Dp and I have been together 6 years and planning on getting married next year. Its a small thing and we have invited the people we want only instead of inviting every single person out of obligation amd this includes extended family members.
My dp has not invited one of his uncles (his mums brother) for several reason: he hasnt seen or spoke to him in over 10 years and he doesnt like him, any memory of him has been extremely negative and my dp's dad also really dislikes the uncle.
My dp has been told if the uncle isnt invited then mil is not going (theres also the possibilty dp will be cut out of the will if he doesnt)
For comparison i havnt invited one of my uncles for the same reasons and my family have respected my choice with no fall outs.
We do not have a good relationship in the first place with mil (could write a book about that) and we arent bothered if she doesnt come. Obviously dp would like his mum to be there but his dad has said hes going and thats enough. We understand the loyalty she has to her brother and that extends to missing her sons wedding.
Are we being unreasonable for not inviting him?