To leave 7 week old alone in bedroomwith a baby monitor?

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Wise mumsnetters, please advise - SIDS advice says if baby is sleeping that they should be in the same room as you until 6 months. I want to start a bedtime routine with baby going down in the bedroom at 8pm. Is this ok if I am listening in using a monitor? Or do they literally have to be in the same room (i.e. living room) until I go to bed?

Well DD has had a routine since she was 8 weeks old so it's not too young at all, she wanted to go to sleep at 7 but couldn't stay asleep in the same room as us with TV on, dogs prattling around, tea being cooked etc. So yes - she went in a different room with a video monitor and we would go to bed about 9.30.

She has also napped in her own room from the same age and has moved in there at night without an issue now she is almost 6 months.

@Strugglingonagain she's bottlefed

You have to take all the advice then make decisions on what is best for your family. We had only one room for dd1 so was a non issue, dd2 we put down from around 3 months in the bedroom to sleep until we went in (around an hour later) however my cousin put hers in their own room straight from the hospital. SIDS is absolutely terrible but there's no proof sleeping in separate rooms is a cause - when I had mine I was told cosleeping reduced SIDS, now parents are told not to cosleep. A safe bed, the correct temperature of room to blankets and nothing that can fall onto your baby are key factors plus back sleeping.

Could get flamed but we started a routine at 10 days old, naps downstairs in moses basket but in cot upstairs at 7pm, we had a video monitor. She's always slept 7-7, no sleep regressions. She was formula fed so that may have been a factor in that.

Napped in the cot from about 2m old. Moved to her room at 5m old.

Omg how things change. I remember advice being baby should be their own room as early as possible. My first was in her own room with listening monitor from birth. Also both bedroom doors open, and if she as much as farted, I was running across the hall I don't see how she would be safer in our room. Second child was in Moses basket next to me because I'd had c section and didn't want to have to traipses across landing in the middle of the night. It was awful. Every time we turned over or breathed loudly, Baby woke up. Baby soon got put in own room, same as first. Much better.

needs and tabby - Me too, from about 2 weeks old.

I don't think the guidelines have changed so much, just societies perception of them. I think in the world of mega information, everything is read as fact, you need to look closely at what is real, and try not to get too anxious over every small change.

There are a few really important scientifically proven reduction methods for SIDS. Back to sleep, no smoking, no bed sharing. Cool. ventilated room with no cot paraphenalia.

I am always somewhat about how many MN's adamantly insist that putting babies in their own room is against the guidelines but then happily co-sleep, which is the second most dangerous thing you can do. Are all these co-sleepers sleeping without pillows, or duvets, with the babies on their backs, not being cuddled, in a cool, well ventilated, calm room, as per the guidelines?

This HAS changed, my younger one is 4 and the HV gave us advice that involved her sleeping in another room, from about 6-7 months.

Gosh, how times change. I followed all the advice available re SIDS when my DD was born and I don’t remember ever being advised to stay with her at all times. All day time sleeps were down stairs butbivwasntcaleays in the room. Night time sleeps we’re in her cot in her own room at 10 days old as she was so unsettled and kept my husband awake ( he needed solid sleep given his job). I spent a lot of time with her up in the night but that was fine. The routine was after 7pm she stayed in the nursery for feeds and cuddles if awake or unsettled.
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