Husbands response to pregnancy/baby, AIBU?

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He is a very good husband in the sense that he is trustworthy, reliable, kind, lovely. Very hands on dad.
BUT
Our son is 3 months old now and it has suddenly hit me that I'm really upset by how he reacted when I told him I was pregnant and when the baby first arrived.

We were trying for a baby, I ran into our room and said "I'm pregnant!" Really excitedly and he said "oh ok, good" and went back to sleep...

Then the baby was born by emergency caesarean after 32 hours of contractions (starting mild then very strong and regular by the end) and was ok about it but not exactly outwardly over the moon.

Maybe I've watched too many romcoms but I thought he would be really happy? I thought he would say he's proud of me? I'm really sad he hasn't got me a present or even written a small note to say he appreciates the effort I put in. I've even mentioned to him that it's nice to get your wife a gift after having a baby :'-( I don't want anything expensive but something would be nice :-(

AIBU? Am I naive?!

I think OP just wants to feel valued here.

Both times I was pregnant my husband accused me of cheating. Ludicrous, knee jerk reaction to the shock of becoming a father. He denied it twice. It was categorically untrue and impossible. But it sure did give me an insight in to who my husband is. And spoiled something I felt was important.

You don't get the romantic picture perfect fairy tale. Not often, anyway.

I expect you just want to feel appreciated OP, rather than a ludicrous 'push present'. Wanting to feel cherished isn't unreasonable. But if he is a good father and husband, count those blessings. Talk to him.

Both times I was pregnant my husband accused me of cheating. Ludicrous, knee jerk reaction to the shock of becoming a father

Given his reaction the first time, why did you go on to have a second baby with him?

Because people are human and make errors in judgement. They also redeem themselves. You can choose to be happy just as much as you can know you are right.

I also get to mock him for the rest of his life. 🤷‍♀️

I don’t think you’re expecting much at all