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Weird situation with a courier

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Shiklah · 08/11/2018 09:34

The access to our rural property was very difficult when we bought it and we have recently completed work to have a driveway built, making it easier to turn around (we are the last house on a long narrow lane on a steep hill). Last Thursday builders were just finishing off and the access was blocked by DH truck, when a courier arrived with a parcel. DS15 answered the door and the courier got very close to him and was ranting that he couldn’t turn around. Hearing this I came to the door and said he should calm down and stop shouting, and that I would get my husband to move the truck (I can’t as I am not licenced to drive it). When I said this he courier went berserk and ran at me waving his arms and shouting “get him, get the big man, I am not scared of him or no one, get him, I’ll show him”. DH was working on a building project behind the house and was unaware of the courier, so I decided it was best not to escalate the situation so I repeate ‘you need to calm down’ and walked back in the house. He reversed down, which I am sure was difficult.

I reported it to the shop and saved the cctv footage of his outburst which clearly shows him aggressively charging at me and his snarling contorted face etc. They apologised and said the couriers company/management would be in touch.

On Tuesday I was telephoned by the courier who was verbally aggressive on the phone shouting at me and and accusing me of ‘you pissed me off threatening me with your big boyfriend. He’s massive isn’t he, 6 footer eh? Why you do that, it was out of order’
I was completely taken back and just repeated that I has calmly told him my husband would come and move his truck, no threats had been made. He said he had a parcel for me and I said I felt it was best if he left it for now, and ended the call by saying “i’m going to go now, I can’t have aggression directed at me and I need this sorting out officially” he stared shouting again but I ended the call.

Yesterday he called again. His opening statement was “we have a big problem here’ and then launched into a rant about all the parcels he’d brought me over the last few months and how grateful I should be, how he felt I was threatening him and I had to accept his behaviour as ‘he’s not scared of anyone’ , how all his customers love him ‘black people, white people, everyone gets likes me and I have no problems you are causing this problem’ etc. When I could get a word in I asked why he was calling me and he said he had a parcel and unless he delivered it today, I would never get a delivery again. I asked him to take the parcel to the depot and ask his manager to call me”
He then said ‘managers name asked me to call you, he thinks you’re a trouble maker’
So I just said, right, okay, let’s leave it there, I’m going now and ended the call. I later got a text saying my parcel was at a local shop but I can collect it as I working hours so can’t get there to collect it.

So what now? The courier hasn’t contacted me - I have made a formal complaint. My first parcel was from M&S who were very apologies, the second is amazon who again have apologised but how can I find out what is happening with the courier? I am worried he’s going to return and be aggressive, we live very rurally. I also have a delivery set up for medications and lots of other things as I am disabled. I am very anxious and couldn’t sleep last night although that seems a bit silly in the light of day.

Sorry it’s long. Thanks for any advice.

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drspouse · 08/11/2018 12:35

Presumably you DO have postal deliveries?

smith try reading the thread. The OP told the courier she was going to go and get her DH to move the truck and the courier immediately blew up at her before she had a chance to go and get her DH.

bobstersmum · 08/11/2018 12:38

I think Smith is the courier...

smithsally884 · 08/11/2018 12:45

that isn't my understandin. I read it as though she wouldnt fetch her dh til the driver calmed down.
Also it reads as though the driver thought, when she said she would get her husband, that was some sort of a threat.

was English not his first language op?

DarlingNikita · 08/11/2018 12:49

was English not his first language op?

That's been covered.

smithsally884 · 08/11/2018 12:53

missed that- was it?

DailyMailWankers · 08/11/2018 12:56

@smithsally884 you're not really in the position to disagree if you cba RTFT are you? Hmm

smithsally884 · 08/11/2018 12:59

Pragmatically , you have 2 options. I collect parcels from the shop or else you try to smooth things over with the driver.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 08/11/2018 12:59

smithsally!!!!!!!!!!!!! Poor old OP was so very clear in her posts too! Smile

Bootikin · 08/11/2018 13:02

SS884, RTFT FGS

DailyMailWankers · 08/11/2018 13:03

@smithsally884 or DPD sacks the aggressive abusive employee who has violated their company policies and the Data Protection Act on multiple occasions?

DailyMailWankers · 08/11/2018 13:05

@Shiklah you have done absolutely nothing wrong here of course you shouldn't be trying to smooth things over. Please keep on at DPD you don't deserve to be inconvenienced by this man Flowers

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 08/11/2018 13:18

That's appalling behaviour and DPD should address it, I hope that they do.

It might also be worth your while getting a secure delivery box at your gateway, especially if you are not in the house due to long working hours. Some like this can take multiple deliveries.

Shiklah · 08/11/2018 13:46

Yes I have postal deliveries and the postie is a lovely woman and we also get Parcel Force and DHL (rarely)

I have had a reply from the Executive Office - thanks so much to the kind MN who sent me contact details.

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Shiklah · 08/11/2018 13:57

I have now had a phone call from an area manager who knows me as he was the driver a few years ago. He has reprimanded the driver and says he now understands that his behaviour is unacceptable. I said I want an apology in writing and I will consider that the end of the matter, as long as I can call this manager, on his mobile no if there is any further problem.

thanks for all your help and advice. I wouldn't have got it sorted without you.

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Stompythedinosaur · 08/11/2018 13:57

I hope you get it sorted now they've replied!

DarlingNikita · 08/11/2018 14:25

I said I want an apology in writing and I will consider that the end of the matter, as long as I can call this manager, on his mobile no if there is any further problem.

Good for you, OP!

DailyMailWankers · 08/11/2018 15:06

Well done OP!

FrancisCrawford · 08/11/2018 15:13

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Shiklah · 08/11/2018 15:30

I've had a follow up email from the executive desk, whatever that may be, confirming I can call the manager and that the courier has been reprimanded.
His behaviour was unacceptable and aggressive, as long as he recognises that and accepts it is wrong I am happy to move forward, I have no axe to grind and don't want people sacked for making a mistake. If he calls me or behaves badly again it will be police as first point of call.

Thanks so much everyone. I feel much better about it all and wouldn't have solved it without help.

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anniehm · 08/11/2018 15:37

Glad you have progress on this problem and hope it's fully solved soon. I now use amazon lockers because I was fed up with the aggressive and accusational delivery drivers (Amazon directly contracted here) if it took more than 5 seconds to open door (we have a big house) or I was out when they first delivered and none of the neighbours were in. The terms they are employed on are rubbish, but I cannot change them, and anyway I've watched them whilst walking the dog - often making 10-20 drops just on our section of the street alone, this isn't a rural area! The lockers are better as I have 3 days to collect and they are open until 10pm at night at the supermarket I use.

Olderbyaminute · 08/11/2018 15:42

@SmithSally What color is the sky in your world? Your advice is so appallingly inappropriate it boggles the mind!

Shiklah · 08/11/2018 16:19

And thanks to the poster who suggested the security box, they look great and I am going to save up for one for the end of the lane to save the drivers coming up.

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