To want school to stop sending dc home?

[mollycoddlethem]

So DC in reception.
In the 12 ish weeks they have been there they have been sent home 4 times.
Then I get a pissy letter re their attendance.
The 4 reasons they have been sent home -

1. They were tired on one occasion. Not falling asleep, but just looked a bit tired and wanted to sit and look at books in the reading corner.
2. They had tummy ache. No temperature, no runny poo, no other symptoms. Mentioned twice their tummy hurt. They were fine when they got home and ate an entire school dinner before still being sent home.
3. Sickness bug (completely understand this one)
4. A cough. No temp, other symptoms. Just a cough and complaining about their cough.

In preschool they got sent home perhaps once over the year. Surely schools should not be sending kids home for a cough? Now I lose a days pay because I need to go and collect. I understand that they are very little, but after 2 years of being in preschool and coping with coughs, colds, snotty noses etc I’m sure that DC would have been able to manage another 2 hours at school with a cough. My child can be a bit of a wimp and to be honest if given sympathy they play on it. In the nicest possible way I find that telling them to man up is the best thing to do and to distract them.

Oh gosh, don’t think I would be brave enough to do a video!
Will definitely tell them that they were fine when we got home.
My relative even said to teacher “oh they haven’t been sick then?” And the teacher replied “no, but they might be if they keep coughing?!”
So they’re sending kids home on the off chance that they might cough so much they vomit?!

Hmmmm, the school also sent my 8 year old DS home earlier this term because he kept breaking wind and it was smelly . Those were the teachers words... nope, he needed the toilet surprisingly.

We're not dealing with the same school are we OP?

Just remembered, I once had a call from the nurse at DD2's secondary school because DD2 had been making retching sounds.

I spoke to DD2 on that occasion (she was about 13) and established that she had been given paracetamol for a headache and had managed to taste it as she swallowed. She didn't like it so wanted to come home. My response was "No. Have a glass of water and get back to class".

Funnily enough, I heard no more about it. DD2 was always rather a drama queen.

Ignore the attendance letters - they don't even have to be in school legally until the term they turn 5. You could take them out as much as you wanted to. Not that that's the issue here!

YABU.

Are 'they' twins or you don't want to disclose sex? It reads very strangely.

Although- to the point, they shouldn't be sent home as much.

Haha the breaking wind story sounds like something a child would get sent home for at our school.
It’s crazy.

You don't have to show the video in an 'oi you twit' way! (although I'd be tempted... )

DD once got sent home with 'a headache'. It was all the rage...they were all doing it, then skipping home.

We all complained, and suggested they stop falling for obvious cons!

Sounds like it was more the teacher though...I'd have a word expressing concerns over attendance, and make it clear you don't agree with them being sent home. That way if they complain about attendance record you've got an answer.

I said earlier in the thread.
Single child.
I don’t want to disclose sex as I think it’s pretty obvious/outing from the circumstances!
Have name changed as well so probably should have just gone with DD or DS in all honesty!

Yes OP, I was quite taken aback when I got the phone call. Funnily enough it was the same teacher who phoned today about DD

Oh 🙄

I’m afraid that your DC is playing their teacher like a fiddle, and with 29 other children to deal with s/he does not have the time to interrogate the situation as thoroughly as a parent would. Do not take DC to the party tonight and make it very clear to them that it’s because they’re so very poorly. They need a consequence for their shenanigans.

I had a couple of calls to say ds was poorly at school and to collect for minor reasons. Both times I asked to speak to him to see what was wrong and then spoke to the teacher and said he was ok to stay and they kept him in. If they insisted he come home for no good reason I would ask to speak to the head (never had to).

I would have a word with your son tbh about the fake ailments. He does sound a bit sickly though for a 4 yr old, tired, coughing, d and v all in the first term?

@ThanksItHasPockets, she won't be going. Instead she has to sit in a cold milking parlour while her dad finishes work when I take the rest of the DC.

They sent your ds home for farting blue arsed?

The neck click from previous post would bother me as a teacher if the child was complaining and said it hurt etc. Teachers can only go from what the children say regarding injuries like that and on first aid training are always told to cover our backs in this blame, sue culture. We could lose our jobs over that if someone claimed. I normally ring home and let the parent kmow (with a witness) and leave it in their court if they come or not. We are not nurses or doctors and would not know if a neck injury had occurred.

Colds/coughs are annoying as they spread like wildfire and can be dangerous to children with immune difficulties or other issues such as asthma etc. But there's nothing really that can be done...... they can't stay at home for the whole of a cold.

We send home for sickness/diahorrea/sometimes a REALLY raised temperature/allergic reactions/rashes etc. If they have a head injury we always call home. Same for if we suspect further treatment may be needed.

I would think your child is complaining quite a lot for the teacher to send home....bear in mind she has 29 other children to teach and this is difficult when 1child is taking up a lot of time. This is fair enough if they are actually unwell but I feel you need to speak to your child about being honest and not exaggerating to the teacher.

I’m not sure they it is my child asking to come home?
Child said they wanted to stay?
Apparently they were practising nativity lines, teacher heard them speak and said they sounded bunged up.
They coughed a bit too during the rehearsal and teacher said they needed to go home?
Child was making a Lego tower with friends and was happy to stay.
Teacher was worried if they coughed more then they may end up being sick and were snotty and bunged up and better off at home.
Child normally loves school so can’t see that they would want to come home.
On another note they ate their entire school dinner and pudding at lunch time, despite apparently being too unwell to be at school.

@Elfinablender they did that.

1. They were tired on one occasion. Not falling asleep, but just looked a bit tired and wanted to sit and look at books in the reading corner.

They sent your kid home because of this?! My child actually DID fall asleep in the reading corner. They left him there to snooze for the remainder of the afternoon and merely told me about it when I picked him up.

Agree with pp, you really need to speak to them and tell them you cannot miss any more work for a child who isn't ill and should be in school.

Sending a child home for varying is ridiculous. I wonder why the teacher didn't just suggest he could go to the toilet.

God, I'd be trying to squeak one out in class forevermore.

I meant sending child home for farting. Stupid autocorrect.

@Russell19 I went to check on her, she could move her neck etc she wasn't in pain. They used to phone and let you know then have you sign an accident form at the end of the day.

My ds went through a stage like this in early years at school. Constant phone calls because he felt sick, then once home would be right as rain and felt fine after a cold drink and would go on to eat lunch. I know his school is really warm, so it got to the stage where I told them to take his pullover off and give him his water bottle and call me back in half an hour if he was still the same and needed to come home. 9 times out of 10 he was fine to continue on with his day.