To find it really distasteful to take photos of your children’s gifts?

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I’ve noticed a trend on Facebook for mums to post photos the night before their child’s birthday of a big pile of wrapped up gifts. Or just as bad, after the event posting a picture of a big pile of opened gifts.

Since when does anyone want to see pictures of presents? It feels really tacky and showy.

FB is bollocks, I am blessed to have a busy and fulfilled life that prevents me from having the time to record it on FB. I definitely would never post a photo of my DC.

I have a FB “friend “ who does this along with 100s of photos when they go on holiday. In the past they have stacked Christmas present floor to ceiling almost filling the room. I like to imagine they are empty boxes that are photoed then put back in the loft before children get up.
Her children have had real difficulties at school in the past. They struggle to understand why everyone else around them doesn’t treat them like royalty. Very sad really.

I do it, and I don't give a shiny shit what anyone thinks.

To me, a pile of wrapped presents is magical. I love looking back over the photos with my DS and my own mother did the same for me, so I enjoy looking at those too.

I think if people can get worked up over what photos other people post, then social media probably isn't for them.

They are usually the same people who make a big deal about gifts from their husbands and buying a new car. Bit sad really.

My mother did this long before social media, and I love looking at those photos with her. Now, I do it, too, and my eldest is already asking to look at the photos from the last few Christmases.

It’s fine taking photos for your own memories but a bit odd posting it on social media.

Why is it sad to be excited about buying a new car?

Many of us don't get to do it very often, so it's quite an exciting thing to do.

I find scoffing at other people and how they make their happiness to be the sad thing, really.

It is tacky and desperately insecure to want to show the world how much you are spending on presents for your children. By all means spend whatever you want but keep it to yourself.

"It’s fine taking photos for your own memories but a bit odd posting it on social media."

But social media is where all my photos are stored (backed up on computer also.) It's where I look back on and where the memories function pops up pictures of the same time last year. I love looking back at things and sharing things with family and friends. I don't care if people don't like it, then can unfollow me or unfriend me if they're not interested!

I'm not insecure, thanks. Also, I don't show the world. I have a very small social media circle, mainly family abroad and close friends and they enjoy my photos. And I don't "do" tacky.

Perhaps you should use an "in my opinion" in your posts. That should fix it.

Why is it sad to be excited about buying a new car?
It isn’t but it is sad to brag about it on SM.
I got a new car recently and was really pleased with it and showed my close friends and family and they were pleased for me too but I didn’t put it on FB because then it wouldn’t bragging which is a nasty character trait.

wouldnt = would be

Why is it bragging to put it on social media, but telling lots of people individually isn't?
I'm pleased for my friends when they get a new car and love the Christmas pictures of all the presents even though I'm as poor as a church mouse. Friends are usually happy for their friends.

Professormoody you are bang on, scoffing at other people’s happiness is a sad thing and it is lovely to get excited about gifts and new cars etc. I have lots of photos of these special moments in my life and I love to share with love ones, not the world of FB For me though, it prevents any scoffing. Each to their own.

I’m one of them parents, 🙋🏼 And quite honestly don’t give a shit what you think

life is to short and I wanna remember it as best possible

Comments like this illustrate perfectly why people do it in my opinion.

Sharing happiness isn't bragging. I think you may need to revisit that definition.

If someone puts a photo of their car on social media with a comment of something like, "New car day!", or, "Picked up the new wheels today, I LOVE my new car!" then that isn't bragging.

If someone put a photo of their new car on social media with a comment that said, "Just picked up my new car, which is superior to anything you lot have, haha I am so much better than you", then that would be bragging.

That's social media though - fake and braggy.

Do tell us why, Ajas.

I’d rather my kids got up and see shit loads of balloons and some presents than the parents arguing and no one bothering.
The OP doesn't like the pictures of presents on Facebook. I too, don't like the pictures of a pile of presents on social media. It's braggy and distasteful. However, I don't have a problem with anyone buying balloons and presents!

I like to take pictures of the presents for my own records so that when the presents are put away, I can remember what they were.

I do an after the event photo,with DD and the presents she received from other people with a"thank you for coming,DD is loving all her awesome presents" type comment. Meh.

YANBU. I think the same.
Couple years ago someone shared a receipt from the bank of how much money they deposited into their 'little princesses' bank account for Christmas.
I still have no words lol

I don’t like it. I think it would make people who can’t afford much feel shit.
I sometimes post pics of my kids opening something cos I like to have pics of that kind of thing and share with family but it would be a book or something rather than a main present.

I think it's really crass. I think it puts pressure on people who maybe can't afford such extravagance and end up in debt just to keep up.

I take a picture of the tree with presents under on Christmas morning to send to the grandchildren telling them that FC has been to our house too! Wouldn't dream of being tacky enough to put it onto social media though.