According to my 14 year old ....

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I’m being completely unresonable by not letting him have his phone after a certain time in the evening.

Apparently every other teenager is allowed their phones when they are in bed.

Im a terrible mother.

Please tell me I’m not the only one who makes their child come off the computer at a reasonable time and plug phones in outside of their bedrooms. Then I can feel less terrible

My DS (14) has to leave his phone on the landing when he goes to bed. HTH

That’s where I make him put his.

Did is 14 and doesn't have her phone after 9pm.

My DS 11 has to be off his a 7pm and he says it's embarrassing  cause he has to tell his mates that his phone is going off now...and they say really it only 7 pm ... I told him you will thank me when you have a successful career..

You sound like the kind of mother who will help her child to succeed! Talk to any teacher of this age group - the problems caused by late night phone/computer use can have serious consequences socially, emotionally and educationally. Unfortunately teenagers do not always know what is best for them! Thank goodness for responsible parenting!

Unfortunately I think if you take the phone off your child through the night you’re in the minority. I say this as I’m amazed at the activity coming from my dds phone, often very late and on a school night. I take the phone off her too and it’s downstairs. I don’t really mind if it’s a school holiday but no way is it allowed in her room on a school night

It's a battle worth having. I kept it up with my two until after GCSEs, not easy but def worth it, they would not have got the results they did with free reign on gadgets all night. And now at 18 they agree.

There are two teenagers in this house who don't have their phones overnight. Also two adults that follow the same rule. That's important.

15yo's phone is in the kitchen from 9.30 on a school night. They never have their phone overnight, not even during holidays.

I have mine by the bed as I use it as an alarm. But I am going to get an alarm clock so mine can be downstairs at night.

DD aged 13 has her phone removed at half 8 and parental controls switch it off at 9 anyway. I truly believe phones mess with sleep. I don't just mean by them being on them all night, but just by being on them until so close to bed time.

No phones after 9 here for 13yr old. 11 year old doesn't have phone uet. No tech in rooms or after bedtime.

Ds1 says he is the only person in the world not allowed to play 16 or 18 rates games. He is 13.

15 year old DS leaves his outside his room and it goes downstairs when we all go to bed.

There's no way he's having his phone in his room overnight, there's absolutely no reason on this earth he needs it overnight and he understands and respects the rules.

No phones in rooms at night during the week for ds's here (16 and 14), but they are allowed them at weekends and holidays.

No phone after 8 here

No phone after 8.30 here for 14 year old ds.
It stays in the kitchen all night along with the Xbox controller. He has quite an addictive personality and would stay on it all night.

Apparently that makes me the worst parent in the world and I’m ruining his life! Oh well.

My son has his 24 hours. I believe in teaching self control. Seems to be working so far. Age 12 and goes to bed when told and never on it whennita bed time. He uses it as an alarm clock. Each to their own.

Nope!

No phones at bed time.

Apparently I'm the only mum in the world that does this as well. I believe it in part because his friends carry on messaging him at 10.30-11pm when he's fast asleep!

Parental controls mean DS12 phone is off between 9pm and 7am. I'm tempted to make it earlier reading this.
He's also not allowed on the xbox after 7.30pm or before school.
He says he's the only one of his friends to have to come off it so early

My son has his 24 hours. I believe in teaching self control.

Self control. And all the porn he wants. And he the fucked up videos he wants. And alllllllllllllll the other inappropriate stuff he could be doing.

Please tell me he doesn't have access to the internet during this time?

And no, parental bars don't work totally. They work minimally in my experience.

Three teens here. None have their phones at night.

Ds(14) is off xbox and phone at least 1 hour 15 mins before bedtime on a school night. He is allowed on my tablet for 10 mins to do daily French Duolingo and then kindle paperwhite for 30-40 mins of bedtime reading.

I sometimes glance at his unopened phone notifications in the morning and can see friends snap chatting at 1-2am. No idea how they concentrate in school the next day!!!!

I’ve had literally this —row— discussion this evening.

Going against the grain here but I've never policed phone use and both DC seem to be doing fine or did fine at school. On silent most of the time in the evening.

They're used as an alarm clock and would be vital in an emergency - fire or break in.

MN is so contradictory sometimes. Mid / late teens aren't adults but they're not babies either. I don't police them doing their homework as at 14 or 15 they need to take responsibility and understand that they're doing things for themselves not me. Same with phone use. If they're tired in the morning then they know what they need to do. Hence phone is on the bedside table but face down when it's time to sleep.