AIBU to wash 7yo's hair in a bowl instead of in the shower?

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DS hates getting his hair washed. He showers fine, washes himself well, dries off. But doesn't shampoo his hair in the shower.

I wash it for him 1 - 2 times per week, he leans back over a bowl in the kitchen and I give it a quick shampoo. Takes 5 mins.

DP is going mad over this, says he's 7, he should be able to do this. I think it's not a big deal, i didn't grow up with a shower and we used to wash hair like this.

Who is being unreasonable?

Back. Lol. Surprisingly though it may be to you, I don’t actually care where OP’s son is able to wash his own hair or not.

However, the AIBU was whether OP’s DH was unreasonable to want his 7yo son to wash his own hair.

And I agree with him.

If the issue is that DS wants a bit of mum and son bonding over a shampoo and rinse - I’d say, well, absolutely go for it! Whatever floats your boat!

But, the question is whether a 7yo boy, who is apparently capable of showering by himself, should be expected to extend that to washing his own hair. And I think yes.

I don't really see the issue tbh

I was sent to boarding school aged 6.

You post like a rude, cold person. I wonder why that could have happened?

You post like a rude, cold person.

Right back atcha @Kokeshi123

I'm mystified as to why this is an issue. He's only 7. As long as you don't mind doing it, OP, then what's the problem? If your DH is extrapolating out to some overly-dramatic notion that DS will 'never' be independent because he is 'still' having his hair washed by his mum (at the ripe old age of - gasp! - seven), then he needs to get a grip.

It is healthy to encourage independence especially share personal care

Especially with

I agree with those who think this is not an issue at all. He's seven. Children develop at different rates and if he's not got the hang of this yet then so be it. What is wrong with some people rushing children into being so independent. Mum doesn't mind doing the hair washing or if she did she'd ve

Whoops...sent too quickly. Meant to say if mum doesn't mind doing the hair washing this way then she must mind much yet or she would've already refused to be doing it. You can't force a child with something they have issues with. It'l only escalate the issue. He'll get there in the end. As to the rude person saying they were sent away at age six then that says it all imo. And obviously it didn't damage their mental stability did it..for the sake of their ' education ' at six?? Goodness. Poor thing had no choice but to be independent.

My ds is 10 and I still wash his hair. I do it when he is in the bath.

LOL my seven year old wouldn’t manage herself
My 9 year old certainly doesn’t (SN)

I see no issues, in fact I don’t even see the big deal