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To think my f&f are a bunch of

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Fewminmostly · 20/11/2018 21:10

Twats,
I've just come out of surgery under general and have one working hand.
DH -what time can I get you and can you come down to the entrance'
3 'bfs'- no texts,
2 f&f I'd told so just contacted them.
DD grown up got prompted by DH.
Nothing off DM.
All knew.
I'm the mug who coached all bffs through historical/recent illness/drama.

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 20/11/2018 21:18

Hope your surgery went okay, well it must have if they have let you out.
However with the greatest respect.
I haven't a clue what you're talking about. Probably me being dopey, though ConfusedGrin

madcatladyforever · 20/11/2018 21:19

Me neither, absolutely no idea.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 20/11/2018 21:19

Well DH is fine.

The rest, twats.

TheRealHousewifeofCheshire · 20/11/2018 21:21

Poster is saying shes had surgery and has listed who text and who hasnt

Get well soon

Pebblespony · 20/11/2018 21:21

Maybe they're giving you time to recover?

Allthewaves · 20/11/2018 21:21

Tbh your just out of surgery. I wouldn't ring you for a day or two as wouldn't want to disturb you while recuperating

HarrietKettleWasHere · 20/11/2018 21:23

I text my best mate before her surgery but left her alone for a bit after. I wouldn’t want to be responding to texts, if it was me I’d still have my phone on ‘do not disturb’. Give people a chance.

ShalomJackie · 20/11/2018 21:23

Surely noone would contact you the day you had surgery if major. If minor surely they would just ask how it went next time they saw you.

Weezol · 20/11/2018 21:24

Hope you have a swift revovery.

He needs to come to the ward to collect you. If you've had a general the staff need to see the person actually collect you.

howabout · 20/11/2018 21:27

Nope even DH is epic fail. He needs to come in and get you. If he's having trouble parking then he should come and get you and leave you sitting comfy in the entrance waiting area till he moves car to drop off zone.

No excuse for no text to let you know they're thinking about you and ask if anything you need - the joy of text is it doesn't demand instant response until recipient is up to it.

Surfskatefamily · 20/11/2018 21:27

I probably wouldnt expect everyone to text..they'll ask you about it when they see you i guess?
If it was life threatening id have expected them at hospital. But routine operations are really just routine in most peoples book

howabout · 20/11/2018 21:28

Oh and get well soon Flowers

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 20/11/2018 21:29

I’d expect texts from my nearest and dearest! Do people really not? Weird.

I’d always text a close friend a message about thinking of them or similar.

Christ I’d feel bloody unloved if no one bothered.

Sorry OP.

FittonTower · 20/11/2018 21:30

Are you upset your friends haven't been in touch? I don't think I'd be contacting my friend straight after surgery, I'd let them have a bit of time to recover unless they'd specifically asked me to bring something into hospital. When i was in with Sepsis (after an emcs) i really didn't want to see anyone so my instinct is to give people space to revover.
Hope you're feeling better soon.

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Fewminmostly · 20/11/2018 21:33

1 bf calls me everyday.
Others 1-2 per week.
All would deffo text straight after usually so reckon they've vaguely listened during my allotted 5 mins of our regular conversations and not made a note of actual day.
I've set alarms to remind me of their stuff.
I am being petty but just seem to keep having to reassess my friendships.

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AtrociousCircumstance · 20/11/2018 21:34

It’s not petty.

Maybe remind them you are there for them but you feel really let down.

Hope you feel better soon.

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Fewminmostly · 20/11/2018 21:35

Thanks for well wishes kind strangers 🌸

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Crinkle77 · 20/11/2018 21:48

How long ago exactly did you come out of surgery and what sort of procedure was it? Are we talking a quick minor procedure or something more serious?

onlyk · 20/11/2018 21:49

I’d wish you well before you went in but leave you alone for a day or two if you’ve had a general, basically to give you a little bit of time/space to recover.

After a day or two Probably call/text to check in if it’s ok to pop round with flowers & chocs.

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Fewminmostly · 20/11/2018 21:51

Admitted at 11 hand surgery under GA 1.5 hours. I texted my bf before and after her minor procedure under local so don't think I'm being a particular diva 😕

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Fewminmostly · 20/11/2018 21:52

I'm ok enough to text and eat a spud 🥔

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AnastasiaVonBeaverhausen · 20/11/2018 21:54

Hope your hand is better soon.
Don't forget a GA can make you feel pretty lousy for 48 hours, and quite emotional too, so I'd wait to tell them all they're twats until you're 48 hours clear and positive it's not the GA talking!

Eshergreen · 20/11/2018 21:54

I usually leave people alone but what is your DH’s problem? It wouldn’t kill him to get out of the car would it? Jeez.

TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup · 20/11/2018 21:56

I would probably have messaged everyone to let them know I was out of surgery, all well. Then they would reply.

Eshergreen · 20/11/2018 21:57

Cross-posted with anastasia making an excellent point about how a GA can affect you. It can cause depression and mood swings for a few days so tread carefully. Of course that doesn’t mean you’re not being reasonable, just be aware that your reactions might be different Flowers

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