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To have a hierarchy of drinking vessels?

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mediumbrownmug · 07/11/2018 04:44

So up until I married, I genuinely thought that certain cups being for tea and others for coffee, etc. was a common practice. I myself have an (admittedly extensive) hierarchy of mugs/cups to be used for each drink. The breakdown is as follows:

Tea should be made in Particular Brown Mug (I have two).
If brown mugs are not available, tea may be made in either of two thin-walled Floral Mugs.
If these aren't available, tea can then AND ONLY THEN be made in one of the Taller White Mugs (we have eight).
If none of the above is available, an emergency dishwasher run needs to take place immediately, and in the meantime one of the bone china tea cups will come out with much fanfare (bone china not being toddler-compatible, they come out but rarely nowadays).

There's a similar hierarchy of coffee mugs. Juice and water also have particular cups, but they're not quite as stringently enforced. DH knows this and accepts it.

The problem is that DH has no Special Mugs. None. He has no issue whatsoever with my hierarchy of tumblers and has even painstakingly learned which ones to grab in various scenarios when he makes the drinks- but he doesn't have a mug that HE prefers. When I ask if he wants tea/coffee I have no idea what to give it to him in.

Wondering if he just hadn't "found the right one yet", I went ahead and purchased a Potential Special Mug for him as a present (he had been dropping hints that he wanted it) and he does like and use it, but refuses to insist that it, or any other drinking vessel, only be used for one particular beverage to the exclusion of all other mugs. I, coming from a long line of Special Mug lovers, find this lack of commitment odd.

By way of comparison, my DF still uses the same Special Mug that he's been drinking from for the past two decades. Even my DGPs each had their own Special Mug marked with nail polish in an inconspicuous spot to differentiate between the two identical mugs so they could tell whose was whose. AIBU to have a Special Mug, and provisions for when the said mug is unavailable? Blush

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Georgeofthejungle · 30/12/2018 19:09

Me..

Coffee AM - large Starbucks mug
Coffee PM - Mrs mug
Tea PM - large floral mug
Tea around 9pmish - mummy mug.

Totally normal.

I had a favourite tea mug which was perfect for afternoon and evening tea but it fell and I’ve never managed to find a good replacement. A good mug/cup is not to
Be underestimated. Luckily for me DH appreciates this too and also has his mug line up :)

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 30/12/2018 19:27

Glad I found this thread.

First coffee of the morning - large Emma Bridgewater mug.
(If I'm having cafetiere coffee first thing I don't use this mug.)

Following teas and lattes, or afternoon coffees - other mugs which exist in their own sort of heirachy.
There's one mug I'll only use for tea (it mentions tea on the outside, so I obviously cannot drink coffee out of it).
Hot chocolate has its own mug.

Recently I have not been drinking coffee as much and my awful awful husband has been using one of my Emma Bridgewater coffee mugs to drink cup-a-soups! Envy

Onceihadaname · 30/12/2018 19:33

MY PEOPLE!!!
DH smashed my morning tea mug over Christmas. He has never got why tea goes in one type and coffee goes in another (plus a separate builder's only set) and thought I was mad when I emptied out the cupboard in a desperate attempt to negotiate a replacement.
He was very lucky I found (an inferior) replacement or he may have got binned too.
He puts any drink in any mug. Heathen.

howtobehuman · 30/12/2018 19:41

I can't read that much writing about cups

howtobehuman · 30/12/2018 19:42

But I do have a favourite mug

TheNemesisOfLame · 30/12/2018 19:55

Mug hierarchy- well naturally.
Current problem is that DS bought his gf a really nice mug to use at our house. They have now split up since going to uni...but to date none of us will use it as it's her mug.

Is it ok to appropriate it. Or should I just give it to charity to stop it taunting me?

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