To banish cat from the house?

[FeckingEll]

At night.

Have rehomed the bloody thing in the garage.

We haven't had a litter tray indoors for over a year. Had an outside one for a while which she didn't use so I removed it. For the last few weeks, when it's been wet outside, she has been shitting in her bed. Two mornings in a row now I've come down to it.

I don't want an indoor tray again so have locked her in the garage with tray and food where she will go every night over the winter from now on.

DC think IABU but they're not cleaning up the shit and having to do two boil washes, one for bed, one to clean machine!

Your children seemingly have empathy which they obviously didn't get from you.

If you're laughing at this and revelling in it that's disturbing.

You take her toilet away and then complain she does her business elsewhere.
Please rehome her. You don't deserve a cat.

Oooh I think it's hilarious you're all trying to paint me as a devil on the basis of me putting my cat in the garage overnight with warm bedding when you have no idea about anything. Haven't laughed so much in ages!

So why AIBU? Anyone on the street could tell you you are a total twat.

That's why she crapped inside those nights and not last night she couldn’t crap inside last night! She was locked in the garage! I suspect she didn’t crap, as she didn’t need to!

Cats being outside isn’t a problem. Cats being locked in, inside or outside, with nothing but a tray and food is. Particularly a cat who is used to being outside.

What are going to do if your cat isn’t inside at 12, when you want to go to bed?

fair enough vitalogy. Though I’m not sure what that’ll solve, as the cat will be back out in the cold/rain. Admittedly, they won’t be trapped in the garage though.

TBH, I don’t see a huge issue with the garage solution. The OP has said that it isn’t a year round solution and that the cat actually spends time indoors, is welcome in the family home and has regular health checks.

My cat is an indoor/outdoor chap and likes to be out in the day and a little homebody, on our bed overnight. However, I have had cats who’ve been real night owls and out all night.

I also grew up around farm cats who didn’t come further than the kitchen and spent much of their time in the barns/yard. I don’t think it’s a huge deal, tbh.

You are being unbelievably cruel @FeckingEll why did you bother having a cat?

Please seek a suitable home for your cat.

So your grand experiment was to teach empathy to your children (presumably because you are incapable of teaching a trait you do not possess yourself). Your empathic children have told you that you are in the wrong on this. We have all almost unanimously told you that you are in the wrong on this. For goodness sake, treat your cat right or let it have a happy home with someone else.

Please explain exactly what is cruel about what I've done Venus. Cat is not cold, wet, lonely (as she'd be on her own in lounge if not in garage), can shit freely in box in garage now, has food/water, is let out to come in house in daytime/most of the evening.

Honestly it like a school playground on here.

Why even post if you're so adamant that what you're doing is fine?

Either you genuinely thought that perhaps you were being unreasonable, or you just wanted to goad people?

Rather funny you think its important your kids show empathy to cat yet you’ve banished it outside because its had an accident in the house.
Is that what your teaching, have an accident so you’ll banish the things you love to the outside when they’ve been used to living inside?

Amazingly when mine had an accident i simply cleaned it up and checked to see what was wrong.
The one ( turned out another animal was in its litter tray so it was confused)once i moved the tray all was good, the other had an underlining illness.
He has had the odd accident now, i dont banish him outside, i treat him with compassion, same as i would an elderly relative.
I also clean his tray straight away, i don’t leave it too smell

Again, why bother asking on here when you are so sure that what you have done is ok. Absolutely pointless.

You don't sound like you love your cat, in fact you sound like you hate her. I think people struggle to hear someone talking about an animal in the way you have, not just the fact that you have put her in the garage. It's that you just don't seem to care. She could be ill or stressed which may be why she's used her bed as a toilet. She will certainly be confused, cold and possibly stressed about her life changing so much from what she is used to by being placed away from her family in the garage. And you just remain defiant and uncaring.

If a normally healthy cat starts randomly defacating inside you should investigate the cause not lock the poor thing in a cold garage. Please rehome your cat! It's obvious she is an inconvenience to you.

If any of us were given a choice between the garage or the sofa, we'd all choose the sofa. You can overcome the smell of cat poo in a litter tray quite easily.

@FeckingEll after posting myself and reading others replies on here I'm actually confused as to why you posted in the first place when extreme posts aside other posters have made helpful suggestions for you and you reply back with a fault in that suggestion or that you're not unreasonable what was the point of posting AIBU in the first place if you believe that you're not wrong in "banishing the cat from the house"?

This is all in the way you've worded your op. Absolutely nothing wrong with popping a cat in a dry garage with bedding and food in the winter

So.... it's merely how you've chosen to word it

For those saying what would they do without a litter tray overnight, when our cat decides to stay in all night he never soils in the house, just like the dog! ... They both wait until morning.
And those who say.. We clean our trays regular, straight after they have shit etc..... I have some news.. They still STINK vile disgusting.. You must be just used to the smell... Others coming into your home will smell it, if they say they can't they are lying.

I agree that cat litter trays always smell. As a non pet owning person, I can always smell pets and/or litter trays in other peoples houses. Some only slightly, others are very strong. Their owners just get used to it. A bit like how smokers don’t realise that their clothes, homes etc smell.

For those saying what would they do without a litter tray overnight, when our cat decides to stay in all night he never soils in the house

Presumably then, if your cat did start to shit in the house, you would try to work out why rather than simply banish said cat to the garage?

This poster reminds me of the 'should I take my cat to the vet' poster...

If She sleeps indoors during the day and is now locked in a garage on on evening, when is she getting out / exercising / using the bathroom?

Some of my cats used to spend all night outside. Not my choice, they wanted to and didn't want to come in. It used to worry me but they were clearly happy with it because they didn't come back in until the morning.

I am sure OP's cat will be fine in a garage with a lot of blankets to snuggle up to, considering many cats roam outside by choice at night. I don't think it is as cruel as some people are making out.

It will be much warmer than the cats who roam outside at night by choice.

BTW I agree that litter trays smell no matter how clean you think they are. I can always smell them. My family member is obsessed with cleaning out her cat litter tray, but there is still a smell. I have dogs and know my house will have a dog smell. I can't smell it because I am used to it but I don't convince myself that others can't smell them.

My grandparents cat used to sleep in the garage towards the end as she had dementia and would yowl all night and shit everywhere, she would sit pawing at your face aaaaaaalll night.
The garage was lovely though and they had heated pads for her and doted on her every whim.
It’s not the garage that’s the issue, it’s the whole attitude towards the car in general.

Fecking the cat is lucky to have you because she born in a shelter. I’m sorry you’re wrong she deserves better.

To be an inside cat sleeping in the house all day then suddenly banished to the garage has got to unsettle a cat that is clearly unsettled already fouling her bed.

Being used to being inside all day and night then forced outside is obviously different to cats that like/are used to being outdoor cats