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Original poster

Is dh being unreasonable

52 replies

poptartprincess · 01/12/2018 15:34

I've just been making cupcakes. I got some different cases and they seemed to be made of card. He just went mental at me for putting the cupcakes in the oven. He thinks I don't think and I did it to annoy him. He says I risked pissing him off if they caught fire. I said no I just put some cupcakes in the oven not everything revolves around him. He said I never listen and I don't care what he wants. He's now left me with DD and stormed off upstairs. Who's being the unreasonable one here.

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HollowTalk · 01/12/2018 15:35

Eh? Well, if they are cupcake holders, how does he think the cake cooks?

He sounds like a big baby, tbh. And I bet he'll eat the cakes, too.

bobstersmum · 01/12/2018 15:37

Stick to poptarts!

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poptartprincess · 01/12/2018 15:38

I have no idea. He thought they'd burst into flames - they didn't.

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Hisnamesblaine · 01/12/2018 15:38

U wot? 🤔

Snowwontbelong · 01/12/2018 15:41

Guess he won't be wanting to eat one then?
You and dd have a couple and hide the rest.
Nasty man child you have there op.

RedSkyLastNight · 01/12/2018 15:41

If they are proper cupcakes holders designed to go in the oven then perfectly fine to put them in the oven.

If they are just cupcake shaped holders and not particularly designed to go in the oven, then it's probably a good idea not to.

Did he think they were (2) and you thought they were (1)?

tinselfest · 01/12/2018 15:42

He thinks I don't think and I did it to annoy him

Sounds like a twat - is he like this often? Why does he think you'd deliberately go out of your way to annoy him?

Justmuddlingalong · 01/12/2018 15:43

Christ. Not even cupcakes are worth that drama. Is he always an overreacting, shouty prick?

PinkHeart5914 · 01/12/2018 15:44

If the cupcake cases set fire in the oven, they wouldn’t be on the market.........

Cupcake cases are generally put in to the oven so I have found they don’t tend to catch fire

DeathyMcDeathStarFace · 01/12/2018 15:47

I think he has some other problems and is taking it out on you over a small thing rather than facing the other stuff. Or he is completely overreacting.

He is behaving like a complete child and is trying to make out it is you who is the problem and you are against him, doing everything to pee him off. Unless he is super stressed over something else I think you have a bigger problem than cupcake cases.

AppleKatie · 01/12/2018 15:49

If I actually thought there might be a fire the last thing I’d have done is stormed upstairs

Twat.

Jackshouse · 01/12/2018 15:50

Is card anymore likely to catch fire than paper?

lovetherisingsun · 01/12/2018 15:50

Jesus, what a manchild. Prick. Bet he wouldn;t speak to his boss like that, so why is it ok to speak to you like that?

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poptartprincess · 01/12/2018 15:51

I think so RedSky but can't be certain. He kind of uses my mental health and behaviours to his advantage. He uses that I'm impulsive and that my emotions are unstable against me. Like yesterday I was upset over something that wasn't overly huge. He just says "you piss me off when you do this." I said "we've been together for years. You know it's not a choice." He just said "I understand that but it doesn't change the fact it really pisses me off". Kind of made me feel awful :/

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poptartprincess · 01/12/2018 15:52

He's having a hard time at the moment so I guess I need to take it with a pinch of salt though

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sparklefarts · 01/12/2018 15:54

Wowzers. He sounds like a right catch Hmm

Bestseller · 01/12/2018 15:56

Aren't oven designed to contain a small for anyway?

This must surely be about much more than cupcakes? I think if my DH (who.is usually very reasonable) behaved like thay I'd be wondering if he needed to see someone.

AcrossthePond55 · 01/12/2018 16:14

He kind of uses my mental health and behaviours to his advantage. He uses that I'm impulsive and that my emotions are unstable against me

That would be enough right there for me to LTB.

He's having a hard time at the moment so I guess I need to take it with a pinch of salt though

Why? He certainly doesn't 'take it with a pinch of salt' when you're having a hard time, does he?

I don't think he's very good for your mental health at all. Have you spoken to a counselor about the way he treats you? You really should.

Feefeetrixabelle · 01/12/2018 16:14

They are meant to be put in the oven. Tell him to gtfo until he sorts himself out.

TatianaLarina · 01/12/2018 16:16

He uses that I'm impulsive and that my emotions are unstable against me.

Are you, are they, or is he just gaslighting you?

Troels · 01/12/2018 16:16

What a big baby. You buy cupcake cases to cook cupcakes, unless you set your oven to turbo they aren't going to burst into flames.
He obviously has no cooking skills.
We used to make a Chrismas cake every year and the deep cake pan was wrapped in newspaper and string, and then went into the oven for a very long time. You have to wrap it or the sides and edges of the cake would burn before the cake cooked through. We never had flaming newspapers in the oven.

HolgerLowCarbingLoser · 01/12/2018 16:16

God what an idiot. Obviously cupcake holders would be suitable for the oven.

More importantly though, who the hink hell does he think he is, treating you like that.?

Seriously, don’t stand for it.

TatianaLarina · 01/12/2018 16:17

He sounds like the implusive and unstable one tbh.

HolgerLowCarbingLoser · 01/12/2018 16:18

Uhm iPad issues there but anyway,, he needs to stop treating you this way.

Troels · 01/12/2018 16:18

This sounds like the newest in a long line of undermining you. I bet he is half you mental health problems as he certainly doesn't seem to help them.