To think he doesn't realise I fancy him?!

[Trixibelle1983]

There's a guy at work that I really fancy. I've been dropping lots of hints but ge never seems to act on them but never backs off or encourages me to back of either. I think he might be attracted to me but just be totally unaware of my signs. Have you ever met a guy like this who really needs it spelling out and who doesn't pick up on hints? I think I'm being reasonably clear but maybe not. I know that the other glaringly obvious answer is that he's just not that keen...but my 6th sense is telling me he is. I would really appreciate your thoughts please.

God, I wish someone would make the first move with my brother. He too is warm, charming, intelligent and principled, and has made a career of hanging out with women he passionately fancies, oblivious to the clear fact that they passionately fancy him back. After a few years they give up and find someone more receptive, and then he's sad. Please, OP, make the move on this guy.

@ladycarlotta Didn't you ever give him a nudge? And are you sure they felt that way?

Absolutely everyone under the sun used to think my best female friend fancied me. And I mean everyone. They say how she looked at me, how she behaved around me, how much time we spent together.
We'd both be at the same party and people we'd never met before would always assume we were a couple and be astonished when we corrected them. A mutual friend of ours actually asked her outright at a party I wasn't at one time and best friend said "god no, he's my best friend but no, I'd never want that!"

I think often people see what they want to see - they see two single people who get on very well and think "wouldn't it be lovely if they got together, they are so right for each other" and start believing themselves rather than the actual fact that sometimes, people just get on really well but don't fancy each other.

@shatnerswig no, that's not the sort of situation I'm thinking of. And I've given him plenty of nudges.

Tell him. If you don't you will regret it. Trust me