AIBU to think it’s not ok for Husband to PM another woman who I’ve never meet?

[Tab1888]

Please excuse my inappropriate use of abbreviations it’s my first time posting. My husband has been messaging another woman through Facebook and invited her to join him for the weekend with my best friend and partner as I wasn’t able to attend because we have no one to look after our son. Is he of sound mind?

ClaireElizabeth
Yes, good point. This is ops best friend.

For all the ones saying 'so what'.

if you wait until your husband goes to bed before you sit up texting these friends into the late hours, then you're just a sly as OPs husband is anyway.

The ones who may be single - don't compare yourself, you're not in the same situation.

Totally not acceptable OP.

Late night messages, flirting, inviting someone he hardly knows to an intimate event with close friends.

I would be planning a divorce. Except I know how hard divorce is so it might not be that straightforward.

How can late night flirty messages not be a betrayal? Genuine question to all those who say it is okay.

I wouldn't be happy with this.
It's obvious from the late night messaging it wasn't something he wanted you to be aware of. Otherwise he'd chat about it to yuk and message her in the day. It's all been done sneakily. He was hoping to get lucky there.

I asked for advice because I wanted to confirm what I already felt.
I am not ok with any of it I have more respect for myself and the secrecy and the way it was carried out is not how I want a relationship to be. I do not want my son to learn that type of behaviour.
I have asked my husband to move out as I do not want that negativity in my life. Myself and my DS deserve better.
Ps some of the messages were sent while I was in hospital and he was suppose to be looking after our son. That is not the kind of father I want for my DS.
I also never said I needed to know all my husbands friends I just do and he knows all mine.

He was arranging a shag behind your back and seems to have made a right pig’s ear of it!

This really isn't good I'm sorry to say OP.

He has definitely crossed a line & the weekend trip is a cover up because your BF will be there. He 'thinks' it won't appear to be anything untoward. I'd put money on your BF telling you they were far too friendly.

Messaging her the way he is, so out of order. Personally, I'd tell him to cut off contact,don't be treated this way, it's beyond disrespectful.

Good for you, op. Glad you know your own worth x

Sneaky. Disrespectful. Does he think you're stupid. Or is he stupid? Either way, good for you.

Note to self, if you must wander off midpost, catch up before posting!

Well done OP, that can't have been easy but absolutely necessary x

@Tab1888 BLOODY GOOD FOR YOU! Talk about the best Christmas present you could possibly give yourself and your DS! You should feel exceptionally strong and proud right now, as you are clearly worth a million of this penis-pump. X