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To have a hierarchy of drinking vessels?

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mediumbrownmug · 07/11/2018 04:44

So up until I married, I genuinely thought that certain cups being for tea and others for coffee, etc. was a common practice. I myself have an (admittedly extensive) hierarchy of mugs/cups to be used for each drink. The breakdown is as follows:

Tea should be made in Particular Brown Mug (I have two).
If brown mugs are not available, tea may be made in either of two thin-walled Floral Mugs.
If these aren't available, tea can then AND ONLY THEN be made in one of the Taller White Mugs (we have eight).
If none of the above is available, an emergency dishwasher run needs to take place immediately, and in the meantime one of the bone china tea cups will come out with much fanfare (bone china not being toddler-compatible, they come out but rarely nowadays).

There's a similar hierarchy of coffee mugs. Juice and water also have particular cups, but they're not quite as stringently enforced. DH knows this and accepts it.

The problem is that DH has no Special Mugs. None. He has no issue whatsoever with my hierarchy of tumblers and has even painstakingly learned which ones to grab in various scenarios when he makes the drinks- but he doesn't have a mug that HE prefers. When I ask if he wants tea/coffee I have no idea what to give it to him in.

Wondering if he just hadn't "found the right one yet", I went ahead and purchased a Potential Special Mug for him as a present (he had been dropping hints that he wanted it) and he does like and use it, but refuses to insist that it, or any other drinking vessel, only be used for one particular beverage to the exclusion of all other mugs. I, coming from a long line of Special Mug lovers, find this lack of commitment odd.

By way of comparison, my DF still uses the same Special Mug that he's been drinking from for the past two decades. Even my DGPs each had their own Special Mug marked with nail polish in an inconspicuous spot to differentiate between the two identical mugs so they could tell whose was whose. AIBU to have a Special Mug, and provisions for when the said mug is unavailable? Blush

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DoubleNegativePanda · 09/11/2018 15:43

I particularly enjoy the passive-aggressiveness of saving the nasty mug for Hideous Pete (we all have a Hideous Pete in our lives) and Brown-Mugging annoying people. I do this at work, I save the chipped black (inside and out black!) mugs for a specific coworker that pisses me off daily.

I have a coveted mug, but I haven't gotten it yet because I'm afraid the reality won't live up to the dream. I may end up just looking at them forever. Hand Warmer Mugs. I want the Mossy Creek one.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 09/11/2018 16:49

I am here for your sympathy... my number 1 mug died recently (thanks DH) and I am struggling to find a replacement, I wont buy one the same cos it was a present that cost a ridiculous amount of money, I have bought a fox shaped mug, an owl shaped mug and a mug with stars on al in an attempt for a new number one mug... alas foxy and owl whilst looking ideal and fun to boot are quite difficult to drink from, star mug is ok but doesn't fit under my coffee machine unless I take the drip tray out so, the search will go on Sad life can be such a chore Smile

DarlingNikita · 09/11/2018 16:51

CriticalCondition, you're a bad, bad person! I love basically all of those mugs.

CriticalCondition · 09/11/2018 17:02
Grin

I know, just too much mug gorgeousness on that website. My favourites are the plum shaped ones which are perfect for wrapping two hands around. I ask for them for Christmas and birthdays and have several now.

Beware, they do jugs and teapots too.

ElenadeClermont · 09/11/2018 17:05

They are lovely mugs on that website. I wish I knew about them earlier.
This year I bought a new coffee machine, so I had to buy new mug for that coffee machine. None of the old mugs matched the new coffee somehow. It took ages to find the right one, and you had to buy a full set of 6.
I sometimes wonder about myself.

Yay for rice measuring and egg-breaking cups!!!

DarlingNikita · 09/11/2018 17:06

I like the Quinto ones (perfect for drinking black cafetiere coffee), but wonder if they go in a bit too much at the top.

CriticalCondition · 09/11/2018 17:25

Can't comment on the compatibility of curved mugs and coffee - it's the drink of the devil as far as I'm concerned!

buckingfrolicks · 09/11/2018 18:15

Work guests have "posh visitor mugs" that I refuse to drink from so I sit there with there with my favourite non posh mug. I know a visitor is up to the mark if they obviously recognise the innately superior quality of my work mug

buckingfrolicks · 09/11/2018 18:18

Recently moved out of former marital home

Bought self a set of posh and nice looking mugs. Nice, but not The mugs.

Bought self second set of possible winning mugs - treated self to expensive John Lewis confident these were The Mugs

Bitter disappointment.

Bought single random mug from Wilko. Reader, it was perfection. Now have (quite ugly but perfect in shape weight size and proportion) set of 4 (I live alone) Wilko mugs and 8 --godawful/- mugs sequestered in back of cupboard

Nope.

CheshireChat · 09/11/2018 22:09

Oh I absolutely have one, never thought other people do as well.

I've actually just broken my favourite- it's a Primark Harry Potter cauldron mug and it's massive and a really satisfying shape. Really hope they still have it in stock. This mug is virtually only used for instant coffee as it's too large for my tea needs.

I have a rather ugly GOT mug for black tea, but it's just the right amount so I tolerate it.

I use a fox shaped one (Asda) for proper coffee and certain teas as it holds the right amount again. I have a French press and it's just big enough to add some milk to it.

I usually use refillable bottles during the day and I'm eyeing up one of those metal ones as I'm clumsy as heck and that's before DS and the cat causing mischief.

DS also has firm favourites- his green Sistema bottle for juice and water, a cup with a panda family for hot chocolate and usually demands one of those little pint bottles if he fancies milk.

To have a hierarchy of drinking vessels?
DarlingNikita · 09/11/2018 23:42

a fox shaped one

A fox shaped one?!?! You can get such a thing?!?

discopisco · 10/11/2018 00:03

Love you OP for starting this thread- it's really cheered me up and I'm not a tea or coffee drinker hides

LEMtheoriginal · 10/11/2018 00:10

I have found my people

CheshireChat · 10/11/2018 00:48

DarlingNikita Yes, it's this one, however the Asda picture is rubbish as it's a lot nicer in RL. Might take a photo when I'll limp away from the couch.

mathanxiety · 10/11/2018 04:00

DD4 has goo.gl/images/6KL6Xz this fox mug that she uses for hot choc and brownies-in-a-mug.

buckingfrolics my indispensable mugs cost $1 apiece - four of them from a supermarket and one from the Dollar Store.

mathanxiety · 10/11/2018 04:01

www.zulily.com/p/fox-mug-set-of-two-272509-22437069.html
Better link.

fuckitbuckit · 10/11/2018 04:24

I thought it was just me. My family think I'm absolutely crazy because they have cupboards full of mis matched plates, pans and cups 😳 they think because it's my first house everything will match until I buy a new set and then another and so on. Won't be happening! Any smashes/chips to my porcelain means a new trip to IKEA to buy a brand new set and a trip to charity shop to donate the odd ones 😂

My house is as followed

White mugs - Tea
Grey mugs - Coffee
Tall glass mugs - Hot chocolate
400ml glasses - Fruit juice/squash
250ml glasses - Fizzy pop/spirits
Wine glasses, rocks glasses and champagne flutes are obvious. Although rocks only come out at Christmas so I can have a Baileys.😉

Kids have grey and clear plastic cups, grey for water and clear for milk.

I hate looking into cupboards to see a row of plastic, bright, random tat and loads of chipped plates from 6 different sets. 😬

fuckitbuckit · 10/11/2018 04:30

I should probably add I have 16 big plates, 16 small plates and 16 bowls of the same type. All in white.

Also all my oven dishes are white. My cupboards are my OCD heaven. 😀

Alwayscheerful · 10/11/2018 06:55

I have found my people.

Bloomini · 10/11/2018 11:30

I hate it when people choose the 'wrong' mug at my house. Felt ill reading about the egg mug too Grin

DarlingNikita · 10/11/2018 12:01

Thanks, CheshireChat, although it's out of stock [sad

CheshireChat · 10/11/2018 17:19

They're pretty darn small if it's any consolation- 150- 200 ml so it limits their use a bit.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 10/11/2018 17:27

I use a fox shaped one (Asda) for proper coffee that's the one i bought when my favourite one broke, also got the owl one they look lovely but do you not find that they are a bit tricky to drink from? i seem to slop a bit and the drip runs down foxy's nose Smile and the last bit is difficult to get out. i sooo want it to be my replacement favourite but its just not quite doing it.

Esker · 10/11/2018 21:53

This thread has really kept me calm during a stressful house move over the past couple of days, during which I have at times been forced to drink tea out of a polystyrene cup Shock

mediumbrownmug · 11/11/2018 00:26

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes I HATE dribbly mugs. I have a couple that are like that (usually the extra-thick walled, rounded ones), mocking me from the dark confines of the kitchen cupboard. They were gifts, as I know to avoid these kinds of mugs.

With every cautious sip I take, a bit runs down the sides and makes the mug look manky and gross. Then I have to discreetly wipe the drip off, and repeat this until the entire mug of tea is gone. Sip, wipe. Sip, wipe. Sip, wipe. Sip, SMASH TAKE THAT YOU DIRTY B@#$O@#*!!!

I don't have issues with this, I swear. Grin

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