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Weird situation with a courier

97 replies

Shiklah · 08/11/2018 09:34

The access to our rural property was very difficult when we bought it and we have recently completed work to have a driveway built, making it easier to turn around (we are the last house on a long narrow lane on a steep hill). Last Thursday builders were just finishing off and the access was blocked by DH truck, when a courier arrived with a parcel. DS15 answered the door and the courier got very close to him and was ranting that he couldn’t turn around. Hearing this I came to the door and said he should calm down and stop shouting, and that I would get my husband to move the truck (I can’t as I am not licenced to drive it). When I said this he courier went berserk and ran at me waving his arms and shouting “get him, get the big man, I am not scared of him or no one, get him, I’ll show him”. DH was working on a building project behind the house and was unaware of the courier, so I decided it was best not to escalate the situation so I repeate ‘you need to calm down’ and walked back in the house. He reversed down, which I am sure was difficult.

I reported it to the shop and saved the cctv footage of his outburst which clearly shows him aggressively charging at me and his snarling contorted face etc. They apologised and said the couriers company/management would be in touch.

On Tuesday I was telephoned by the courier who was verbally aggressive on the phone shouting at me and and accusing me of ‘you pissed me off threatening me with your big boyfriend. He’s massive isn’t he, 6 footer eh? Why you do that, it was out of order’
I was completely taken back and just repeated that I has calmly told him my husband would come and move his truck, no threats had been made. He said he had a parcel for me and I said I felt it was best if he left it for now, and ended the call by saying “i’m going to go now, I can’t have aggression directed at me and I need this sorting out officially” he stared shouting again but I ended the call.

Yesterday he called again. His opening statement was “we have a big problem here’ and then launched into a rant about all the parcels he’d brought me over the last few months and how grateful I should be, how he felt I was threatening him and I had to accept his behaviour as ‘he’s not scared of anyone’ , how all his customers love him ‘black people, white people, everyone gets likes me and I have no problems you are causing this problem’ etc. When I could get a word in I asked why he was calling me and he said he had a parcel and unless he delivered it today, I would never get a delivery again. I asked him to take the parcel to the depot and ask his manager to call me”
He then said ‘managers name asked me to call you, he thinks you’re a trouble maker’
So I just said, right, okay, let’s leave it there, I’m going now and ended the call. I later got a text saying my parcel was at a local shop but I can collect it as I working hours so can’t get there to collect it.

So what now? The courier hasn’t contacted me - I have made a formal complaint. My first parcel was from M&S who were very apologies, the second is amazon who again have apologised but how can I find out what is happening with the courier? I am worried he’s going to return and be aggressive, we live very rurally. I also have a delivery set up for medications and lots of other things as I am disabled. I am very anxious and couldn’t sleep last night although that seems a bit silly in the light of day.

Sorry it’s long. Thanks for any advice.

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Shiklah · 08/11/2018 09:37

Sorry I didn’t even put an AIBU

TL/DR a courier behaved aggressively at my property and now I am anxious about it and can’t get anyone from the comany to contact me

AIBU to expect a response from the courier Company? Does anyone know how to resolve this?

Sorry it’s long.

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Racecardriver · 08/11/2018 09:41

I would call the police on a non emergency number for advise. This man is aggressive, he has been harassing you on the phone and, he knows where you live. I think you have very reasonable grounds to concerned here. Have you reported his aggressive phone calls to his employer? I think you need to speak to the police first and if they think it’s ok call his employer and tell them that you never want to be contacted by that particular driver again.

Racecardriver · 08/11/2018 09:42

*advice I really hate that kind of typo

Shiklah · 08/11/2018 09:45

I ave reported it all to both the courrier and the companies I ordered from. M&S and amazon both responded quickly and were apologetic but don’t seem to have any power over the couriers.

Living rurally he is the only driver in this area as far as I know.

Calling yeh police seems very wasteful to me, I don’t think he is going to come here and attack me.

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Frogsrus · 08/11/2018 09:46

I would try to record by further phone calls and phone 101 to report him.

Shiklah · 08/11/2018 09:47

I really don’t want to escalate things as I rely on deliveries for so much, it will have a very negative impact if I can’t get any deliveries :(

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Shiklah · 08/11/2018 09:48

How can calls be recorded on an iPhone? Does anyone know?

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acatcalledjohn · 08/11/2018 09:51

I'd be tempted to report him to the police for threatening behaviour (after all you have call logs and CCTV footage). If he flies of the handle like that with you it is not unthinkable that other people have experienced his wrath and reported him.

If the courier company try to brush it under the carpet then I would post their response, along with the footage, on social media.

I'd be particularly incensed that he shouted at a 15YO.

AGHHHH · 08/11/2018 09:51

There will be a range of free apps, look on the app store under call recorders or something similar.

AGHHHH · 08/11/2018 09:53

Yeah I'd also go to social media with this if their response is poor, it's bizarre and beyond unacceptable. That unhinged cunt needs sacking.

GemmeFatale · 08/11/2018 09:56

Why on earth haven’t you contacted the courier company to ask why their driver is calling and threatening you?

Shiklah · 08/11/2018 09:58

I have contacted them 3x after each incident they aren't responding
The stores have responded but don't seem to have the power to make the them do anything

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TheEmmaDilemma · 08/11/2018 09:59

So is this guy being used (outsourced) by larger delivery companies? Or does he work for one specific company is both Amazon and M&S use him?

Shiklah · 08/11/2018 10:00

It's DPD
They are used by lots of companies here

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bobstersmum · 08/11/2018 10:01

He sounds unhinged. I would absolutely ring 101 at the least, he's threatening and aggressive and he knows your address and phone number, he is out of order.

WeeDangerousSpike · 08/11/2018 10:02

NC fail OP?

Fabellini · 08/11/2018 10:02

If the local manager of the depot can’t/won’t speak to you about resolving this, then you should take it higher. Presumably there is a Head Office you can contact - I can imagine they would take an incredibly dim view of this type of issue.
Moving forward, I wouldn’t worry too much about your deliveries as I think that his behaviour comes under the category of gross misconduct leading to instant dismissal, and with a bit of luck you’ll have a new courier very soon.

EmmaGeddon · 08/11/2018 10:02

Contact the courier company on social media. He sounds frightening, with anger management issues.

WeeDangerousSpike · 08/11/2018 10:04

Never mind... Smile

Shiklah · 08/11/2018 10:05

I contacted head office yesterday, I was on hold for 25 mins and they said someone would call back, but they haven't

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Shiklah · 08/11/2018 10:06

I don't use social media except mn. It seems the only way to get any help these days 😞

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SputnikBear · 08/11/2018 10:08

I wouldn’t be so sure that he won’t attack you or try to hurt you in some way. At the very least he’s likely to continue harassing you and being verbally abusive. I’d call the police. This man knows where you live and has repeatedly made threatening phone calls to you. If the courier company isn’t responding I’d turn up in person to speak to them and take a witness. Also get the police to speak to them. You cannot have this man making deliveries to your property again.

Shiklah · 08/11/2018 10:09

Thanks for all your advice.

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StressedToTheMaxx · 08/11/2018 10:09

Agree with the above poster.
Screenshot the emails you have already sent them if you can and contact them via Twitter and Facebook.
I had an issue with a delivery driver and I had to resort to social media message as they were ignoring my emails.
I hope you get things sorted and he situation calms.

Snowscreen · 08/11/2018 10:10

I later got a text saying my parcel was at a local shop but I can collect it as I working hours so can’t get there to collect it

Ring the shop & ask how long they will keep it for you.