DH and I have been together for 10 years, DC are 12, 7 and 3. He has always been very selfish, although has improved a bit over the years.
My issue is that he literally does nothing with the DC unless it suits him, ie, takes them to sit and watch him play football leaving eldest DC in charge. He plays football every Saturday so obviously I do something with them on my own every Saturday. He will only miss a game if he is doing something else, ie lads weekend away.
On Sundays he will clean up the garden etc and maybe cook a roast.
He doesn't read to kids, take them anywhere, doesn't play with them, do homework with them, go to any parents evenings or plays, he barely even speaks to them in the house, just sits on his phone.
On top of this, he's been unfaithful to me, and has a very bad temper when roused. He's thrown stuff at me, pushed me up against a cupboard, punched the wall above my head and various doors etc in the house.
Despite all this, he's actually lovely when in a good mood and the kids adore him. I love him very much but I feel that surely things could be better? AIBU?