To think it's rude to critique somebodies chosen baby name?

[Mothership241]

Expecting a little girl next year and have chosen a name that me and DP love. It's not an unusual or unpleasant name so I've taken offence to a family member constantly expressing their dislike of it whenever they see me and suggesting names that they think sound nicer.

The name we've chosen is Evelynn-Grace.

AIBU to think they're being rude and a babies name choice is nothing to do with anybody apart from it's parents, or am I just being hyper sensitive?

Tell your annoying relative to go boil their head... we have an Evelyn aged under 10 in our extended family and in fact it was 19 on the girls baby names for 2017 so they are the ones who are out of step... lots of names which would have been thought as deeply old fashioned 20 years ago are now very on trend... my DD’s name is unusual but was popular 100+ years ago... we love it and she does too it’s nothing to do with anyone else (provides it’s not offensive!!). The names that are old fashioned now are those popular in the 50’s and 60’s etc and those too will re-emerge in time... everything cycles round.

Evelyn Grace is lovely. And as someone said earlier, EVIE is a sweet shortened version of it. How are you pronouncing Evelyn? eev-lin, or evva-lin, or EV-LIN?

Well done for tweaking it - don't think you'll have any regrets. For me, this:

"Its to be pronounced the same as Evelyn (as in ev-a-lin) just spelt differently."

says it all - that there's no need at all to spell it differently except to make life harder. What you've settled on now is much nicer.

My mother spelt my name with two L's on birth certificate. Supposed to have one It's a pain in the ass to correct and I often let it go anyway.

Oh I see you put the pronunciation.

Honestly it’s easiest to not tell people the name before the baby is born to avoid unwarranted comments. You may still get them once the baby is born but it’s a lot less likely.

What a gorgeous name!

Totally ignore them - they're being rude & obnoxious!

If they keep on, I'd have to say something - depending on my mood & pregnancy hormones, this might be polite or an out & out "Sod off - we don't care what you think, actually!"

It’s a great name apart from she and you will have to mention/explain the extra N for all eternity.

No they won't @maddiemookins16mum

Don't want a critique, don't tell people. Some people will think you are asking for opinions if you do it before.

Evelyn Grace is a gorgeous name. Definitely agree that you’re right to rethink the -n and the hyphen. To be honest it’s just too lovely a name to mess about with.

Also I know someone called Paull (instead of Paul). He hates it. He’s actually as good as adopted the traditional spelling of the name because it’s such a ballache to have to say ‘Paul, with two Ls’. ‘Yes, that’s right, a double L’ all the time.

Also for years his nickname was Paul-le-le.

I think you mean 'to criticise' not 'to critique'. It sounds pretentious and it's being used wrongly anyway.

Glad you've taken people's advice on board and changed it to the regular spelling and removed the hyphen. She will now only have to let on which way she pronounces it each time.

However, as has been said previously, by sharing the name before the baby is here, it does invite comments. As it isn't yet registered, then people feel you might still change your mind / might be gauging opinions - as, indeed, you have done on this thread, to prove her point

It’s absolutely nobody else’s business what you call your child.

I think your biggest mistake here has been announcing the name before the child is born.

Best of luck op.

In choosing a child's name, you should think if anyone could make fun of it when they are at school, or if it will be repeatedly mis-spelt.

I know or know of a Wayne King ,a Paul Mycock and a Jenny Taylor and an A. C.Hunt.

I bet they wished they've thought countleas times that a relative had had a discrete word with their parents before they went to register their birth. Thing is, the parents don't have to live with the consequences of an unfortunate name, the child does.

op whilst your baby's name isn't in that league, by giving her a name with an unconventional spelling,plus a hyphen, she'll have to correct others, get documents amended and spell her name out, followed be 'yep two Ns and a hypen,' and 'no it's not a typo' everytime she speaks to someone on the phone or has any interaction with officialdom.

I think it is only fair on her and you to be made aware of the likely outcome ahead of naming her.

I know a 6 year old Evelyn. She goes by Evie. I really like her name and think you've made a lovely choice OP.

Tell your relative to mind her own business!

Evelyn Grace is lovely. Are you going to call her that as a double barrell name though? That is a bit of a mouthful. My dsis is pregnant and we just heard they are naming her a name that is considered very chavvy on MN; similar to Niveah. We are absolutely horrified if I'm honest but really glad we know the name now rather than when she is born, we will have time to get used to it --and think of a nickname-.

Unless there is a massive problem with the name that they’ve somehow overlooked, like naming the child after a serial killer or there’s a really obvious playground taunt based on the diminution, then it’s very rude to comment.

@FunkyKingston What's wrong with Jenny Taylor?

Rookie mistake. Only tell the name when it's too late and it's already on the baby. You'll just have to ignore the rude people.

What's wrong with Jenny Taylor?

Genitalia

Jenny Taylor - Sounds like genitalia

@FunkyKingston That's a reach