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to not wear makeup to work?

477 replies

TheSunflower · 31/10/2018 06:15

I am starting a graduate job in January. I don't normally wear makeup. Am I sabotaging myself if I do not wear makeup?

Or should I wear makeup?

It is a corporate job.

OP posts:
Blendingrock · 01/11/2018 19:58

I've gone through phases wearing it, not wearing it... currently don't bother. From my experience, makeup is one of those weird things. If you normally wear it, then don't, people assume you are sick because you look "washed out and tired". If you don't normally wear makeup and then do, you get asked if you are going to a job interview or have a hot date!

Yes it's a corporate world and a new job, but presumably they hired you for your skills, personality, work ethic, drive etc NOT because you do or don't wear makeup.

Bottom line, no matter what you do, you're never going to please everyone, so don't try. Do what feels comfortable for YOU Smile

Frazzledstar1 · 01/11/2018 20:00

No need to if you’re happy without it. As long as you look presentable it doesn’t matter. I wear it to work in an office but that’s because I look rough as a badgers arse without it sadly lol

Topseyt · 01/11/2018 20:03

I never wear make-up. Can't be arsed.

fatimashortbread · 01/11/2018 20:04

Finance director- I don’t wear makeup to work and wouldn’t think less of anyone who doesn’t. Be smartly dressed, clean and not smelly. High heels are also optional

PlainVanilla · 01/11/2018 20:08

I am now 60, very senior, I have never worn make up on a regular basis. Do what you want.

Rayn · 01/11/2018 20:11

I can take it or leave it. Most days don't bother.

However, I remember in my younger days working in a bar I used to wear red lipstick, kohl black eyeliner!! It was the fashion honest.
However I went into work one day to pick up my wage -makeup free and loads of regulars and staff said how much better I looked without it. !
It does not suit everyone! These days I can't be bothered but I do look at others who wear makeup and apply it well. There I think I should do it but I can't be bothered! 

geelondon · 01/11/2018 20:12

I wore makeup for my first 4 years then stopped, haven't noticed being treated any differently

jessebuni · 01/11/2018 20:14

It’s totally up to you. I very rarely wear make up but if I had really dark circles one day or a break out then I would probably put a little on to look a bit better but for every day no I wouldn’t unless I worked with make up which then obviously it’s a no brainer. If wearing it makes you feel more confident and professional then wear it as it will benefit you to be more confident but if it makes you uncomfortable then don’t wear it as anything that makes you less confident and comfortable that is avoidable could just make your job harder. It’s the same as the argument for high heels in the work place, if you feel confident in them great they’ll look awesome and so will you bit if you can’t walk in them and they hurt like hell people can tell you’re uncomfortable which doesn’t look good.

The only requirements for corporate type jobs should be that employees are A: capable of the job B: appropriately and tidily dressed C: clean and groomed with decent personal hygiene and D: act according to the work environment eg not swearing around customers/clients being polite to managers and colleagues etc.

puzzledlady · 01/11/2018 20:18

Most men don’t use make up 🤷🏻‍♀️ So I’m not sure the argument ‘would a man have to use make up to look professional’ is a good one.

I have a corporate job and I use make up - because I like it, you don’t have to if you don’t like it. I use it Becasue I think I look nicer with make up on - I look very pale without and I have scars that I want to cover up. OP - do what feels comfortable for you.

Nearly47 · 01/11/2018 20:20

Yes I don't mind women wearing makeup. I mind people "having " to wear it. I like to wear in a special occasion. I disagree that is good for your skin. It clogs the pores and most of it is full of chemicals. Also I'd hate to feel naked without it as hear some friends say. I like my old naked face Smile

toxic44 · 01/11/2018 20:22

IamtheMistressofmyFate Why did we start calling rouge blusher? Terms change, or are changed by manufacturers, so that something sounds modern. Silly, isn't it?

SilentIsla · 01/11/2018 20:29

Gabilan

You wanted to be a boy? You've lost me here. Is this your way of saying you're transgender?

Oh dear. You are letting yourself down, frankly.

SilentIsla · 01/11/2018 20:31

It is possible to “look after your health” and wear makeup, also. Amazing.

Iseveryusernametaken · 01/11/2018 20:36

I always wear make-up because without it I look either ill or 12. It's a personal preference though and not mandatory. My last 2 Directors didn't wear a scrap and never wore heels, certainly hasn't affected them and tbh I'm a bit jealous.

Pebblesandfriends · 01/11/2018 20:38

I wear it or not dependent on my mood. It's never made a difference. Nor should it. If a company makes you feel like you have to wear it, then it's not a place I would want to work.

Ihaventgottimeforthis · 01/11/2018 20:48

Tweez it probably is a bit harsh; I don’t mean the women themselves who rely on cosmetics for their self-esteem are sad or odd in themselves, I guess I’m sad we’ve created this society where many women lack the self-confidence to feel good about themselves without make-up, and where other people consider women who don’t wear make up to be ugly, rough, lazy, inconsiderate, dowdy, unprofessional, rude, sickly & incapable. All things I’ve seen on this thread.
I hate the thought that we’re not doing more to counter this narrative. To me it’s all tied up with the focus on women only being worthwhile if they’re attractive. Which is so so damaging to girls & young women, that a quarter of girls are self-harming.
Our self worth, confidence & esteem should not be tied up to how pretty we look; we should all feel able to leave the house without makeup without worrying what other people will think.
If I was feeling really harsh I’d say people who can’t feel good about themselves without the help of cosmetics could probably benefit from some therapy around self esteem.

SilentIsla · 01/11/2018 20:49

Wearing makeup is pleasing. No one needs your pity.

Mummadeeze · 01/11/2018 20:50

Your new employers will care about your consciousness, your ability to be pro-active, how you fit into the team, how you manage your workload etc etc. I really doubt they will care about whether you wear make up or not. Possibly if you are cabin crew or a night club hostess. For an office job I can’t imagine for one minute that it matters.

Ihaventgottimeforthis · 01/11/2018 20:50

I pity a woman who lacks the confidence to leave the house without it.

Mummadeeze · 01/11/2018 20:51

*Conscientiousness

BelindasRedPlasticHandcuffs · 01/11/2018 20:54

I wore make up to a contract negotiation meeting today (I work in law). I was the most junior in the room. The other four women (three very senior female lawyers and a company director) didn't have a scrap of make up on. They looked professional, smart, and were bloody impressive at what they do. Wearing makeup wouldn't have made a jot of difference to how professional they looked. The men weren't wearing make up either funnily enough.

pteradactyl · 01/11/2018 20:59

I very rarely wear makeup. Id probably look better without it but I'd rather the extra time in bed tbh. Plus I find if you wear it every day then dont, people think you look awful. If you rarely wear it but make the effort now and then, you look 'normal' whatever.

OnlyAmy · 01/11/2018 21:11

Never have, never will, can't imagine why some people want to.

SilentIsla · 01/11/2018 21:12

I could leave the house without it. However, I choose not to.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 01/11/2018 21:20

OnlyAmy,what can’t you imagine?applying make is normative in our culture
and many want do it. It adds to self esteem,it’s fun to do,it enhances features if applied correctly
Same as folk want to shower,condition hair,wear perfume. They want that effect