Delivery driver just had a dump at my house!

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AIBU? I've just had some furniture delivered and the first thing the guy said was, 'Can I use your loo?' I didn't want him to but felt that I couldn't refuse so I reluctantly said yes. He was in there for ages. He's had a smelly dump. It fucking stinks. I could have cried. He then bought the furniture in and I've just had to go and clean the toilet. I'm disgusted.

Can’t speak for you but I know my DC’s friends so not really an issue.

However, I’ve always found that visitors to my home haven’t usually come round just to take a dump, they’ve come to visit us, so it’s really never been an issue and not had anyone need to have a massive clear out within minutes of walking in my front door!

Clearly overnight guests are a different matter but then you’d usually expect that you know them don’t you?

Can’t speak for you but I know my DC’s friends so not really an issue.

Well DS can bring his friends over any time he likes but because he's now 16 I can honestly say that I have not met them all but they are welcome here. I may even be out at the time.

If during the course of their visit they needed the loo then they are most welcome whether I know them or not. They are my son's friends after all.

Sparkling. Perhaps I’m just fortunate that my DC always introduce their friends to us so we know them all.

I also think it’s different because clearly these are people who are going to be around us as a family and in our home regularly so they’re all really respectful as they know they’ll be coming back! I’m never going to see that delivery driver or the guy who reads my meter again.

Gets trickier as they get older I find. Can't keep track of all the friends that come and go.
And I am not always in to keep a check on toilet proceedings as it were.

Mine are 15 and 17 and still always introduce the people they bring home to us, I think that’s polite.

As I said, these are friends so whilst I might have only met them once or twice initially my DC know them well. Therefore as far as I’m concerned they don’t fall into the ‘strangers’ category like delivery drivers etc who are people who come to my house once and I never see them again.

If I am in or still up I will say a quick hi but that's it. No formal introductions as such. I may well never see them again TBH.

By the way how's your ds1 getting on now Sparkling ?

Thanks for asking Portia but really good thanks. Settled into his house share and second year. Seems to have recovered from Glandular Fever really well. I miss him though!

will someone tell me if the op has eaten yet!

Ah that's good, dd has also settled into 2nd year and has a flat share with her bf so she's loved up atm.
I miss her too as on my own but she's doing well and that's what I hoped for

Glad to hear that Portia, it's real mixed emotions isn't it? it's what you want them to do!

Yes Sparkling youre right there, here's hoping they all do well and maybe come home once in a while

to that.

I'm still waiting to hear how the op can handle kitten shit but not a loo brush...

@SandAndSea I agree with your post. I always ask delivery drivers if they need to use the toilet or if they would like a drink. My partner drives up to 500 miles a day, rarely gets offered a drink and gets highly embarrassed if he needs to use a customer's toilet. A little kindness and empathy goes a long way.

Dove because that's what polite, kind, normal people do.
As supposed to the hysterics on here who have an attack of the vapours because a tradesman shock horror has had the audacity to use their precious facility
All you smug bastards with superior bowel control, you do realise that you're just one diagnosis away from losing that? You may end up needing the toilet urgently, you may be the one who's stoma bag is about to burst. How about a little empathy - you never know when you may need it in the future

I'm still waiting to hear how the op can handle kitten shit but not a loo brush

Me too. I foster rescue kittens so have a never ending houseful of kittens. Which is absolutely adorable, but my god, their shit stinks worse than any human excrement I've ever smelled.

And you are posting because????

@MotherofDinosaurs Toilet paper breaks up in water, so that wouldn't work. You sound disgusting if you are seriously suggesting someone put their hand in in the bowl. Absolutely disgusting.

SalemBlackCat4 lol why the aggression! Since you've been so forthright I just want to respond on a couple of points:

1. I wasn't specifically advocating going below the water line, more referring to skidmarks down the side

1. Don't you wipe the poo off your bum with your hand wrapped in loo paper? And wash your hands after? MASSIVE LOGIC FAIL

Ooh, also, dealing with one's own poo is considerably less traumatic than dealing with strangers' poo so the delivery driver should have dealt with it by any means necessary. Disgusting or not.

Ooh, also, dealing with one's own poo is considerably less traumatic than dealing with strangers' poo

Traumatic? You use that word for dealing with poo?
Blimey, nurses and care workers must suffer a lot of PTSD!
So many bloody precious people on this thread! No wonder the elderly and sick get so ashamed when they need personal care when grown women can't deal with a bloody skid mark!

bacteria grow best in warm, damp conditions so it’s not surprising then that ANY bacteria on that loo brush will flourish in between uses Again - SO WHAT? There are bacteria on your loo brush? That is solely used for cleaning the loo? So what?

Unless you eat off the loo surfaces, those bacteria are not going to jump off the loo brush into your mouth.

And 'wiping the 'germs' around the loo with your germ-encrusted loo brush' - maybe a quick squirt of bleach round the loo would help that? If you absolutely have to be 'germ-free'. (Not possible, BTW)

Those without a loo brush - how do you clean the limescale off under the waterline? Doesn't matter how much toilet cleaner I use, the water is hard here and the bowl collects limescale. I need a brush to scrub it off.

And as Kim and Aggie say about loo brushes - buy cheap, replace often.

Cant be arsed to read 36 pages of this...but the op really needs to get a grip and her husband sounds even worse...what a pair of twats.....lets hope neither of them need help or a favour from someone in the future.

Traumatic? You use that word for dealing with poo?
Blimey, nurses and care workers must suffer a lot of PTSD!
So many bloody precious people on this thread! No wonder the elderly and sick get so ashamed when they need personal care when grown women can't deal with a bloody skid mark!*

Hallo Limensoda. I should probably just clarify that I was using the word traumatic fairly lightheartedly. If you read my earlier post you will see I'm not that squeamish about dealing with poo. You people do love to extrapolate don't you!!!

I should probably just clarify that I was using the word traumatic fairly lightheartedly. If you read my earlier post you will see I'm not that squeamish about dealing with poo. You people do love to extrapolate don't you!!!

Fair enough, but next time perhaps give a clue because who would know? I can't be expected to seek out all your other posts amongst so many so I can make an assessment of how serious you are. So, not extrapolation, just going on what you said.