...to leave my child behind?

[Picklepickle123]

My friend has recently moved abroad and has kindly offered me to come and stay. There are some pretty cheap tickets going in January, and I'd be away for five days.

AIBU to thinking DH and MIL can manage a 18 month old by themselves for this period of time? Or is he too young?

He sees MIL once or twice a month and loves her (prefers her to me most of the time). DH is very hands on but has always struggled to settle him at night time especially when DS has been teething/ill.

I could take DS with me but that feels like more work than it's worth and I really feel like I deserve a holiday. But also feeling a lot of mum guilt that maybe he's too young?

i;ve been on intensive training courses, and worked away for months at a time, my DC have been fine, we video called, facebook messenger and whatsapp was great

Seriously - you and dc and family will be FINE!!!!!!

I know, in most cases kids are absolutely fine. But the OP asked for opinions and I gave mine.

No no no how could you leave your child with their father and his mother for 5 days. Won’t someone think of the children!

The 3 of them are likely to have more fun than you on your holiday!

I also don’t understand why people wouldn’t leave their child with their father for 5 days.

kitsandkids perhaps your DM informed you of your poor traumatic DB when she got worried you were planning to ask her to look after your DC for a few days....

Ha ha, no, I was told often during my childhood! But yes, I think my brother was more traumatised by my arrival than my mother’s leaving. I think he’s just about forgiven me now though!

Earth mother personified I am not.

But I couldn’t bear to be away from mine for that length of time when they were little. I just missed them too much.

And my eldest did get very upset when I went for 2 nights. First night: fine. Secjnd night, distraught. I think because he had had the experience that morning of me not being there in the morning.

Enjoy!

I’ll be leaving my son who’ll be 9 months old for 3 days next year so I can go to a beer festival back home. I’ll enjoy it despite missing him, but I’m sure I’ll be a more relaxed, balanced person when I get home.

I strongly believe in putting yourself first on occasion, as long as your child is well looked after.

If dad is capable and mil up for helping why would you not have a little break. Enjoy ...be up for giving your dh a similar break at some time if he wants one ...and bring all 3 a little present back.

@kits but you implied you brother's issues were because his mother had left him for 5 nights when the reality was the it was more to do with the arrival of a sibling. That was a little disingenuous.

I can't imagine we'd be having this conversation about a dad going away for 5 days......