How would you have handled this situation - dd and theatre tickets

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The ONLY thing dd has asked for for Christmas is tickets to a West End musical. This musical closes this Saturday so it would have been an early Christmas present.

Dd reminded me about this a few times in the last few months but I don't know where the time went, I was busy with other things and Christmas seemed ages away. I forgot about it.

We both realised this week that it closes soon and I needed to get tickets. Spent hours yesterday online with no success - all sold out. Then late yesterday afternoon I saw a pair of tickets available for the Sat Mat which I grabbed. They were expensive (top price) but as dd really wanted to go I was happy to pay. The only slight doubt I had was that dd has a drama class on Saturday afternoons which she would have to miss and she has an exam coming up soon. However I thought she said her pieces were going well and she was ready.

So yesterday I told her the news and although initially she was thrilled, she was very worried about missing her class. She's doing a duologue with another girl who wouldn't be too happy about dd missing one of the last rehearsals.

There was a horrible atmosphere at home yesterday, dd was moody and sulky with the odd sarcastic comment thrown in for good measure. I was quite pissed off especially as I had spent time getting these tickets.

However last night dd came down and said her piece - she said she really is grateful but worried about missing her class. Also, she said it was the only thing she had asked for and me forgetting about it made her feel quite low priority. And she said that as she's been so stressed with schoolwork (Year 11 with mocks in Jan), small things have been getting to her more than normal.

I do feel bad about leaving it so late, had I have been more organised, there would have been a better range of tickets available and on a more convenient date.

I've spoken to the theatre - the only way we could possibly change them is bringing the mat tickets in to see if they can resell them (quite likely I imagine) and seeing if we can get day tickets or return tickets for Sat evening (possible but would involve getting to the theatre early Sat morning).

Thoughts please?

Blimey, haven't RTFT, but 'last mjnute' 'low priority', it's only November!

I don't even start thinking about Christmas til mid December. I appreciate that it's a show that's about to finish, but even so, she's being a bit harsh on you.

Good outcome, OP. Just think, even if you had booked ages in advance, something could have come up. I booked for something for my DC months ago and now, similar situation, there’s an exam lesson practice situation come up. So even the best laid plans can come acropper.

Thing is, you did get her what she asked for, she sounds a little ungrateful. Oh well, I'm in the minority.

@MrsJayy yes it’s a musical if the film Heathers. The soundtrack is ace and the stage JD is very hot!

I saw it before it moved to the west end, the theatre was small and the 80s music they played beforehand and at the interval really helped set the tone

OP remember your scrunchies and wear something green yellow or red! Loads of people get dressed up like the Heathers

@stooriehoose see you got right into it 😁

Twatforahat
Thing is, you did get her what she asked for, she sounds a little ungrateful. Oh well, I'm in the minority.

No, I'm right with you. I wouldn't have bought such an expensive Christmas present for a teenager anyway, and as it's so long before Christmas another present will still have to be bought, plus the OP has been lambasted and made to feel guilty and unloving.

As for "wanting to be heard" I'd have told my DDs they were entitled madams if they ever came out with shit like that to me. There's nothing like teenagers for learning all the jargon that allows them to appear high-minded and deep-thinking and very-hard-done-by.

Totally @MrsJayy totally! Much to DDs embarrassment 😂

Oh I think people are being a bit harsh on you OP. Sometimes life intervenes and our precious little babies can't get exactly what they want.

I'm sure the tickets are extremely expensive so she's really lucky to be going at all.

I'd go to the show and get her friend and her to rehearse another time.

Oh, I’m so pleased the drama teacher was supportive and that you and your daughter have talked it through. I think it sounds like you’ve raised a really emotionally articulate daughter. You should be proud of her. And of yourself for showing you care by having gone to such efforts to resolve it.