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Sue Radford, baby 21 is here..

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FortuneFrimble · 10/11/2018 07:14

Daily Fail story here
21 babies! That's some achievement. I cannot believe her body is still in one piece. I feel sorry for those kids though. There's absolutely no way they can all have the individual attention they need growing up. Four kids maybe, perhaps 6 at an absolute push but 21 seems like collecting trophies for a hobby to me. It'd be interesting to see what families those children decide to have when the time comes. It seems like she's putting her own want for babies ahead of her existing children's wellbeing & that isn't healthy. I'm curious that she's practically guaranteed herself an endless supply of babies as her children have children. But they're supposedly paying for everything themselves so we're not allowed to say anything against them. I don't agree with it. Tell me I'm being U.

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MrsBobDylan · 10/11/2018 08:24

I am always amazed that with 21 children, there isn't one who has a disability.

I have three children, two who receive DLA. Out of those two one will never live independently. Between them they have a learning disability, autism, epilepsy, type 1 diabetes and Tourette's.

I can totally get the love of babies but I also can't understand the small age gaps. At 18months they are still babies, why the desperate need for another so soon?

And the fear of what carrying another child could do to her. That must be terrifying.

WhoWants2Know · 10/11/2018 08:25

I hear what everyone is saying. But if I had had the opportunity, I'm pretty sure I'd have been popping out a baby every 18-24 months for as long as my uterus held out. Posters are saying its a mental illness, but for me It's not so much a mental thing as it is a hormone and body thing. My body is just not happy unless it's pregnant or breastfeeding. It's almost like an addiction.

Having more than 2 kids isn't something I can afford to do, and I have to constantly cram my body with hormones to hold back the drive to get pregnant. It hurts, actually hurts, every day.

So I don't feel like I can judge what she does.

Fallingout · 10/11/2018 08:25

@mumto2babyboys that ‘you are wrong’looks awful, sorry, I’m breastfeeding and typing!

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 10/11/2018 08:26

No child gets ( or needs ) undivided attention,

What a sad thing to say! Of course children need undivided attention, granted maybe not every day but I imagine these children go weeks or months or maybe never without a conversation on their own. For the youngest especially they will likely never have 1-1 time reading a book or playing a game.

It is often when you are alone with children that you really learn about how they are feeling or you notice when something is wrong. These children never get that chance to share their thoughts.

DonDrapersOldFashioned · 10/11/2018 08:26

surferjet, have you got older children/teens? They may not need the intensive personal care (washing/dressing/feeding) that small kids need but they DO need emotional input and time. I have got 3 young adult children and they require different parenting skills but they definitely still require parenting.

mumto2babyboys · 10/11/2018 08:27

I don't know much about the ins and out of benefits but wasn't there some sort of cap as well as to how much people could claim?

I don't think she is doing it for the money just feels some need to have lots of children

HellenaHandbasket · 10/11/2018 08:28

I'm still pmsl at the 'endured a 12 minute' labour.

madnessIsay · 10/11/2018 08:28

I also think it’s too complex to talk about strains on the nhs/environment. My 2 small children have probably got a bigger carbon footprint then 10 of theirs. I had 5 operations before I was 21 & countless a&e trips. Nothing wrong with me just bad luck & accident prone.

Roussette · 10/11/2018 08:29

I hear what everyone is saying. But if I had had the opportunity, I'm pretty sure I'd have been popping out a baby every 18-24 months for as long as my uterus held out. Posters are saying its a mental illness, but for me It's not so much a mental thing as it is a hormone and body thing. My body is just not happy unless it's pregnant or breastfeeding. It's almost like an addiction

With all due respect and I am NOT getting at you... but that is all me me me isn't it? It's what you want, not what is best for your family. I wanted my children to feel special because they are special. The Radfords children can't feel in the slightest bit special because there's always a replacement for them a year later.

brizzledrizzle · 10/11/2018 08:29

12 minutes?! Some people spend longer in the shower than that! Hopefully the baby is healthy.

mumto2babyboys · 10/11/2018 08:29

Sorry guys I really wasn't aware they were claiming. Just shows how much fake news there is these days as so much stuff said they don't claim any benefits Confused

Aeroflotgirl · 10/11/2018 08:30

Very selfish, and wrong.i hope that she is not able to have another baby forcthe sake of her children.

Alexandra2018 · 10/11/2018 08:31

I'd loose the plot running round after them! Also he may work they receive a massive amount of child tax credits and child benefits.

Fallingout · 10/11/2018 08:32

Her parents are around and have been filmed before (I’m pretty sure saying she should stop having children!)
That article states she’s 43 and her eldest son is 30, so there’s some serious case of child abuse going on and it’s weird we as a nation celebrate an abuse victim and her abuser.

madnessIsay · 10/11/2018 08:33

Why is ok for someone with 2 children to claim wtc but not 21 (assume it’s less though as some are over 18) ?

I’ve not entitled to wtc or CB.

canyouhearthedrums · 10/11/2018 08:34

As someone pointed out, years ago Sue blogged very openly and her fb was public. I remember a few dc having spLD's, bullying, one dc being excluded from school for behavioural issues. Like any other family I'm sure they have their issues but they are much more private now about what they put out there. I remember reading that the oldest boy was NC for a few years, but he and his dd were mentioned this time so he must be in contact again.

Pinkkahori · 10/11/2018 08:35

Birth rates are too low according to the report I linked. Maybe the Radfords are doing everyone a favour.

MinecraftHolmes · 10/11/2018 08:35

Even just with nappies - if we assume anywhere from 5-10 nappy changes a day from birth to 2.5, that’s between 90000 to 190000 nappies festering in landfill for the next 600 years because of just one family.

Fallingout · 10/11/2018 08:36

@canyouhearthedrums yes her old blog disappeared which was wise!

Theyprobablywill · 10/11/2018 08:36

Does the mum have learning disabilities? I don't know much about the family, but I've just had a look at some of the family vlogs on YouTube, and I thought she came over as a child trying to act like an adult, it was quite strange.

madnessIsay · 10/11/2018 08:36

Pinkkahori yes we have a ever shrinking tax paying population.

surferjet · 10/11/2018 08:36

DonDrapersOldFashioned

My kids have all grown up now but when they were little they did watch a lot of telly.
They did lots of other things too of course but I was no Mary Poppins.

Any more than 6 and I’d have literally died of stress & exhaustion.
So I have to admire Sue Redford. Just for still being alive & well after 21 children.

madnessIsay · 10/11/2018 08:38

Also a part of me thinks it’s amazing her body can actually do it. My body could barely cope with no 2.

Soubriquet · 10/11/2018 08:39

I feel so sorry for her children

The parents claim they love having a new baby, but the kids themselves admit they don’t want any more brothers or sisters

Parents are delusional

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