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...to leave my child behind?

59 replies

Picklepickle123 · 30/10/2018 19:17

My friend has recently moved abroad and has kindly offered me to come and stay. There are some pretty cheap tickets going in January, and I'd be away for five days.

AIBU to thinking DH and MIL can manage a 18 month old by themselves for this period of time? Or is he too young?

He sees MIL once or twice a month and loves her (prefers her to me most of the time). DH is very hands on but has always struggled to settle him at night time especially when DS has been teething/ill.

I could take DS with me but that feels like more work than it's worth and I really feel like I deserve a holiday. But also feeling a lot of mum guilt that maybe he's too young?

OP posts:
Redtartanshoes · 30/10/2018 19:19

Go. Enjoy. They’ll be fine and your son will never remember

MrsStrowman · 30/10/2018 19:20

It's five days, he'll be with his father, book it!!!

Hubblebubbletripletrouble · 30/10/2018 19:21

Definitely go!!

confusedmomm · 30/10/2018 19:29

Yes, go!!!

beyondthesky · 30/10/2018 19:31

Another one echoing 'Go' and have a great time

Levithecat · 30/10/2018 19:34

God yes.

BlaaBlaaBlaa · 30/10/2018 19:35

Go. He'll be absolutely fine.

ineedadvicepleases · 30/10/2018 19:38

Not young at all, definitely go

Pigeonpresent · 30/10/2018 19:39

Go!

DC2018 · 30/10/2018 19:41

Definitely go. It will be nice for him to spend some quality time with his dad and you deserve a break

Leobynature · 30/10/2018 19:41

I’m sure between MIL and DH all his needs will be et. Most likely MIL will spoil him and he will bond with Daddy. Go relax mamma

SleepingStandingUp · 30/10/2018 19:43

As long as you and DH are happy, book it! DS will be fine with his Dad, the fact that he'll have Nanny on top even more so.

SloeBerri · 30/10/2018 19:43

Well it’s certainly something I’ve never done with any of mine...

Because I’ve never had the chance!!! Go... live!

DailyMailFuckRightOff · 30/10/2018 19:44

Go!

Racecardriver · 30/10/2018 19:45

Provided that he isn’t breastfeeding I don’t see why it would he’s ptobkem.

Bringonspring · 30/10/2018 19:46

Gooooooo!!!

tillytrotter1 · 30/10/2018 19:47

I am very sorry to tell you but this will work out very well, you'll learn just how unindispensible you are! Why on earth should your OH not be capable of looking after a child for 18 months? My daughter was most upset when her child wasn't remotely upset at being left with us for a few days!

MyBrexitIsIll · 30/10/2018 19:52

Go.
And your DH will have the opportunity to learn he is totally capable of settling his child, look after him in his own etc....
Oh and of course, you will also have learnt that he can indeed do that all in his own so yu will be able to take a step back and remind him he can.

Can I ask, why is your MIL been involved in it??

Thebluedog · 30/10/2018 19:53

Go

ACatsNoHelpWithThat · 30/10/2018 19:54

YANBU, go!

TulipsInBloom1 · 30/10/2018 19:56

Dh would be offended that I suggested he need help, wave me off and handle it all for as long as necessary.

Go!

Rogueone · 30/10/2018 19:57

18 mths is a perfect age for you to head off. We went away for a long weekend to Venice when our DD was 1. She was spoilt by the grandparents and we had a great weekend. Enjoy!

VladmirsPoutine · 30/10/2018 20:03

Mark it on the calendar!!!

Angelil · 30/10/2018 20:17

Definitely do it! Enjoy :)

MaryShelley1818 · 30/10/2018 20:18

Definitely go and enjoy!!
I left DS with his Daddy in May to go to Spain for 4 days. I was breastfeeding and we all survived just fine :)