To leave 7 week old alone in bedroomwith a baby monitor?

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Wise mumsnetters, please advise - SIDS advice says if baby is sleeping that they should be in the same room as you until 6 months. I want to start a bedtime routine with baby going down in the bedroom at 8pm. Is this ok if I am listening in using a monitor? Or do they literally have to be in the same room (i.e. living room) until I go to bed?

I didn’t make any judgement about feeding formula, I simply said that BF babies don’t sleep through the night [as quickly / easily] as formula fed babies.

Signed, mother to formula fed baby. I was being supportive of BFing mums. Wish I hadn’t bothered...

Hi guys advice needed. 7 week old dd just won't sleep on a night, hates moses basket and during the night takes hours to settle after feed, wind all up. During the day don't have this issue she will even sleep with the vacuum going. Tried alsorts of things I've seen on here such as item of clothing for smell, putting basket inside cot ect. Help!!

I put all (3) my babies down at 7pm every night in their own room with no monitor - shock.

They a survived to tell the tale.

This was late 90s/00s though and advice changes - they were all great sleepers though and always in a good routine 👍🏻

It is up to you. I put mine to bed at 7pm from a few weeks old (bout 6:7 weeks) He was in the bedroom we in lounge adjacent. I also started a bed time routine very early. It worked for us.

Apologies, I haven't read all 16 pages - perhaps this has been mentioned.

What are those of us on dc2 when dc1 is still very young supposed to do? If my dc2 never sleeps in a room without me for the first 6 months of his life, during which he needs 16-18 hours sleep (obviously decreasing as time goes on) in a 24 hour period, how can I factor my soon to be 2 year old into this? She's too young to understand 'shhh the baby's sleeping', also too young to be unsupervised whilst I sit watching her sibling sleep. How do other parents of second / subsequent babies manage this?

Four month old DD has been in a bedtime routine since she was 8 weeks old so those saying it's pointless, that's just your experience.

DD is Asleep for 7.30 every night, in her crib (still in our bedroom & she doesn't sleep through the night) with the monitor on - I got to bed about 9.30. She also does all her naps in her cot in her own bedroom.

Additionally, there's absolutely no way she'd sleep through us talking, having tea, watching TV etc.

Do whatever you want but do own the fact that you are going against the advice re preventing sids.
You dont need to shush child no1, you can still watch tv hold conversations etc.
@sf4556 youd be better starting a new thread to get advice, i think there is a sleep section here somewhere.

If you feel that baby is still too young to be left alone, I'd go with the cosleeper. However, if you're confident enough that sleeping separately is doable, it might be worth trying? I started letting my son in its nursery room when he was about 4mos already. We noticed he sleeps back again when he hears my voice, so we then got ourselves an arlo camera so we can check on him from an app. It has a two way audio which i think helped us. If you wish to leave your baby with a monitor, you should also check for the night vision. I hope this can help. Arlo has a clear night vision but I find it very expensive, though it has been helpful, I think we should've gone for a cheaper option, but the husband got excited so yeah.

All my babies have had a bedtime routine from birth. All four are also good sleepers but that could be coincidence.

You know the advice re SIDS and it's up to you as the parent what you choose to do.

All these comments re baby too young for routine? Nonsense.
Some won't. Others love routine. Ds1 put himself into his own routine a few days after coming home from hospital!

Own room? SIDS advice is now not recommended.

Best piece of advice I was given “Trust your instincts in all aspects of parenthood you know your baby best”

Mine went into her own room with a monitor at 2 days old. My snoring was keeping her awake! She survived. She’s 19 now.

And her snoring is keeping me awake now(grin)

Dd is profoundly Deaf. She wouldn't hear a fire alarm, much less me breathing....

There's a real pick and choose philosophy on MN regarding SIDS. Most MNers co sleep. This goes against SIDS advice which specifically states that the safest place to sleep is on their backs in their own cot/crib etc in the same room as a parent.

Yet so so many co sleep. "Safe co sleeping" is often spoken about on MN but this apparently is fine even though it goes against SIDS advice.

Random slightly related Q.

Those of you who had babies going to sleep at 7/8pm at 6/8/12weeks etc, were they bottle fed or breastfed?

My third was in her own room at about 10 weeks because she got grouchy at DHs snoring and her toddler brothers mad night time bedroom sprints (you dont want to know) ...she is now 5 and the little bugger is still downstairs eating porridge made by dad while im upstairs nursing swollen glands

@struggling my babies were bottle fed but they still woke at 10/11 for a feed straight back to sleep, then again about 4ish but then straight back to sleep until about 6/7. During the day they took shorter more frequent naps and feeds as and when. There was never really a set time to feed just when they showed signs

Those of you who had babies going to sleep at 7/8pm at 6/8/12weeks etc, were they bottle fed or breastfed?

Mine was breastfed and started sleeping his longest stretch of the night from 8pm at about 8 weeks. He woke up plenty of times in the night though (and still does at six months!)

Zombie-ish thread. OP's baby is now 4 months old, not 7 weeks.

He didn't clusterfeed though (apart from two nights after he was born) - is that why you're asking? I know it's normal for them to cluster feed all evening.

I just read "no bed time til 1" on first page and was a bit aghast. Mine was in her own room from about 12 weeks and before that was put to bed in our room in a moses basket, well practically from birth. She never slept downstairs. I seem to recall I was aware of SIDS guidelines at the time. On their back, not too hot/cold, bottom of the cot etc. Have things changed that much?