To go on Jeremy Kyle to meet my siblings?

[Konoha]

I'm seriously considering it!

I have an older half-brother, and a younger half-sister that I've never met. My dad died when I was four, and all my family member's 'can't remember' anything to do with him or my siblings. I've tried the internet and Salvation Army, but not come up with much; it doesn't help that the details I DO have about him are different on each document. All I have is his name (which is spelt differently depending who I ask!) And they date of his death.
He was murdered 31 years ago and all I have is one picture, dubious information about him, and two siblings whose names I don't even know :( I've spent the last decade trying to find SOMETHING.

aibu unreasonable t o be desperate enough to go on Jezza? :(

• arrrgh, he died 27 years ago; I'm 31 now.

If you've got the money, hire a private investigator.

Or a private genealogist

Mormon Church are known for funding lost family members. Strangely. Do it for free too I believe.

Try the 'Long Lost Family' tv programme?

I’d try Long Lost Family first! A much lovelier show.

Do one of those ancestry DNA kits. I did one with MyHeritage and alongside telling me my heritage (in terms of geography) it also came up with 5000 relatives! Most of them are very distant cousins (it tells you your relationship with that person - brother, 1st cousin, 3rd cousin, distant etc) but one very close relative popped into the system. And I know him IRL and it got the relationship right so I can verify that it's 'real'. For some reason, some people discount these things but honestly, it's been a great and verifiable experience for me.

It's worth a go to see if anybody comes up as a close relative.

Yes, the Davina programme is much more ethical than Jeremy Kyle!

The long lost one l
Is less naff. But no yanbu. Do what you have too, i hope you find them op.

Not trying to be funny, OP, but if I was contacted to say a long-lost half-sister had tracked me down and wanted to meet via the Jeremy Vile show, I’d think they’re the kind of person I wouldn’t want to be associated with.

Wonton has a point there

Long lost family, rather than Jeremy Kyle. A nicer show who are interested in helping rather than exploiting.

@Konoha are you ready for whatever may happen after that?

I Ask from experience - I met father at 17. I then traced my older half sibling at 25.

What are your expectations from meeting them? Are you ready for it to go either way? you may have a long lasting relationship or it could be over after the cameras are off.

I wouldn't do Jeremy Kyle. As above Long Lost family is much, much better.

I'd never heard of Long Lost Family.
with the Ancestry/Dna thing, does that only link you to other relatives considering they've done it too?
I'm not trying to meet them due to some ulterior motive. I just want to meet them or at least know something about them bec ause theyr e my brother and sister! Im married and I have kids, and my little family are everyt ing to me. Buuut, I do often wonder about my 'other' relatives.I have no one else other than my husband and kids (I 'm not try ing to sound ungrateful).

It would be a lot more private going via detective rather than TV show, however both shows offer you and them counselling and help in dealing with the newly found family.

Two family members you have never met is not the kind of thing Jeremy Vile would be interested in. After all, you are not going to fight or shout at the top of your voice.

Contact Long Lost Family, not Jeremy Kyle unless you enjoy being part of an undignified spectacle akin to gladiatorial combat

Long Lost Family is a lovely show. Much nicer. Apply to them.

www.walltowall.co.uk/casting/long-lost-family_3.aspx#

confusedmomm I actually managed to speak to someone who worked with my dad. He said he 'could probably ' help me find out where abouts my sister is. I got my hopes up, and never heard from him again lmao. The bar is set very low; I'd be happy with names.
If any information on my dad cam e up along the way, that'd be good too.

Genealogy isn't hugely expensive in my experience. I wanted to know details of my grandmother, I didn't even know her name and my mum (dead) was born in Canada etc. I'd been trying to find out for myself for years and got nowhere. A genealogist found out loads of stuff very quickly, including finding out where my gran died and what from and family pictures, and it cost me I think only 100 dollars (the genealogist was in Canada - I'm in UK). Honestly they just know how to do this stuff.

Ok, I dont think I'll bother with JK then

@Konoha if it's about finding them and just completing another side of yourself then do it.
Please please please keep your expectations low, as you may build a fantastic relationship when you find each other, but equally they may not want to go down that route or may not be who you'd have wanted them to be.
Better be positively surprised than be hurt.

Can you share the details you do have?
There was a lovely thread years ago where MNers managed to track down a poster's mystery father.

Does the Salvation Army still help to trace people or is it mainly finding people who have run away (for example) Worth asking them.

If you want a TV programme to help then definitely the Long Lost Family over Jeremy Kyle.

Have you tried searching death/birth certificates? I assume you’ve tried Google for crime reports?