To be curious about roles in your house...

[KM99]

After another post today re: men being involved in buying clothes for their DCs, I wondered how the typical child raising and house chores are managed in your house?

We are pretty evenly split. DH does take turns with laundry, tidying, house work type things and I often look after the car,do the garden etc. It's really important to us DS doesn't see certain "jobs" being assigned to gender.

To be fair I can have higher standards than DH with cleanliness, but he is a big tidying up person.

We've always been 50/50 on all childxare except when I was BF.

I honestly get abit annoyed at my friends who complain their DH's do nothing but then keep enabling them. I also found some of the comments on here about certain things not being "men's jobs" quite frustrating. How do we expect our kids to treat each other equally if we don't demonstrate it?

DH works FT. I work PT so I would say on a day to day basis I do more around the house. He picks it up at weekends though, generally washes the floors, hoovers and changes the beds. He does the 'outdoor' stuff eg: mowing the lawn, washing the cars etc.
I put the bins out though

I’m sure there must be a way, given single parent households and all that.

We both work 4 days a week to have a day each with our toddler. Pickups and drop offs are equal.

Chores are pretty equal but a bit gendered - e.g DH deals with the boiler but I pick up 95%of the toddler's clothing

It changes as our lives do. We're pretty equal on hoovering, tidying, cleaning, washing up, but I do more at weekends and he does more on weekday evenings. I tend to do the laundry simply because I am unreasonably cross if people don't follow my self imposed laundry routine. He generally does the food shopping these days, I used to do most of it but we seem to have swapped. I do all the admin, he does all the DIY. I do more of the shopping for things like clothes but not all of it. He drives and I don't so he does the things that require driving (very, very few things require driving when you live in a city, unfortunately, it's not the get out clause you'd think). He cooks actual meals much more than me but when it comes to snacks and cold meals I tend to do those. I think we're pretty even.

I work ft and do looks after the two preschool-age dc. He also runs the household, so to speak, and does the lion's share of the chores; but I run the finances. It was the other way round when I was on maternity leave with each, but I much prefer it this way!

My partner does all the school runs unless he is Ill as I struggle with crowds on the playground.

My partner cooks and I wash up but I will always cook the roasts.

My partner does any DIY round the house.

I do all the laundry and ironing,and housework. I deal with all finances and weekly shopping. I mostly do all the present shopping however partner will buy presents also.

We split doing the gardening.

My partner deals with anything mechanic with both our cars.

However we will help each other out all the time. My partner does hoover once a day and will do other things that are needed around the house.

Me and my partner are a team and we have no set tasks, it just happens to be this way and it's how we like and it works.

My husband tends to do more than me around the house.
A-he enjoys doing it
B-he has (to me) ridiculous standards of cleanliness and hygiene
C-he does it a lot quicker.

Everything else is 50/50. I was a stay at home mum with my first, he was a stay at home dad with our second.

Dh does more or less all the cooking, most supermarket shops and all the gardening.

I do all the laundry, all 'life admin' , most present shopping and anything remotely technical.

We split cleaning, ferrying dc to swimming lessons etc and school runs ( he does drop off, I do pick up as this fits with our work patterns) .

We never sat down and decided who should do what. We slipped into our roles and it seems to work for us.

Mine works full time, I’m currently a SAHM but am back to work in September. I do the tidying and most of the cleaning. He does all the laundry, cooks the kids evening meal, does any washing up not suitable for washing and some kitchen cleaning and tidying and we alternate bedtime routines.

We’re getting a cleaner when I go back to work. Considering a laundry service too.

Dp works 48 hour week. Plus his self employment of 3 ights a week.
I do everything.. But that's my choice. Its nevdr expected ever.. I like things done my way lol..
I have dinner nearly done for when he gets in.. We eat. He jumps in shower, I wash up etc. Then we bath baby. (he's covered in filth so can't do anything before shower)
On the nights he works. He has 50 min from getting in from day job., eat shower and leave..

If I need or want him to do anything I just mention it and he does it.
We. Like it this way. It works for us.

No kids. I work longer hours (about 50 p/w) whereas my partner works 25. However, she also has a number of additional commitments (volunteering and social). I do the bulk of the food shopping and cooking (maybe 75%) and probably a little more than half of the other domestic chores, although I create more mess in the first place.

DH does all the driving, anything to do with the car, the gardening, electrics, bills, cooking and meal planning. I do all housework, food shops and clothes shops. We share everything else. We both do morning routine with DS and bedtime. We both work FT as well

Dc are now adults.
I agreed to be a sham when youngest was born.
I do all housework, cooking and cleaning, windows, laundry put bins out the lot.
Did school runs, drs,dentists, parent teacher meetings, school plays, homework etc etc.
Dh works full time. Does all gardening and outside work.

We're probably evenly split, he does more housework than me but he always has (he's not good with mess, I can live with it)! I do a lot of the cooking and laundry because I work from home (childminder) so I can chuck a load on in the day and tumble dry it when the kids all sleep and the meals I make get used for lunch for mindees the next day so I prefer to make those. With childcare he does half or more of the usual when he's home but I tend to do more bedtimes and am disturbed more at night. I do more life admin, he does more DIY. It's swings and roundabouts here really 🤷

I get annoyed by the moaning too, or the simpering dh got when we went to softplay one weekend morning and he took DD in whilst I sat with a coffee and studied for 30mins, ridiculous. But then I'd have never got with somebody who didn't see it as equal work and dh fully appreciates how much I do as the 2hrs he's home whilst the kids are here in the evenings is enough for him!

I’m a SAHM, DH works long hours but from home so that makes it easier.
I do all childcare when he’s working. When he’s not working it’s split probably 60:40 to him (he likes to spend a lot of time with them when he’s not working).
The kitchen is his domain... he cooks, loads and unloads the dishwasher etc. I manage washing/drying and (rare) ironing. I probably do the majority of the cleaning (80:20) as I have more time, things like taking out the rubbish etc is split (basically whoever remembers does it!). I manage finances.

We both work full time but dh works from home more often than at work. He does 99% of the dropping off and picking up. He also does 99% of food related stuff - packed lunches, cooking dinner and food shopping.

He manages the financial stuff and the bins.

We both hoover, tidy etc. I tidy more though. He tends to hoover round stuff.

I do the laundry. Clean the bathrooms. Life admin like homework, school stuff, birthday invitations.

I suppose bits are gendered but I think we have a fair divide. I reckon dh actually does more than I do as he is physically in the house more than me

Fairly even split. Share cooking, DH does the washing up. Each do our own laundry. Dds do their own too but I'm the one that reminds them. DH does most of the finances but I do the life admin (dentists apts, birthday presents etc). If I were pushed I would say he does more than me. He is perfectly happy with the situation and doesn't feel hard done by.

Dh earns 95% of the money. Childcare is 50/50 when he's home. He does garden and garage.
I earn 5%. I do all childcare when he's at work and 50/50 otherwise. I do all the house stuff - cooking, cleaning, laundry, admin etc

Yes. We have confirmed to gender stereotypes, but it's because it makes practical sense. He earns 10x more per hour than me, and is shit at cleaning/cooking. It wouldn't make practical sense to split any other way.

We both work ft, me doing more hours in term time but at home in the holidays. Him working steadily throughout the year.

DH does a lot of the housework. He cooks most nights, loads the dishwasher most nights, does a couple of loads of washing a week (I do a couple of loads as well). He gets up with DD in the morning and gets her breakfast and does her lunchbox.

I do cm drop off and pick up every day, unless I've got parents evening in which case DH does it. I do bedtime most nights. I organise new clothes and buy any presents. I do everything to do with school, so parents evening, homework, paying for trips, etc.

We split days off for DD being ill depending who's busiest that particular day. Luckily DD is pretty healthy so this isn't a great concern.

We work out to have roughly the same amount of leisure time each month. It doesn't work out perfectly on a week by week basis but it evens out in a month.

DH is amazing but works 12 hours nights 6 days a week so I do all chores and childcare except Saturdays when we help each other. When he is home and not sleeping he is always doing something. He often stays up to take the children to school and always gets up to pick them up (3 different schools) and then offers to cook dinner.

We agreed that he would take on more hours as his overtime rate is worth double what I was earning hourly. We have 5 children so I have plenty to do as a SAHM.

Previously I had a more demanding job and he did the majority of the house chores.

Next year I will be retraining and we will split 50/50

I have to say that i quite like the roles as they are at present as there is no conflict and we are very clear in our roles. We didn’t really have conflict before but it makes it so much more complicated and we often looked at each other blankly when someone asked if the other had fed the dog.

hmm, i have severe anxiety and severe depression which impairs me a lot day to day. i work 25 hours a week and dh is 40 hours.

we split school run, cooking, daily chores (laundry, dishwasher, wiping surfaces in kitchen down nightly) equally.

i deal with school admin more as i have more time but on the 1.5 i dont work, i'm exhausted and overwhelmed but will get shopping in or something.

dh does more toilet cleaning and helping the little one with personal care like washing/dressing/ checking hands washed after toilet/seat left clean/checking worn underpants haven't been left somewhere daft. as i find this an anxiety attack trigger.

i'd say it was a 60/40 with dh doing more.

I do everything. Work, childcare, Animal care, housework, homework, after school clubs. You name it, I do it and yes I have a 'D'P

I earn 95% of our income and work five days from home. DH works 2 days but does at least two days on house/garden projects (we have big plans). I do all admin and paperwork and most of shopping. We split daily household tasks 50:50. I am not the sit about type so it suits me.

DH works away often so I'm home with DC, cats, dog, rabbits and a job. When he's away I get on with whatever needs doing, when he's home he does the same.

Our strengths are a little backwards compared to some families because I'm very practical and my Dad taught me how to do pretty much every job around the house and on the car, saying women should never need to depend on men. The DC know if they want a shelf putting up they come to me, they also know if they want killer roast potatoes they go to DH.

I'm SAHM so I do majority of housework but husband always helps out if sees something needs doing. He will often do washing up at weekend without been asked, put clothes away and put washing machine on. I tend to cook as I enjoy. I do majority of childcare and appointments (one child with sen) but he is very hands on dad and spends alot of time with them. I do all school runs, would be impossible for him as he is a teacher. I do alot of the stuff at home due to being one at home. When I worked it was more 50/50.