Also, are you 100% positive that you don’t have a breath problem that he is subtly trying to help you solve?

DontCallMeCharlotte · 04/12/2018 18:33

Well you've got three weeks to practice your "delighted" reaction!

SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc · 04/12/2018 18:33

Dh knows better than to get me a practical present lol,hed definitely be wary of the consequences yanbu to not want it.

TheGirlWhoLived · 04/12/2018 18:33

I’d love an electric toothbrush but too of my list Is a glue gun though...

Ragwort · 04/12/2018 18:33

Yes actually, I would be very happy with an electric toothbrush and in fact am currently researching them on line to buy myself one . But I realise that my view doesn't actually help you.

But like others, I have been married a long time and we have agreed not to buy each other presents, even after 30 years I don't really get it 'right' when it comes to presents and I would much rather my DH had something he really liked and I also prefer to choose something for myself. Receiving presents is absolutely not a priority for me in a relationship. Is your DH generally kind and thoughtful, that's what is important.

PS: Do you already have an electric toothbrush, they really are a good idea.

Popc0rn · 04/12/2018 18:34

Do you have an electric toothbrush already?

AgathaF · 04/12/2018 18:36

Can you get yourself something else and then give it him to give you for Xmas, whilst enthusing about how much you love the new present?

EvaHarknessRose · 04/12/2018 18:36

Just chalk it up to experience and be more specific next time. Practice your loving grateful - but not too excited - face to save his embarrassment but ensure this doesn’t get repeated. And if he mentions the present again before christmas you could ask if he has kept the receipt! Seriously, I know how these things feel, I have been there, but if in the context of an otherwise good partnership, it won’t seem important when you look back. (You should have seen me frantically googling a good present a few days ago when dh started mumbling about what to get me and had ‘experience’ gifts on his mind, as that is what he wants - I put the website under his nose at midnight and said I have found these and I really like them but look there is only one pair left, will you get them for me? That is how specific I have learned to be after 14 years married).

BrendasUmbrella · 04/12/2018 18:40

Well you've got three weeks to practice your "delighted" reaction!

She also has three weeks to say, "Hey, life partner, I don't want a toothbrush for Christmas, please refer back to the list I gave you. Thanks."

Why sit there waiting for a disappointing present when one short conversation can get things back on track?

Pinkprincess1978 · 04/12/2018 18:42

Do you only buy each other one present? If so then yes I would be disappointed in that. We buy each other lots of presents and I have been given and electric toothbrush before and I loved it. But I did get lots of 'nice' presents too so a practical one was fine.

EdisonLightBulb · 04/12/2018 18:42

I must be a shit present buyer because I have bought all my immediate family electric toothbrushes at one birthday or another. Not their only present I hasten to add. All of them without fail have used the electric toothbrushes instead of a manual one ever since, so I don't think they were being polite.

I bought my own because no one bought me one!

Jent13c · 04/12/2018 18:43

I got a Kitchen Aid mixer and an Oral B toothbrush last year. Kitchen aid still in box and haven't shut up about the toothbrush since. Top of my list this year is a Waterpik!

BewareOfDragons · 04/12/2018 18:43

Just tell him you're looking forward to receiving something from your list. You don't like surprises, or 'practical' presents which aren't festive, especially in front of your family, so you definitely want something off your carefully thought of list.

delboysskinandblister · 04/12/2018 18:59

could you get 'him' some GHDs?

RhiWrites · 04/12/2018 18:59

If you choose your gift and it’s bought with family money, how is it in any way a gift?

The gift part is your partner using their imagination. I’d personally like a high end electric toothbrush (have asked for a water pick for xmas) but even if you don’t, why not say “ooh thanks” and use it. They are honestly great.

You can buy yourself a Lush product in the sakes if that’s what you’d have preferred.

MsLexic · 04/12/2018 19:00

Take it back to the shop without him knowing, and with the refund buy something nice and put it back in his cupboard. he he he

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