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To ask if you're going to your Christmas party?

88 replies

Ragevibration · 02/12/2018 22:17

I'm not.

I can't stand all but 4 people for the 38 hours I have to spend with them and would rather scrub my kitchen floor with a toothbrush. Please it's assigned seating (I thought it was a Christmas reward not a punishment!!!!)

Am gutted I am missing a free meal and bar though!

OP posts:
imgoingtoloosemymind · 02/12/2018 22:18

Yanbu
I spend enough time looking at the fuckers faces, I don't want to do it in my free time also 🙄

Crimebustersofthesea · 02/12/2018 22:20

Didn't go to the main one but my small team have arranged a separate one that the company will pay £40 each for. We're quite lucky really!

VanessaShanessaJenkins · 02/12/2018 22:20

Nope. Don't do work socials. I'd rather spend my free time with my family or at the gym. And I don't have a problem telling them that. They are all nice enough. I just don't think there is enough free time in my life to waste doing things I'd rather not.

Shirleyphallus · 02/12/2018 22:22

I’ve been invited to about 18 billion because of my job and have cherry picked the best 4-5 and politely declined the rest

Forced Fun is my idea of hell

Fantasisa · 02/12/2018 22:22

I’m not going to our main one, it is on the Saturday night before Chrisrmas!

LassWiADelicateAir · 02/12/2018 22:22

Goodness no. I will go to the very civilised department lunch but the office party ? Nothing would induce me to go. I don't even know where it's being held.

Anyat212 · 02/12/2018 22:23

Haha OP and would rather scrub my kitchen floor with a toothbrush

I’m with you on that. I work with 9 other ladies and unfortunately they don’t have the best sense of humour so it’s looong days. I’m pregnant at the mo - unfortunately I’m suffering with terrible morning sickness still so it’s finally worked to my bloody advantage and its a good enough excuse to say no without feeling bad!

MardyArabella · 02/12/2018 22:23

Yeah it’s just for my team of 8 though. Public sector so no freebies.

AppleKatie · 02/12/2018 22:24

Nope. I live 35 miles drive from work and no public transport worth mentioning. It’s at lunchtime and I’d need to stay sober enough to get back for childcare pickup.

It also costs £30 plus drinks.

So nope. Rather come home for a quiet lunch for 1 before pick up....

tigercub50 · 02/12/2018 22:25

I don’t know if there is one but I don’t drink so very likely won’t go

HippoEvans · 02/12/2018 22:25

No I’m not going- hate having to pretend to be enjoying myself

beela · 02/12/2018 22:25

Nope.

We have to pay for our own, plus it's 15 miles from home and I live in a village with rubbish public transport so I'd either have to drive and endure it sober while everyone else was getting hammered, or fork out another £25 for a taxi (nobody else lives my way so I couldn't share).

My colleagues are OK but there's only about 4 out of 50 that I would actually go out of my way to spend time with.

I'd rather stay at home with my family.

GreenMeerkat · 02/12/2018 22:26

I'm supposed to be going on Friday but I really don't want to. I'm the manager so I feel I should but on the other hand I am on maternity leave and had a baby 6 weeks ago so that's a good enough reason right?

Cuppaand2biscuits · 02/12/2018 22:26

No, I don't mind socialising with my team. But it's the Friday before Christmas, in the town centre and I just can't bare the thought of all the other drunken parties out that night.

mamaduckbone · 02/12/2018 22:27

Yes I bloody am - we go to a hotel, use the spa facilities then get drunk ready in our rooms, do secret Santa and swank downstairs for dinner and a good dance. But then I love the people I work with and it’s the highlight of our year.

Giraffey1 · 02/12/2018 22:28

Assume you mean the office / works do. No. I’m not very good at such social gatherings with colleagues. I don’t enjoy them, feel uncomfortable and find myself wondering how soon I can leave without appearing rude / everyone noticing. I not accept the invites anymore.

homemadegin · 02/12/2018 22:33

No, and they are being very off with me about it. Ignoring my messages etc. I had been a tbc. I have a 5 week old and the reality is I neither want to or am able to leave her in 2 weeks time. It's in a hotel 1.5 hours drive away and to be honest even going for the meal is just to much for me at the moment. I struggle to get dressed some days. Trying to explain cluster feeding to male business partners went down badly. It's made me sad actually. I expected a bit more understanding. Sad

homemadegin · 02/12/2018 22:36

Oh @greenmeerkat snap. I hope your work are more understanding.

Iwanttoswingfromachandier · 02/12/2018 22:36

God no - couldn't think of anything worse

I get on with most of my team but there's one spanner in the works - I don't even sit in the coffee room with colleagues because I can't stand her.

She's absolutely toxic - numerous complaints over the years I've worked in my department (nhs) and people who she's bullied have been moved rather than her.

Thankfully she's went too far this time and there is an investigation whereby the very least she will be moved from our department (hopefully dismissed)

Needallthesleep · 02/12/2018 22:37

Absolutely not. Agree with the pp that I would much rather be with family/friends/at the gym. But my company is extremely young so it will just be people in their early 20’s downing shots and that is so not me. I’d rather have one fabulous glass of wine than ten mediocre ones.

animallikeyou · 02/12/2018 22:38

I’m going to my old work one and the new work one! :)

WonderTweek · 02/12/2018 22:39

Hahaha. Of course not. I don't go to any dos and everyone knows this. It's a bit of a running joke now but people are generally really good about it. I just say that I don't do social things and everyone is happy with that.

Barbie222 · 02/12/2018 22:39

No, I make an excuse every year. Mostly because it's too expensive, but also because they're colleagues not friends really.

TheDogsMother · 02/12/2018 22:39

Work Party. It's the ultimate oxymoron ! I've been self employed for a few years now so will take DP and the dog to the pub and that will be my work party Grin

DontCallMeCharlotte · 02/12/2018 22:39

Yes. Because there only five of us in our company so my absence might be noticed!

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