To be sad that I don't have a good friend in my life.

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It's been one of those long days today and now the dc are in bed it's got me thinking I would love a good friend to sound off to and have a giggle with.

Over the years I've grown apart from many of my friends. I have 1 good girlfriend, but we can go weeks without speaking sometimes.

Do you have that friend you can go to no matter what? How can I get me one?

I feel you, until a year ago I never had that either, and then I clicked with another mum and we now talk all the time, sharing our problems and I can call her whenever I need help. She is such a blessing. Had to wait a long time to find her though!

Finding a good friend is a bit like dating I think. You have to kiss a lot of frogs...

I don't have one either. I'm fine with it. My husband is the best person and friend I've ever known so I consider myself very lucky.

I'm the same. Always been a lone wolf ever since I could remember, never clicked with other girls much. I have a good couple girlfriends but same thing, can go weeks/months without speaking.

Would LOVE to have that absolute best friend / ride or die relationship with someone, but I just don't think it's in my stars...

@AnonyMousee that makes me so sad, id love that relationship with someone, I felt like I had that friendship once but sadly we had a big falling out and it will never be the same.

@Aquamarine1029 that is beautiful. You are truly very lucky.

@LukeSkywalkerBoots sometimes I think it's harder to find a friend than a man 

It is DEFINITELY harder to find a friend than a man. I've tried and have had lots of disappointment. I think most people don't know what it means to be a true friend.

I dont have one and I really wish I did

@Aquamarine1029 it's getting very lonely for me, especially since I don't live near family.

@wineandcheeseplease it's shit isn't it?!

I'm the same as yourself haven't got many friends in RL n most of my family unfortunately aren't interested unless it involves them... If it wasn't for my ds and dp I'd be lonely as hell

Are your dcs at school? I fell on my feet when eldest ds started school. I met such a great group of mums. We spend a lot of time together and they mean such a lot to me. Maybe when your dcs start school it will give you a new social life? I didn’t intend to make friends it just happened. I was very sociable and chatty though.

I really miss my old friend. We would talk for hours on the phone 2/3x a week, text daily and meet up a few times a month.
But.. I was in a really bad place in my relationship and I think she got frustrated with me and said some things and I said some things back.

I have tried to extend the olive branch numerous times but her replies are always short and she seems to shut down the conversation.

No, I don't. I used to have a couple of friends from university I'd kept in touch with. I then had PND after ds2 and consequently, dropped off social media, didn't text or call anyone, made no effort to initiate contact as I was quite unwell.

No one called to see what was wrong. Contact just stopped as I wasn't driving it. It's shaken my faith in friends tbh, and I stick with DH now.

@zippyswife my oldest 2 are in school. I still have dd at home.
I speak to the mums in the playground but then we go out separate ways.

@MindBodyChocolate how awful that nobody thought to come to you. I'm sorry you went through that.

I do feel sad sometimes about my lack of friends but in a lot of ways, it makes things easier. I don't have to put up with tiffs, misunderstandings etc and can concentrate on DH and my DSs.

This makes me sound like a real old miseryguts, sorry! I'm genuinely a very happy and friendly person who enjoys life!! Just with no friends

I've wanted a good friend since I left school, pretty much. Someone I could ring and say "want to go window shopping with me today?" and we'd go, or they would ring and ask me over for a girly chat on a Saturday evening and it would happen.

I haven't really had that for nearly 20 years; all my friendships are either with school friends who I might see once a year as we live at distance from each other, or closer friends but there always has to be a reason, like Bonfire Night, not just popping round to see each other on a whim.

I do wonder if it's me.

Yep. I have one good friend, who I think I last saw in June 2017.

I have lots of acquaintances, but at times it seems like they only want to know me when they want someone to rant at.

Dp is probably my best friend. Which is fine, unless I need to vent at him or he's having a tough time with his disability and as such is depressed.

I'd love to have a close female friend (although traditionally I've tended to get on better with blokes...)

And it's definitely easier to find a man than a close friend.

Same here - I had a best friend for 20 years and although we see each other, there was a big falling out about 15 years ago and it'll never be the same.
I'm very reliable and loyal, know lots of people, and I used to make an effort to meet people hoping to find a special friend but I've mainly given up now. We're quite sociable and have friends round quite a bit for BBQs, drinks, meals, etc but although people like to come it's very one sided.
I've had a very very tough time this year, including losing a parent amongst other things, but very few people think to message to say hello or anything. I miss that. It can feel lonely. DH is good but I miss a close female friend.

*vent about him

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I've gone through a really tough year, and it's shown up just how few of my friends are actually there for me when I need them. It's really upset me. My most dependable friend has quite serious cancer and lives a hundred miles away, yet she's been keeping in touch and been supportive. Other, more local friends that I'd thought were very good friends haven't been in touch at all.

I have 2 long standing friends in my life. One lives 4hrs away and one around the corner but we can go months without speaking I had a very shocking bereavement a few months ago and subsequently went off the radar. I haven't heard from them since. I work days and dp works nights, when the dc are in bed from 8pm i am on my own. I would love for my phone to ring or for someone ro knock on the door for a brew!

Aquamarine1029. Exactly same here. My dp is my best friend. I only had girl bestfriends at school.., then a few through various jobs etc but they got lost when jobs changed so they weren't really that good or they'dve continued. I've never really felt the need to have girlfriends at all though but maybe because I grew up with three brothers? I find women's company rather catty at the best of times. The school run is full of dreadful cackling. Can't stand it.

I went through a stage of feeling like this. I'd just moved to a new area with my DH and we got pregnant straight away before really making any friends. I realised pretty quickly how rubbish my friends were and despite me telling them how lonely I was they just didn't seem to care.

I was lucky enough to meet a few people locally. They started to ask me to do a few things with them. At first I thought they were just being polite but I was so lonely I decided to be brave and took them up on their invitations...... best thing I ever did. These guys are like family now and one person in particular is the best friend I always wanted. We go on holiday together, see each other at least once a week and WhatsApp all the time.

Im so pleased I was brave enough to meet a bunch of strangers for a drink that Sunday afternoon!

After reading these posts I was reminded how after firstly having a long term partner breakup,then my dad dying the same group of so called friends for 20 years plus never once contacted me. The most horrible time in my life. They'd cross the road pretending not to see me. It's rubbish that maybe they didn't know what to say, you just go over and say,I'm really sorry,I've heard the news etc and are you OK??? That's what I do anyway. That's why I don't need a so called friend anymore.

@CynthiaRothrock*,*@Mummymummums so sorry to hear about your losses.

@BlaaBlaaBlaa I'm glad to hear you were brave enough to take them up on their offer.

It's the little things I feel like I need. Having a coffee together after the school run, or taking the kids out, having a good batter on the phone when the kids are in bed.

I also feel like I have a lot to offer to a friend, I won't go into it as it may sound like a dating profile