To think my f&f are a bunch of

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Twats,
I've just come out of surgery under general and have one working hand.
DH -what time can I get you and can you come down to the entrance'
3 'bfs'- no texts,
2 f&f I'd told so just contacted them.
DD grown up got prompted by DH.
Nothing off DM.
All knew.
I'm the mug who coached all bffs through historical/recent illness/drama.

wishing you a full and quick recovery

Hope you are fully recovered soon, and sorry you are not getting the support that you give others.

I hope you feel better soon. But I really would wait for a couple of days before writing everyone off. They may well have plans to visit, buy presents etc in a couple of days, giving you time to recover. It's v difficult because some people would be complaining about being hassled with loads of texts just after getting out of surgery. It's a bit hard to get it right!

She has one working hand!

How was she supposed to get dressed, get her things and herself down to the entrance??

And a How Are You? text wouldn't have killed people even if you couldn't answer yet.

I would usually leave a friend alone for about 24 hours to be honest. If it was major surgery I would contact their family. Rest up

It can be lonely when you wake up after a GA etc OP and into surprising you feel let down when you didn’t hear from your bfs. However, people have different ideas about what’s the best approach after ops.
Take care and take advantage of the opportunity to rest.🍇

Your chap needs to come up to the ward and help you get dressed and get your self together and any meds that might have been prescribed.
For god's sake what's wrong with these men?
Hope hands better soon. Don't do anything just rest. xx

I’m not too sure what your DH has done wrong in this. You had an op on your hand, not your foot. He asked if you could get to the entrance, where he could drive and pick you up to save you going out in the cold to where he had parked. Your mates, well give them chance, they probably are leaving you in peace until tomorrow to give you some recovery time.

I know exactly how you feel. When I was in surgery last year NO ONE messaged me and DH didn't even come visit until second day.

Funny though, all turned up with Chinese when I had the flu 😂

Go figure

Oh and get well soon OP

I'm not quite sure what you're saying but I hope you get better soon

Op if they have not text or even rang then they have let you down,

I'm in uk too and I know that there at least if someone has surgery people go that same day (at visiting time) so I can see why you feel hurt by this...

Op focus on yourself and your recovery, I hope you feel better soon

Foot-wife-man sounds nuts.

OP’s feelings are completely understandable.

Hope your DH comes up to get you.
Perhaps people didn’t want to disturb you.
Get well soon

I thought you were talking about F&F the tesco clothing brand then worked it out= friends and family.

Yep I agree.

I think you have unreasonably high expectations. I can't imagine having to phone a friend every day. It sounds a bit high maintenance.

I'm with OP on this.
If my friends had gone through similar, it would be a quick text checking they're ok, and letting them know to contact me when they were ready for company/a coffee out somewhere etc.

In fact, come to think of it, this did happen about a month ago.
I hadn't heard from friend after op (day surgery), so I messaged her dh. Asking how friend was and to let me know if I was needed for anything.

Hope your recovery goes well

I was fending people off after very serious surgery so I find it hard to empathise. I just wanted to be left alone. DH, however, was a fucking Rockstar and visited/brought everything I could possibly need despite working full time and needing to walk multiple dogs.

Not meaning to sound like the bad guy but people do have their own lives. Me and my friends don't speak everyday, but we know that no matter what we would be there for each other when needed. We don't have to communicate 24/7 to know that we are best friends. I've probably forgotten loads of times to send a simple text, the realisation is that I have a baby and things to do. I do think that your partner could have came and collected you though and brought down your bags, not texting for you to come down.

I've put it on FB -no not a vague check in at hospital lol. I'm either giving them a heads up or being passive aggressive 😬 no excuses now. I better wake up to bouquets being delivered.
DH came up for me and had redeemed himself somewhat
Thank you for all your kind wishes. 💓

TBH it wouldn't occur to me to text someone the minute thay had come out of surgery. For a start I wouldn't expect them to be looking at their phones while they are still groggy from the anaesthetic.

Last time I had a GA I was out of it for hours afterwards, and feeling very sick.

I never contact someone right after surgery unless. I wait until they or their support person are well enough to volunteer an update. Otherwise you are potentially annoying them during a very tough situation.

Your DH is being daft. He needs to come collect you.

It wouldn't occur to me to txt my friends or family (save for DP) immediately after they've had an operation. I'd probably check in over the next day or so if I hadn't heard anything....maybe.