That DH is not in yet

[Sleeplessworries]

Spent the whole day at pub with work and still not back.

The OP said he always gets carried away when he drinks and loses track if time. Hence every time he goes out, she'll be on gender hooks and unable to relax. Because he is a rude, inconsiderate arsehole who cannot be trusted to go out and stick to what he agrees.

Gender hooks = tenter hooks.

8pm isn't early when you have been drinking all day? And 2.20am isn't 10.30pm is it?

I don’t think men are actually bothered in a vice versa situation. My DH is always asleep whenever I go out, and I’m not even back late. So clearly he can go to sleep without worrying about my welfare. Probably because he knows I won’t get pissed, mugged and left in a gutter. (Although the last 2 are a possibility I suppose)

When he goes out he’ll say it’ll be after x time but if he texts saying he’s leaving soon it really makes me worry if 2 hours later there is no sign. I have been known to drive out to look for him if he’s called very pissed to say there are no taxis so he’s going to walk home. I don’t think he has made a sensible decision when he’s been that pissed so it worries me.

I get annoyed but there is no divorce petition or call to the police! he doesn’t do it often. once every year or two maybe.

I’m more annoyed that he can go to sleep easily when I go out till late!!!

The OP said he always gets carried away when he drinks and loses track if time. Hence every time he goes out, she'll be on gender hooks and unable to relax.

Or, alternatively, she could use her prior experience and relax knowing he’ll come home after she’s asleep.

gender hooks

GENDER HOOKS?

@ThistlaAmore

I guess you didn't see my immediate second post with the correction????

Update. He was having an affair.

Oh OP, I'm so sorry 💐

I'm so sorry :(

How did you find out?

I let him carry on, trusting him. This behaviour went on. He was hooking up with a work colleague that did not mind he was married with a kid. Having an affair and sneaking around became second nature to him. It came out 5 years later. He was caught with his second secret family.
Moral to the story is that of something feels wrong, it probably is. Don't sweep it under the carpet and trivialise things.
Anyway, new beginnings now....

Sorry to hear that op but I'm glad you've been able to move on with your life now. You are so much better off without him.