As the title says. Exh hasn't paid any sort of child support for our 2 dc for nearly 3 years. 'Officially' citing depression and anxiety as reason for giving up work.
I would like to point out that I'm a mh professional and in no way dispute the severity of mh issues.
It is common knowledge however, among his family, I'm still close with because of dc, and remaining mutual friends that this is false and it is a method to retain maximum money for his current wife and their 3 dc. His staying at home allows her to work full time with zero childcare costs
Obviously (and rightly) I'm not entitled to nor do I expect any maintenance to come from her wages.
My dh and I manage, I work pt and am at the end of my degree so hopefully my income will increase soon, he works ft.
We do manage but struggle to keep our heads above water at times, at the moment it's especially difficult as the car spectacularly failed it's mot and we just don't have the money to fix it.
Back to my original point. Exh and I have a fractious relationship, he often chooses to ignore his responsibilities to our dc, so I have always facilitated the relationship, ie, the dc go see him/stay with him as often as they wish, he is wheats made aware when there is a parents evening, sports day etc.
Recently exh called and told me he was due an insurance payout from an accident and that he'd like to use some of it to make up for the maintenance payments he's missed. I thought great that would be really helpful. Except now it's been a month, they've booked a holiday, excluding my dc, and I was being unreasonable and entitled to be expecting anything!!
I did not start the convo with exh, I wouldn't have known about it had he not told me and offered!
I know I'm just ranting and this doesn't make a whole heap of sense it's just really frustrating.