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To ask for help on how to get through Christmas

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Notevenclosetoabeggingthread · 02/12/2018 10:26

I am spending Christmas alone.

Yesterday I needed to fork out nearly £1000 (ouch)

The long and short of it is that I have no money. I’ve bought presents already, it’s not a begging thread. I just don’t know how I can get through two full weeks alone and broke Sad

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HumptyNumptyNooNoo · 02/12/2018 10:32

Pretend it's July and just crack on - at least the telly might be a bit better !
If you find yourself turning the day into a pity party, put some pound music on and dance around the room.
If you really want to do something Christmassy - try helping at the local hospital or homeless shelter ?

HumptyNumptyNooNoo · 02/12/2018 10:33

*loud - not pound

stanstanthevegman · 02/12/2018 10:34

Do you have to spend it alone? Is there not one of the people you have bought presents for that you can spend a few hours even with?

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Notevenclosetoabeggingthread · 02/12/2018 10:34

Well yes. Even in July two weeks with no company or money would be tough but dark nights and bad weather make it harder.

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yummumto3girls · 02/12/2018 10:35

Sorry to hear this, but agree, if you have no where to go, volunteer somewhere, it will be full of xmas cheer. Please don’t sit home alone.

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Notevenclosetoabeggingthread · 02/12/2018 10:36

I can’t stan no, it’s only four people anyway! And two are abroad.

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Nanalisa60 · 02/12/2018 10:37

Volunteer at homeless shelter

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Notevenclosetoabeggingthread · 02/12/2018 10:37

Well um, I don’t know where any are. And petrol to get there ...

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SD1978 · 02/12/2018 10:38

Hibernate. It may not be the answer you're hoping for. It it's what I'd do. Hunker down with a movie list, and work through them. How much time do you have off? I'm naturally a tad unsociable- so not seeing people doesn't bother me.

Molakai · 02/12/2018 10:38

I'm not totally clear about your situation OP. Why will you be without company for 2 weeks if you normally have company?

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Notevenclosetoabeggingthread · 02/12/2018 10:39

I don’t normally have company but I do work.

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Molakai · 02/12/2018 10:39

And are you off work for 2 weeks?

MyDcAreMarvel · 02/12/2018 10:40

Is the place where you work shut for two weeks? Do you not have friends you could go to at least on Christmas Day itself?

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Notevenclosetoabeggingthread · 02/12/2018 10:40

Yes, I am off work for two weeks Grin

No, no one I could spend CD with.

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Nanalisa60 · 02/12/2018 10:41

Also Next Year why don’t you go on meet-up!! Then hopefully you will have some new friends with the same interests as u so u might not be so alone next Christmas.

Molakai · 02/12/2018 10:41

Off work through choice?

Bombardier25966 · 02/12/2018 10:42

Volunteering is a good idea, but if you've not got transport it's not possible, unless you can find someone to pick you up and bring you back.

How are you doing food wise Noteven? No shame in asking for a foodbank referral if you need one, but do it in good time as some will be closed Christmas Eve etc. You can get a voucher from CAB, sometimes the council office, your GP surgery or the Jobcentre (if you're a client).

What else do you need to get you through? Something to pass the time? Any box sets you've got/ can borrow to watch? Any tasks you've been putting off?

I can't cope with Christmas so quickly do the obligatory visits and then get back and do my accounts Smile Done the same for years!

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Notevenclosetoabeggingthread · 02/12/2018 10:44

I’m ok for food and all that. Basic needs. But I just have nothing left. Which is hard as even things like taking a drive to clear my head or going to the gym will be difficult.

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Nanny0gg · 02/12/2018 10:45

Off work through choice?

Lots of companies shut down from Christmas to New Year

Ispatienceavirtue · 02/12/2018 10:48

Yep, Google your local homeless shelters, soup kitchens and maybe Salvation Army? Explain that you'd like to volunteer over the Christmas period but may have trouble getting there.They may know of other volunteers in your area who may be able to offer you lift.
BUT you might need to re-consider your friends and family,who are happy to receive gifts from you,but leave you all alone over the Christmas period.

Molakai · 02/12/2018 10:51

I know Nanny0gg that's why I asked the question. Some places close- some places are open.

If OP's opted for annual leave I just wondered if there was an option to change.

Doghorsechicken · 02/12/2018 10:51

I love a nice bike ride or a long walk/hike in the countryside. Could you join a local walking group? Then you won’t be alone and it’s a free activity.

mumto2babyboys · 02/12/2018 11:12

You have a job so... Apply for a credit card and use it for petrol to drive and volunteer on Xmas day or use it to go abroad for winter sun

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Notevenclosetoabeggingthread · 02/12/2018 11:13

I haven’t opted to take leave; we are closed.

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Molakai · 02/12/2018 11:17

Thanks OP for clarifying.
Is this year different from previous years? Or are you usually alone during this period but usually have funds to treat yourself?

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