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AIBU?

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To ask if you're going to your Christmas party?

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Ragevibration · 02/12/2018 22:17

I'm not.

I can't stand all but 4 people for the 38 hours I have to spend with them and would rather scrub my kitchen floor with a toothbrush. Please it's assigned seating (I thought it was a Christmas reward not a punishment!!!!)

Am gutted I am missing a free meal and bar though!

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hendal · 05/12/2018 21:55

I’ll be making an appearance at ours, though I can’t be bothered. I don’t drink wine, and don’t like to drink “at work”, I’m not interested in making small talk with people who barely acknowledge me day to day, and those that do - I have 8hrs a day to see them and talk to them.

The party is taking a different form this year, instead of drinks & nibbles at work then dinner in a nearby restaurant usually on a Thursday night.. This year we’re having food and “some” drinks with a DJ at some swanky looking venue in London, and it’s a Monday night. I’m fairly sure I’ll be home and in my PJs by 730-8pm

HolgerLowCarbingLoser · 05/12/2018 22:02

Yes. Looking forward to it, too.

BMOT · 05/12/2018 22:05

Im not doing mine as I only work one day a week and I'd rather prioritise "real" mates. I am however going on my husbands (its our own business) and I have 2 Gym dos !

Billythecat · 05/12/2018 22:06

I'm going, but only to the meal and not drinks afterwards. I don't really drink often and have a volunteering commitment later for which I obviously need to be sober. I realise I will appear a bit unsociable but don't really want to watch others get drunk! Do get ok pretty well with my team though so the meal will be nice

Unicornsbumhole · 05/12/2018 22:07

Can't wait! Just joined a new team, get on great with everone and its the time I've had a night out on my own without DH and DD
Really looking forward to a night of drinking and dancing

PumpkinPie2016 · 05/12/2018 22:08

No I'm not going on mine. My colleagues are fine but I live in a village and the do is in the city 15 miles away. So getting there and back would be a bit of a nightmare and costly.

Then the meal is £35 plus drinks for what will probably be a very average Christmas dinner.

To be honest, I'd rather spend my time at home with DS.

Ragwort · 05/12/2018 22:12

Yes (I organise it ) but it is just a nice lunch out, I like all my colleagues and I guarantee that hardly any of them will have an alcoholic drink, it’s all very pleasant and sober.

My DH is refusing to go to his, shame as it would be a great night out with hotel accommodation thrown in, but he doesn’t like the idea.

JaimeLannister · 05/12/2018 22:14

Yes, I get on well with 90% of my colleagues and a couple of them are great friends.

Hollycatberry · 05/12/2018 22:19

God no. I’m with you OP that I’d rather be scrubbing my kitchen floor!! Can’t stand most of my team and manager is a narcissist that will talk about himself all night. I made up a family commitment excuse to get out of it and I’m so relieved I did. Just have a full day team meeting to sit through before I can go home at normal time.

DeliveredByKiki · 05/12/2018 22:22

I’m going! I’m a freelancer so never get a Christmas do but a studio that I’ve started doing lots of work for has a small core team in 2 cities and everyone else is a freelance creative and they hold a big party every year - I really like a lot of the artists I work with, it’s free food and booze and a friend is paying my taxi home for an unconnected reason - also it’s a very good networking opportunity for me

LittleCandle · 05/12/2018 22:23

Yes, but there are only 3 of us, we all get on well and its a lunch, not a piss up. I did rather draw the line at going into town, though, and booked locally.

In my previous job I did go on the Christmas night out and thankfully left before a toxic ex-employee lit into everyone. Apparently I was on the list... I did avoid almost all the other social occasions. I had a grand excuse, as they all involved Chinese food and I am intolerant of MSG, so couldn't go. Oh dear, how sad, never mind.

DeliveredByKiki · 05/12/2018 22:24

DH works in a more traditional full time office set up and didn’t go to his - they sectioned off parts of universal studios for the company so now he’s gutted he didn’t go especially as it wasn’t as drunk and disorderly as his work’s events tend to get

MinesaPinot · 05/12/2018 22:29

I'm not going to the main firm one - it's midweek and I've got to get home and then get up for work the following morning. I'm going to a couple of immediate team things, and then we've got our department party which is usually lively and fun so I'm going to that.

MaMaMaMySharona · 05/12/2018 22:32

My office are having theirs the Friday before Christmas which is when I’ll be setting off to drive south to see family so I’m skipping it. Quite glad to have a solid excuse if I’m honest

Mascarponeandwine · 05/12/2018 22:43

No. It’s miles away, I have no way of getting home without a taxi, and I’m knackered on Friday evenings. It’ll be a glorified village hall wedding type venue, 3 course meal (same for everyone). Then a disco where you dance awkwardly and can’t hear what anyone says to you .

If it was two nights in a swanky hotel with partners then I might go!

Wincher · 05/12/2018 22:52

I have three I could go to - one is for the whole organisation, held on site, free dinner, dancing etc. It's quite fun but I don't know that many people who go, it tends to be dominated by one of the other divisions. Also it is always fancy dress and some teams make a huge effort and it's all a bit cringey. So I'm not going to that. Then there's the department level one which is a quiz night, again on site, but none of my team can make it that day. In fact so few people have signed up it looks like it will be cancelled anyway... So me and my team are just going to go to the pub for drinks one afternoon instead. We have often gone for lunch but there are only a few of us and the main lunch-instigator retired this year (to out of London, so not able to come back for it), and the rest of us don't hugely fancy it (and we would be paying for ourselves). And we can't do drinks after work as one person has a v long commute and another has to get home for a breastfed toddler's bedtime. So afternoon drinks it is then! I've probably outed myself totally if any work colleagues are on here...

AtSea1979 · 05/12/2018 22:54

No. I’d rather put kettle on and watch Corrie than watch people I don’t particularly like get pissed.

sophisticatedsarcasm · 05/12/2018 22:55

I hate going out with too many people anyway, also where I work it’s a lot of Europeans who think it’s perfect exceptzble to eat at around 10 which is far too late for me not too mention I never have a babysitter

limpbizkit · 05/12/2018 23:03

Nope. Don't mind rubbing along together at work but I like my free time to be spent with family and friends and I've barely got enough time to do that!! I dont mix alcohol and work colleagues. I've seen the carnage and gossip go on for years after. I've been that person in my younger years and don't ever want to risk being the star of the show again!!

Didsomeonesaybunny · 05/12/2018 23:24

I am and I can’t wait. We have a black tie ball each year at a swanky hotel and 600 of us turn up. It’s a 5 course meal, free drinks all evening, a casino, chocolate fondue etc.
We will also have photo booths and professional photographers taking photos which is nice touch.

I am getting my hair, nails and make up done on the day which I’m most excited about.

I literally cannot wait to get blind drunk and dance until 5am and for the first time ever I have a date to come with me!!!

FlipFlapBat · 05/12/2018 23:26

Yes it’s compulsory...

Madein1995 · 05/12/2018 23:28

Yes and no. Yes to the team Christmas lunch that is happening next Friday. No to the night out this Friday. Just don't fancy it really.

Spongeface · 05/12/2018 23:42

On the fence .. new job. Said no to the big one and yes to the small spin off one but I'm getting the fear now! It's Saturday lunch and it's been a busy week... Excuses excuses. .. they all seem lovely tho. Should go.

raspberrycordial · 05/12/2018 23:55

They think I am but I have other ideas about it and will be phoning (emailing) in sick on the day (I work from home and this is an evening do).

And then I leave a week later 😈🖕🏻

Patriciathestripper1 · 06/12/2018 00:04

If it involves fake smiling I don’t go

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