Why are people so precious about little girl curls?!

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Semi light hearted
My daughter has lovely curls. The kind that are commented on wherever we go. Everyone loves the curls.

Every morning there is the battle of the curl. By this I mean her hair is like candy floss when she gets up. Then we have the tussle of detangling spray, a wide tooth comb and inching my way through it all, to the chorus of “mummy stop!”. Yes, I have researched and tried many shampoos/conditioners and sprays. I have tried only washing her hair when absolutely needed.

Her hair is much better and easier when I give it a little trim every now and then. Family and friends are genuinely offended when her hair is cut.
“How could you cut her lovely curls?!”
“Why on earth would you cut those curls!”
“Her hair is too short!”

Now my daughter has never had long hair, it just doesn’t grow. So she sports a curly bob that gets neatened up. When cut, the curls bounce beautifully and our lives are peaceful for a while.

Why are people so affronted by cutting her hair?! What is it about curls?! Why does she need to have long hair?

For full disclosure she is 3 years old and has zero opinion on her hair or length of it

I have super curly hair. I hated it for years. Other people love it though. Have you looked at the curly girl method OP?
I wouldn’t advise brushing at all. I use a widentooth comb on mine when I am washing it and it’s full of conditioner otherwise I would be weeping as well!

I remember how disappointed i was when my dd had her hair cut for the first time i’ve. Her beautiful curls never grew back.

Definitely a curl thing, my 1yo DS gets comments, and hair touched, everyday. And no one wants me to get it cut. It’s not too bad just now but will need cut soon as does get tuggy.

Lots of people assume he’s a girl too.

I’ve tried tying it up but she simply pulls it out in her sleep. I haven’t heard of a silk pillow case though! I usually put some deep conditioning treatments on it. I’ve spent rather a lot of money trying solutions.

LAAA yes they are similar to my daughters curls but hers are longer.

I did look at the Curley girl method and I did buy a special hair towels (I forget what the fabric is but it isn’t a rough towel) for her hair. I will have another look though. I think the issue is my daughter swears buckets in the night (regardless of room temp) and that makes her hair wet...and she also rolls around massively too..

It doesn't stop even when your not a cute child.

I have a mass of curls, their bloody insane to manage, i can not manage them any longer than a chin length bob. But every time i cut them my colluages comment "oh why have you cut your lovely curls"

Because their distictly unlovely to manage

Sweats not swears! Haha!

Lots of children who had curly hair as babies and toddlers end up with hair which is less curly as they get older and have their baby hair cut off.

My hair used to be curly as a baby, but because my hair got thicker and heavier as I got older, the curl disappeared. Now it's wavy, but without the curly girl method would be a triangular mass of frizz. For years I thought I had straight hair, with loads of frizz.

Maybe the people objecting to you cutting her hair are worried that you're going to end up trimming the curls out completely.

Sometimes the curls disappear. My dd's disappeared; so did my neighbour's daughter's.

Maybe the people objecting to you cutting her hair are worried that you're going to end up trimming the curls out completely.

That is probably it. She can’t go forever without a hair cut though. I will be totally honest, if one day her curls disappeared I wouldn’t mind too much. I know they are likely to not last forever.

If it's really curly tangle teasers still hurt. I only brush when it's wet in the bath with loads of conditioner. And I have been known to cut bits out of it when it's been particularly stubborn!

Swimming lessons make it go silky and beautiful, must be the chlorine 😂

I got moans of "oh, your poor daughter!" when I cut her hair close to her scalp. She was eating it and not pooing or eating properly so it was that or she was in severe discomfort, but some people were more concerned with the way she looked. Crazy.

OP I feel you on this one. I have two curly DD, both ringlet style and both tangled no matter what I've tried. Really gorgeous, love them, but such a nightmare to tame without pulling half their scalp off.
Cutting makes it more manageable so don't think you are wrong, as pp said people just think they are cute but don't understand the practicality.
I thought DD1s hair was never going to grow, now at 11 she has curls past her waist. Needless to say she hates it.

I know what you mean except in my case it was my son. From being bald until nearly two he grew an amazing head of curly hair and everyone was all soppy about it.

What was worse, imo, was the fact that he was blonde and then his hair darkened. People kept saying it was such a shame he was no longer blonde. That annoyed me because I, too, was blonde up until I was maybe five or six and had to hear grown ups saying the same about me.
I'm happy to say that both he and I eventually had really nice coloured hair.

Anyway enjoy your little girl's lovely hair - I sympathise about the grooming. Washing, brushing and combing is such a pain with curls.

I was that parent obsessed with her little girls curls! At 5yo DD had only had one trim and only 1cm was taken off because I was terrified she'd lose her beautiful curls.

We also had the same battles with hair brushing, detangling spray, tears etc and it took so long to brush because it was long and thick.

She asked for her hair to be cut short for ages before we did it, I nearly cried (pathetic!)

Now she has shoulder length straight hair, it's so much easier to brush, DD is happier, she doesn't get sweets caught in it (that was fun!) and she looks more grown up.

I do miss her curls though, hoping DD2 has curly hair so we can go through the whole thing again!

I think it is a curl rather than girl thing. My DS gets lots of attention because of ginger curls.

If she doesn't have any opinions, crop her hair short for comfort. Other people can fuck off. It is not your little girl's duty to 'look nice' particularly when 'looking nice' comes at the cost of daily pain and discomfort.

I hate my little girls curls. Every morning her hair looks like a birds nest lol, need to wet it to make it make more manageable and look somewhat tidy.

My dd had tight corkscrew curls. Everyone admired them. They were absolutely gorgeous, but, look le you say they were an absolute nightmare!
She’s 17 now and there’s absolutely no trace of them. They’ve just disappeared! Because they were so tight, I was sure she’d have them for life, but no!

Mum of a super curly here! Always been commented on, my mum being the worst! "Why would you cut them"....because they start to look like candy floss at the end.

Oh and after spending hundreds on a products and gadgets we have discovered that the tangle tamer rather than tangle teaser works better for us and original sprout miracle detangler changed my life!

I despise people who won't let a kid have a hair cut because their hair is 'beautiful'. Ooompa, don't you feel at all guilty that you were causing your child pain on a daily basis because her appearance was more important than her comfort?

How adorable! If people really go on about it, I'd probably say something like 'shh please, I don't want her getting a complex or learning that looks really matter' or just remind that its a lot longer than it looks, the curls coiling up make it seem shorter.
People go on about DD's long hair but i prefer it in a bob, I think it looks so sweet on little girls (I would never say as she prefers it long).

My hair gets curlier as I get older. I can see my daughters going the same way. I might biy some manuka honey conditioner for myself

I'm not super curly but have been curly all my life. Never had long hair.

I think the long hair for girls thing has grown in recent years - in my primary school while most girls could have a pony tail, only one had proper long hair.

And YY to curly girl. Life changing. And more conditioner than you thought was sensible.

My 4 year old has curls too & same situation. The only thing that saves us tears it's a load of argan oil every morning applied by hand to tame the knots. No brush & only light combing with a wide toothed comb. I miss the oil a single day & live to regret it. I do find that not cutting her hair is useful as the weight keeps the curls hanging well & makes life easier. Only 1 tiny trim in 4 years. The best product (of all......that's I've tried) is Aveda Be Curly Curl enhancer on wet hair post washing. Really deep conditions plus curls the curls without knots.