To hate it when people say they'd love to spend Christmas alone?

[Ruckup]

I had to, for many, many years. It was awful and I nearly ended it. Shut off from everything and everybody and tbh i still don't much like christmas now.

I see the crap about christmas alone on here and I'm sorry, I think it's bull.

Everyone's different

I think it’s different if it’s a choice to be alone rather than a situation being forced on you.

But some people genuinely enjoy it. To each his/her own, surely?

If they genuinely enjoy it and are doing it, OK.

If they mean they are surrounded by friends and family and would love a minute's peace, no.

YABU

Life is busy some people would love a day where they can do whatever they like in peace.

That's simply the opposite to the situation you found yourself in. An introverted person may long for Christmas alone and feel obligated to go to family.

Having said that it does not detract from the crap situation you found yourself in for many years.

Yanbu
It’s all well and good for those people to Chuck it out as a throw away comment, but do they genuinely want to be completely alone. I doubt it.
It’s the same people who say, oh having kids is such hard work, and ruins you’re life to a childless person

It’s not sensitive if they’re saying it to mean a minute or two peace and quiet and they’re saying it to people who had to spend Christmas alone and hated it.... BUT there is no real reason why Christmas alone is a nightmare for everyone. Pre DC I would have honestly been fine with Christmas on my own. I like my own company, hated Christmasses visiting family, dreaded it every year... before DP I used to spend almost every weekend alone and it was fine for me, I find sometimes being with other people quite draining.

YABa bitU

I do spend Christmas alone by choice and I love it. Tbh it’s only on MN that I find people saying they wish they could spend it alone. In real life most people think I’m a total freak and still try to invite me to theirs so I’m not alone.

But i appreciate that it’s hard if you’re alone not through choice and that it’s normal to be sensitive about things that you want to change but can’t

I've spend many Christmasses with DH working all day when he was in the forces and I was 100s of miles away from family. It never bothered me 🤷🏼‍♀️ However I was younger and perhaps more resilience then. I'm not sure how I'd feel now but I like my own company and often long for DH and the dcs to disappear for a few days.

Of course, if it's forced on you, it's different.

I have chosen to spend two Christmases on my own and I absolutely loved it. I volunteered in the morning, came home to great food, champagne, my favourite films. Less stress about gifts, borderline racist distant family members, etc. Would absolutely do it again soon, despite having a partner.

One of my favourite things is to book a really nice hotel for NYE, bring some nice drinks, order room service and lounge about in a robe and slippers. Can't imagine a better way to celebrate the new year!

Difference between DH working away and 100s miles away from family to not having those people at all. Sorry but there is.

If my dh was working away it would be totally fine!!
But I guess that’s where people don’t understand the difference between being alone and loneliness.

Yabu. It wasn't good for you, it's good for others. Who do you think you are to dictate how they feel?

They don't feel it!

If their husbands, kids, mothers, fathers and brothers and sisters died, they'd be heartbroken at spending christmas alone.

Just because it's not what you want doesn't mean it's 'bull' if other people want it.

Some people do like being alone at Christmas. I spent many years doing my own thing on the actual day. I bloody loved it.

However, I appreciate for some people it's awful.

Honestly this site. I think I need to take a break. What's your point OP, are you genuinely alone in this world? When my DH was in the bloody Falklands for 6 mths over Christmas and we were overseas I was still on my own in the pre Internet days for days on end. Almost a fortnight over Christmas/NY until I could get back to work.

Thanks @SpecialLittlePrince. I'm over the pity parties, judgements and people telling you that your views aren't valid. Tells me it's time for a break.

I'd quite like it-once. And by choice.
That's the difference, when it isn't a choice. Then it's loneliness x1000
Suicide rates are higher at Christmas than any other time.

My point is obvious. I get that its a difficult situation if dh is in the forces, but it's not the same as not having one at all.

Why do you think you have the right to speak for everyone?

Why (because it seems "wrong" in your eyes) must that be the absolute truth?

Some people don't really feel that Christmas is a special time. My DH would be glad to spend every Christmas on his own. Thinks the fuss and bother is all unnecessary. Doesn't mean he wants to shun everyone forever.

The handful of years I have succeeded in spending Christmas alone have been brilliant. The difference, as others have said, is that it was my choice. I'm sorry you had years of lonely Christmasses that you didn't want, OP, but other people are allowed to want what they want.

But the people saying they'd like to spend it alone aren't saying they wish everyone they love dies so they can spend it alone- what a bizarre comment .

You can love people very much but find it draining to be around them, feel crushed by the weight of expectation around Christmas, feel overwhelmed by life and need a moment of quiet...