To think it's rude to critique somebodies chosen baby name?

[Mothership241]

Expecting a little girl next year and have chosen a name that me and DP love. It's not an unusual or unpleasant name so I've taken offence to a family member constantly expressing their dislike of it whenever they see me and suggesting names that they think sound nicer.

The name we've chosen is Evelynn-Grace.

AIBU to think they're being rude and a babies name choice is nothing to do with anybody apart from it's parents, or am I just being hyper sensitive?

Even bigger spanner in the works but the only Evelyn I knew was a great aunt and she pronounced it Ev-lin. I think it’s a beautiful name OP and I have chosen a more old fashioned name that has become popular for our daughter. We have made the decision that people will not be told it till she’s out due to people feeling they can judge and be rude before the baby is born, they are a lot less judgemental when there is a little person attached to the name.

Glad you are rethinking the nn and the - . Lovely name without those.
Old fashioned names are 'in' right now, as the people choosing them don't know people of those names.

In 20 year's time Patricia will be back in fashion, and in 50 years it will be Tracy time again.

Tinselfest you do realise not everyone has the same accent right? I would pronounce it Ev-a-lin.

Once the baby’s born no-one will comment unless something is totally odd. I think you’re right to consider getting rid of the extra n and hyphen. The two names (as separate names) are lovely. My sister has an unconventional spelling and she has restented my parents for doing it to her for years. Everyone always gets it wrong and it drives her nuts. She sees no benefit in it. It hasn’t made her ‘unique’ it’s just been a major irritant that she is reminded of on a near constant basis.

Evelyn Grace is a lovely name OP. And your relatives are very rude to comment on your chosen name IRL!

It's lovely don't listen to rude people

Why the extra n and the hyphen?

I like Evelyn Grace a lot. Evelynn-Grace not at all! But, regardless, it is rude of your relatives to keep bringing it up so YANBU.

Evelyn Grace would be my default spelling. Ever-lin would be my pronunciation.

It'd only take one correction to pronounce it Eve-Lin. The spelling would probably need to be corrected fairly often as Evelyn is getting quite well known now.

Grace is a beautiful middle name, but I'd prefer it separate. I had a hyphenated name too growing up which made introducing myself awkward - I removed the second half in my 20s by deed poll.

Evelyn Grace is100% better.

I have an oddly spelled name (also a unisex name) and have had to correct people's spelling bloody constantly. I've asked my parents why in God's name they didn't just spell it the normal way.

Evelyn Grace Surname sounds great OP :) better than originally.

It's always hard to keep quiet about names, I've noticed, but it's definitely the best way, as anyone dissing the name once baby is born and registered is plain rude!
If it's spelt wrong though e.g. Pheobe instead of Phoebe, I really wish people would point it out politely though by saying 'Oh you've gone for a different spelling to normal I see?' or something

It's always hard when someone outright asks your opinion though. I guess depends how close you are on whether you'll appreciate blunt honesty!

I've always loved old fashioned names, I have one myself as does DS.

DP is in agreement about the hyphen being unnecessary the purpose of the extra N was for no reason other than to be a bit 'different'. I do see people's points that it could just add confusion, though.

The way my cousin worded her disapproval was what offended me, instead of saying its not something she'd choose herself she said that Evelyn Grace is far too "old sounding" for a baby and baby wouldn't thank us for giving her an old ladies name.

Evelyn Grace is better than Evelynn-Grace, the hyphen and extra n will become hard work. I know two Evelyns, one pronounced Eve-lyn and one Ev-Lyn. I haven't heard it pronounced the way you are going to but i think it's one of those names you can say a few ways

Definitely 'eev-lin'

Lovely name with the old-fashioned spelling and no hyphen. Easier for your daughter too, not having to spell her name to every teacher.

the purpose of the extra N was for no reason other than to be a bit 'different'.

In that case, definitely don't do it.

Evelyn is a classic name. Evelynn renders it a bit silly.

Yanbu.This is why dh and me refused to tell anyone the name before ds was born so no-one could give an opinion.Its rare that anyone would dare comment on a baby name after it's born so that was our logic.

The hyphen makes it very fussy. It doesn’t roll off the tongue.

Glad you’ve decided to take it out.

I clicked on this thread because I'm in the same position with my mother constantly criticising the name we've chosen...

Coincidentally we have chosen the name, Evelina Lily for DD2 as it has a personal meaning for DH.
I chose DD1s name as it had a personal meaning for me.

People can be rude, I have flat out refuse to even speak about our name choice now. I got sick of the 'but what about so and so as a name' comments from my mum.

Evelyn Grace - Fine

Evelynn-Grace - Misspelled and a hyphen, not good.

Very rude, but some people always have something to say, when I trot out, when I want an opinion I'll ask for one.

Honestly? I think that's a gorgeous name but who cares if I didn't? Not you, because I would never have the nerve to ruin your chosen moniker!

We have been spitballing names for our bub (almost 20 weeks) and the grandparents have jokingly vetoed a few, but that's to be expected. Everyone else can, to quote my best friend, "eat a bag of dicks" when it comes to unwanted opinions or stories of awful people they've known with certain names!

@pasturesgreen Hi name please. Yes it's Evelynn with 2 N's..... NOT that difficult

Yep rude. Very rude.

We made the same mistake. Honest to God everyone HATED my DD's name. Went on for months. We even ended up 'trialling' another name after she was born due to the fuss.

I should have realised just how unbelievably pushy and dominating my family was when they behaved this way. Took a good few years to really realised how much they bully and push.

Nothing wrong with Evelyn Grace, although Evelyn is having a very, very big moment atm - she will be very dateable as born in the late 2010s. I do think the extra N and the hyphen would be a mistake, though, tbh. It's your dd who will have to do the whole tedious 'no, two Ns' and 'yes, with a hyphen' thing all her life. And hyphenated names do have a certain resonance with some people.

A more general point: I only agree with the 'your name, your choice and everyone else can do one' philosophy up to a point. The people who are reacting negatively now are the ones (or similar) who are going to react negatively to your child during his or her life. So I do think strong, consistent or (especially) numerous negative reactions should give you pause.