Was I out of order or bus driver

[Alwaysbekind2014]

DD age 5, has mutiple disabilities including organ failures she has a special chair although she can walk is mobile for short periods of time. However she is attached to IV bags for 16 hours.
This morning we had a hospital appointment but we had to take her attached to things as nothing has finished yet.
So at the bus stop there is 1 stroller and is with daughter in chair.
Bus arrives and I needed to get on it there was no way we could of waited. The stroller managed to get on first but as she was getting on I did shout over to driver there’s a wheelchair, as there was another stroller already on. He didn’t care and then once I got to door I asked if we could get on, he said only if we didn’t block the aisle which we would of as at this point the lady had parked by the other stroller and wasn’t moving.
This is a London bus that clearly states pushchairs much make room for wheelchairs and they have priority.
Anyway so he shut the doors and I took a photo of the front of the bus.
He then re opened the doors and told us to get on and asked the strollers to make room he then shouted and slammed his door to his seat area on front of my 5 year old that it’s a pushchair and it isn’t my job.
In the end the aisle was blocked and I stood with chair by bars holding on. ( visible equipment attached to the back )

And people in wheelchairs do not have to explain where they are going, or in any way justify why they need the space. It’s totally unacceptable to try moral blackmail.

What had stuck out to me on this whole thread, once again, is how some people believe people with disabilities live their lives. The assumptions made here have shown that some think disabled people only leave the house to shop, socialise or go to medical appointments.

Well, no. They work, they have kids to get to nursery/school/activities, they have families they may want to visit. They often have all the things you have in your life - plus a few more.

I'm not a chair user, but I am disabled. Overwhelmingly I've found people don't even think they're being ableist when they are. Every time you think that a disabled person is only using the bus to get coffee or go to the cinema (using the examples given here), and you think that your need trumps theirs, you are being ableist. Every time you suggest there should be some kind of justification bingo to work out who gets the space, that's ableist. Every time you think that a SN buggy doesn't look much different to a regular one and don't take someone's word for it, that's ableist.

I drive, and one of my biggest annoyances is when people park across the back of me and block me in. They assume as a disabled person I have no urgent need to be anywhere or do anything important. People do it at supermarkets to load their shopping and say "I'll only be a sec!" One time someone blocked me in and proceeded to change their baby's nappy on the back seat! They were "too busy" to go into the shop toilets to do it. Taxi drivers do it all the time. When I have asked people to move, they seem surprised I have other places to be and don't just politely wait for them to be finished.

Basically, stop assuming that your life as an able person is SOOO much more important than a disabled person's. That is the very definition of ableism. You get to use public transport and can choose from however many seats. Wheelchair users get no choice, one space only, as long as it's not taken by another wheelchair user or a knob. Try living your life that way, no choice, just one allocated space and if it's gone, tough shit. You would soon realise how bloody lucky you are.

OP - YWDNBU!!!

Bus driver was being very unreasonable but the pushchair parents were even worse.